Im the youngest of 3 kids and my parents still treat me like im about 15. I have a boyfriend and im not allowed to spend the night with him and my parents dont want me coming home too late and stuff like that. Ive told them im 18 almost 19 and im an adult they just wont let go though. How do i get them to let me do what i want?
2006-09-19 03:31:34 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
And ive never got into any trouble or anything.
2006-09-19 03:32:08 · update #1
Well why in the hell didnt i think about moving out?! I DID. Im going to collegee full time right now and no where around here pays more than $5.15 per hr for a partime job can move out with that,
2006-09-19 03:36:13 · update #2
Parents are always afraid of losing control-especially towards the last child-I know this from experience myself. Maybe if you let them take an active role in another part of your life they will realize that you will never leave them and you will always be part of their life and them yours. After doing this they might ease up a bit. If by the time your 19 they don't then you will need to tell them that it is time to shape your own life and learn from your own decisions. If they ask you to leave, than when you do you'll be free.
2006-09-19 03:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by RACHAEL R 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you want to be treated like a adult then act like one. Try acting like adult and maybe they will ease the rules but don't count on spending the night with the boyfriend, that usually involves being in front of a preacher saying ( I DO ) prior to spending the night. Just think i believe your father is like i am there is no one good enough for his daughter. Remember in your fathers eyes the only thing the boys out ther the only they think is they want to get you in bed and put a notch on the bedpost. Try looking from his point of view. I am sure he wants the best for you.
2006-09-19 04:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by Medic 21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Demonstrate that you are responsible by doing what you say you will do.
Then refer to that and let them know that you would like to determine the time that you come home but you will be considerate of them and let them know where you are and when you will be back.
Be honest with them. If you were truly an adult, you would be self-supporting. My dad used to say that I was on the cusp of maturity! Since the circumstance is such that you cannot do that and be in school full time, you need to accept that they have limitations with what they feel comfortable. If you become a woman of your word - no whining or childlike tantrums - they are more likely to trust your judgment.
Give up on the overnights with your beau. Many parents of even older, living together, couples cannot let it happen "under their roof".
Good Luck
2006-09-19 03:43:18 · answer #3 · answered by anirbas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are 18 and not fully 19. your parents want the best for you. if you spend the night with your "boyfriend" they will think of you as a slut.. How long have you been with this guy? If this is some serious relationship, then prove to your parents that you are responsible. I understand that you are going to college and everything, but your parents want the best for you and right now is not the time to mess up your life. Do you want kiids? i dont think that kids are in your schedule now and your parents are worried that you may get pregnant, they dont want their last baby to leave them... just think about it. Put yourself in their shoes.
2006-09-19 03:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what would they do if you didnt come home all night? Would they kick you out? Then you could go live with your b/f and play house all you want. I wish i could relate my entire family moved out on me by the time i was 16 and i didnt have any rules, so actually you should feel really lucky to have parents that want to protect you and you will be on your own in a few years anyway, enjoy your parents while you have them and if ya really wanna have sex with your b/f you dont have to spend the night with him to do that.
2006-09-19 03:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by RHONDA P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By landing a good paying job and moving into your own place. Hey...those are the breaks! Wanna live at home? Then be treated like a kid. Want to be an adult? Move out. Good luck.
2006-09-19 03:35:11 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please just listen to your mama and daddy. You may think why can't I do what I want. Are they helping for your college. i have 2 daughters who thought they were grown. Wishes now they would have listened. The oldest is 21 and has a 3 year old. The other one is 18 and stays with a friend and her mama. Life at home alot of times is awhole lot better. I am 39 and think alot of times I should have listened to my mama and daddy I wouldn't have went through some of the things I did. Life is good now
2006-09-19 04:10:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what we parents call incentive for you to take control of your own life. Many 18 year olds are away at college or working full time and saving enough money to get out from under their parents control. Make a realistic plan for your personal situation, discuss it with your parents and listen to their advice. If you display some maturity and responsibility, perhaps they will loosen their grip.
2006-09-19 03:42:51 · answer #8 · answered by lunatic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They love you are you are still a teenager so they are not just going to turn you loose. There is no way I would let my teenager spend the night with her boyfriend. What responsible parent would? You live under their roof, probably for free, get free food, insurance, etc. You do not realize how much they are doing for you by providing for you and loving you enough not to let you do things they know are not good for you. You will understand someday.
2006-09-19 03:35:52 · answer #9 · answered by Robin N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when I was 20 I still had to be home by 10pm! I never smoked, drank, or got into trouble, so I didn't understand why my parents never trusted me. But I am their oldest, and they have definitely lightened up with the younger ones now. Sucks to have been me!
PS - I moved out on my own when I was 20!
2006-09-19 03:34:35 · answer #10 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋