My mother likes him and well im gay and he hurt me mentally. I tell him to leave me alone but he still gets in my head. He makes me feel bad for him. Im gay as well and he and my mother know that, but she wants me to be with a guy so im dating one just to try for her.But now that im moving on from my abusive relationship, but they wont let me. i mean at least im trying to be with a guy?I dont know what to do
2006-09-19 03:02:39 · 15 answers · asked by lisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stay away from the guy and don't take advice from your mother.
2006-09-21 05:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by Niche Jerk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand for what you want and don't let anybody else tell you other wise. Your happiness comes first no matter what. If you are different then people just has to accept that, whether they want to deal with it or not it is their thing. I suggest that you break all ties from these negative people. Move to a different location, change your telephone number. By showing everybody that you can make your own decisions and to stick with no matter what, they will learn to respect you for you and they can not deny who you are. Be strong my friend, everything will work out in the end. I promise. If you need anymore advice go to my 360.
2006-09-19 03:11:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is your ex for a reason... you know what the reasons are. who cares if your mother likes him. if she thinks that he is so good tell her to live with him.. How old are you? If you are over 18 no one i mean no one can tell you what you can do or can't do. if he is abusive to you get out now.. Do you have a job? if not get one.. Do you have your own place ? if not get one.. Grow up girl you don't have to put up with there crap.. You need to get out and start living your life the way that you want to . and if they won't leave you alone get a restraining order put on them and turn them in each time they get close to you. the more you have it on record at the police dept.. the better off you will be.. You need to get out of this relationship now.. and why you feel sorry for him i don't know. when you start to feel that way think about what he is doing to you and how bad it makes you feel.. get out girl and live your life.. just be happy for who you are. You don't need to try to be with a man for anyone.. if you are gay.. be gay. you can't change how you feel.
2006-09-19 03:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't "try" to be with a guy just to appease your mother. It's time to start standing up for yourself and what you want your life to be. If your ex is making you feel bad about yourself, limit the time you talk to him, or stop talking to him altogether if there are no children involved. Tell your mother what YOU have decided to do with your life and ask her to support you. If she does, great. If she doesn't, it doesn't matter. The important thing is for you to live the kind of life that you want, and not to allow someone else to dictate to you what you should be doing. Good luck.
2006-09-19 03:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by cynthiajean222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your parents that you prefer women and that this relationship has completely f**Ked you up.
Tell the guy to get lost, change your phone numbers etc. so he can't get in touch - even move out if you have to!
Go find yourself someone you can have a good loving relationship with - and yeah, I mean another woman - and be happy that you have control over your own destiny.
2006-09-19 03:06:36 · answer #5 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you should just back out of all your romantic relationships for a while and chill out. Take a few months of "me time". Find a new interest and dive into it! Learn to play the piano, or read some books you've been meaning to get to but don't have the time for.
The excessively high level of drama in your life just leaps out from your question. Take things down a few notches!
2006-09-19 03:05:17 · answer #6 · answered by AngiesHusband 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are old enough- move out. grow up enough to get a job and take care of your self (then you wont be under anyones thumb)
... however you do know that there is a right way and a wrong way- right? until you have recovered from your abusive relation ship there is no reason to move into another.
take it slow and work on yourself.
2006-09-19 03:08:47 · answer #7 · answered by tbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop doing things for others. It doesn't seem to be working for you obviously. The situation will only get worse and your going to be in a bad place, making it harder to ever date anyone without issues. Get out now.
2006-09-19 03:14:48 · answer #8 · answered by buldawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For heaven's sake, girl, look out for #1! Your mother can't dictate what you do and the guy doesn't have your best interests at heart. Take a break from both of them. I assume you are supporting yourself?
2006-09-19 03:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by mickeyg1958 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta supply the guy a destroy. I examine this and that i'm already having sympathy. He appears like a guy that quite loves you. ignore the undesirable split and undergo in recommendations countless the satisfied circumstances you adult men had mutually. attempt to appreciate how he feels. you should sense strong that a guy wont get over you. It shows that you're quite quite particular to him. I dont understand why u dont wanna be pals with him yet supply him a probability to seek for suggestion from from you. seek for suggestion from from him. Dont merely throw him out and ignore about him through blockading him out like that. which will encourage him to bother you more beneficial. And in case you do block him out completly there a probability that he would sense very unhappy and heart damaged and perchance he would commit suicide. (moderate probability). tell him the way you sense. tell him that its no longer gonna exercising consultation. Say it nicely and attempt to be pals with him. in any case supply the brother a destroy. His in love with you for god sake.
2016-10-16 01:21:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey you know what how bout you just hold out on the whole relationship thing and just go out and have fun find someone that you can just have fun with and not be committed. thats wht i would do bc relationships dont help me at all and when i get stressed i find something to do. later man
2006-09-19 03:09:51 · answer #11 · answered by roxy p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋