I feel like I'm so alone.?

Question

I feel like no one can give me the answers i need,I have a son who is bipolar/schizophrenia, don't get me wrong i love my son but there are days I feel like I could walk away and never look back. He has been seening a doctor for his illness and he is on meds it just don't seem to be doing any good.He was haveing problems in school so know they have him at home school.He does not listen,he cusses,he picks at his sister all the time, if he gets mad are don't get his way he will slap himself he used to hit his head at the wall,he will hit the wall.It seems to me the more he likes pain the more hits. He has hit the right side of his face so much that he can not feel any pain on that side at all.He has been on so much meds I don't know what to do. Right know he is own geodon,zyperza and koloipen.I need some answers on some kind of help.

Answer 1

Sarah....you got some really good answers when you asked this an hour ago. So I am thinking--it's not that you aren't getting the answers you NEED you aren't getting the answers you WANT. Big difference. Talk to your son's doctor about other options or get another opinion. Join a support group for yourself with parents who have and are going through the same issues and they can tell you how they handled it and what worked for them. But you actually have to do these things. Someone mentioned asperger syndrome--has he been checked for that?

Answer 2

OK get a good diagnosis. A person can't be bipolar and schizophrenic. Sound like you need a better doctor. It sounds as if you need help too though. Look up your local chapter of NAMI. The National Alliance for the Mentally Ill. They have all sorts of support groups for family and the ill person themselves. Another thing you have to think of is the health and safety of your daughter. If he is as much a problem as you indicate, you might and this is a serious step think about seeking hospitalization for him. Mental illness really presents it self differently in children and adolescence. You didn't mention the age of you child. Depending on your finances look specifically for a child psychologist. He has to get a straight diagnosis before you can put him on meds. Just from what you mentioned he is not on the right meds for bipolar but rather schizophrenia. If finance's are a problem look for the local Mental health authority and get him in a Childhood program.

Answer 3

How long has it been since his medications have been adjusted? They don't sound like they're working or at least not as well as they could be. I'm not trying to sound callous or hard. I know you love your son, but have you talked to anyone about having him put in a home where they treat people with his illness? Or maybe he needs a little time in a hospital where they can observe him and get his meds straightened out and make sure he's doing well before he comes home. I know you don't want to feel like you're giving up on your son, but you also need to think about the quality of life your daughter is having and yourself also. The perfect solution would be if he could get his med dosage corrected in a hospital as well as receive counseling and come home. If that doesn't work though, a group home may be the answer, not just for you and your daughter, but for him also. He can't be happy living this way. It must be confusing and painful emotionally for him as well. I hope you find a way for you all to be happy and live well. You can't do it alone though, you need to talk to his doctor and possibly counselors. Maybe even the Dept. of Children and Families could steer you in the right direction. There's help out there somewhere, you just have to find it. If these suggestions don't work, ask a pastor if he has any one to refer you to. Someone out there has an answer for you.

Here's a link to an online book to help people with family members who have schizophrenia.

http://www.mentalhealth.com/book/p40-sc01.html

Answer 4

I am so sorry that you are going through this. This is a tough, challenging job. I bet you are an amazing mom and I bet you are not going to counseling yourself, I would make sure to take care of your emotional needs as well so you can better handle situations that arise. Also make sure your daughter is not in danger for long term trauma, things effect little ones more than they do us, lets not have two people suffering from one persons depression (including you, three people)... Set serious boundaries with him, your still the one in charge- not his disorder. The person who answered is right there are alot of options but none of them will find you. Once you do some leg work the universe will provide more answers- there is a reason you have this challenge before you. Good Luck

Answer 5

I'm on the kid side, not the mom side, but I could tell when my parents were tired. I never doubted that they loved me, though. If you just don't have the right tools to help him, do what my parents did. They never abandoned me or gave me up, they just sent me to live at places where there was "professional help". Sometimes parents just get tired, and as I got older I understood that. He could be there for a couple months or maybe a little longer. This way you get the break you need, and he also learns how to help himself. IMPORTANT: this place should be a treatment center designed on teaching him to help himself, and offer aid for the parents. Don't send him to a place just so he can be babysat. do your research, pray to God, and realize you had your son for a reason. Do whatever you can to help him. Good Luck, and I'll pray for you. As far as the alone part, there are support groups. My mom went to "mom's groups", but now she doesn't need them, because you wouldn't belive the turn around i did! :)

Answer 6

Hey there well i remember reading your first post...but i really didn't know what to say...I don't really know much about this illness to be honest but I've seen it a couple of times on TV. You just have to be strong, it's definitely tough but think about you son. He needs help. If you give up on him who can he depend on? Keep him away from thing that could hut him or that he could used to get hurt, and continue his medication. If he starts to act a little capricious about things just look at him in the eyes and tell him in a scary, firm tone of voice NO! If that doesn't work try ignoring him for just a little while till he calms down. I'm not sure i was of a help but thought I'd just write something.
Hopefully things will go better.
Take care.

Answer 7

What you need right now is some help not for your son, but for yourself. I know that he's your son, but sometimes, the best place for people with those illnesses is NOT with their family. It causes a level of frustration and anger that isn't going to help anyone, let alone your son.

Do some research, and find a place for him to go. A place with people who aren't emotionally involved and can offer him the care that he needs to manage his illnesses and make sure that he doesn't further hurt himself. This will also give you the time that you need to get help for yourself.

Do it, and don't feel guilty about it. You're his mother, and sometimes being a parent means stepping up and making the decisions that you don't want to make if it means that your son will get better. Good Luck.

Answer 8

This is really out of my world and I cant imagine how hard it is for you at all,.the only thing I can say is that you are not alone. you can get help, talk to his doctor about other people with teh same situation as you, I'm sure most parents dealing with this everyday feel stressed and helpless. go find out if there are others in your area that you could maybe talk to for support.
Hang in there, I know it cannot be easy but you are doing a wonderful job and God only gives us what we can handle.
God Bless and Good luck.

Answer 9

this is pretty serious and every time you get an answer you feel like it`s not enough and this is normal especially when you are hurt deeply but i`ll say just try the answers other users gave you earlier and see the results because YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN COULD A MIRACLE HAPPEN!

Answer 10

try praying to God for strength.