Age ain't nothing but a number.......or is it?

Question

There's a saying that you hear everyday.

Have you ever known anybody that has said that? They were in a reationship and it didn't work out because "She/He thinks because She/He was older than me that she/he was my Mom/Daddy". Maybe you were one. There are people in the world who need some wisdom in this area. Share your experiences. How do they know if it's the right thing to do? Meaning getting in a realtionship where there's a big age difference. Should the even bother at all?

Ladies and Gentlemen, please educate the rookies.

I'm sorry for anywords spelled wrong. I type fast.

Answer 1

I think age does matter. It may be fun and exciting at first, but the cultural gap, and the difference in how things are done, can cause huge problems. If you already have a mom or dad, why go looking for another one?

Answer 2

Everyone is different so I guess it depends on the person. I'm 20 years old & my husband is 38. He graduated high school the year I was born. My mom is 38 too, about 3 months younger than him even. My daddy died at the age of 41 last year. So they're all close in age. I hate to think of losing him so much earlier before I pass away but the thing is, if I had married someone my age, he could die sooner too. Old age isn't always the cause of death. Car accidents, disease, etc. So I try not to worry about that & instead focus on the fact that we love each other now & enjoy each other now. Hopefully, we can continue for many years to come. We do have some big differences because of our age difference. He's very conservative. I, on the other hand, wish I could dye my hair purple or something. It's a generation gap but so far we have filled it with love & respect. I don't believe age matters when it comes to love or even friendship but I think some people are just afraid. Afraid to go against the norm, afraid of losing someone so much earlier in life, afraid of different things. & maybe some just have that personality, "hey, I ain't gonna 'do it' with someone twice my age, that's gross!" I hope you find the answer you're looking for!

Answer 3

My boyfriend and I are ten years apart, I am older. Our age difference has never caused a problem in our relationship. Our 5th annivesary was in June 06. We listen to pretty much the same music, like the same movies, t.v. programs, have the same hobbies, like camping, fishing, 4 wheeling, ect. I have learned things from him, and he has learned things from me. As far as knowing if it is the "right" thing to do? Well that is simple, it is "right" for us. As long as two people find that special bond, friendship, respect, and deep love for one another, age should not be a factor. This is of course if we are talking about two adults of consenting age, which are both mature enough to be in a commited relationship. I do not think that someone that is just finishing high school (17-18yrs old) should attempt a relationship with someone in their late 20's or early 30's. The person of the younger age would not have yet had the opportunity to experience living life as an adult, and would not have the experience needed to be in an adult relationship. It isn't so much of the age that matters, but maturity that would seperate whether or not you could say "age ain't nothing but a number".

Answer 4

It greatly depends on the people involved. There's no way to know how it will work out, however, the same could be said of any other relationship, even when all other factors seem to be perfect. A couple can have problems with the age difference, sure, but they could also have problems with money, religion, children, alcohol or any one of the many other things that can cause a relationship to go sour.

As long as both people are over the age of 18, it is at worst a learning experience... at best, it could be your love of a lifetime :)

Answer 5

I've used this example before and I'll use it here.

A friend of mine was 23 and he started dating a girl that was 15. All of his friends (myself included) ridiculed him, saying that would never work. 7 years later they are still together and getting married in the summer.

Age doesn't matter, to a point. I mean 40 and 12 or 55 and 16 is pushing it but for the most part, it depends on the personalities and maturity of the two people involved. Age has little or nothing to do with the success of a relationship.

Answer 6

I am 27. There has been a guy in his 70's who has been flirting with me and would definitely jump at the chance if i offered myself up to him. However, he is like a grandpa to me and his older looks do not turn me on. It all depends on how you view the person, not always the age. Of course i'm not giving permission for anyone to be a petifilier and guys before you jump in the sack with a young one make sure you can check their I. D. Some girls will lie about their age which may cause you to end up in jail-this could happen to you ladies as well.

Answer 7

age is just a number .. not any where ..
for example, when a 60 years old marries a 20 years old .. here the age is critical ... it will be a very ignorant act, both people are from two different ages, and two different thinking, you can't just agree on that

Answer 8

this would all depend on how mature the younger one is. the older person may be looking to control- maybe not. if you have an immature "younger" and a controlling "older" - neither is ready to be in a relationship. as far as "LOVE" goes...
... Love is blind but beautiful
'' is loud but not too loud
'' taste sweet but is never shoved down your throat
'' is also timeless

.. love is all the good things and none of the bad. 'true love' that is.

Answer 9

it's matter sometimes if it's about reationship if there's big age difference , must be fair enough ,i know many old women look after young men and so men too, so in that case it's dose matter

Answer 10

oh my god , age is nothing but a number,,,if you love someone either older or younger than you , then go for it ,, its all about love
make sure that this person is over 18 ... If Demi and Ashton can do it then , then It must be the in thing...