2006-09-19 02:48:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's awesome
2006-09-19 02:52:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Done properly, meaning both parties in the relationship are on the same page and doing it for the same reason (to explore sexually) then it will increase the bond of 1-on-1 intimacy. If there is coercion or manipulation by one party to get the other to do it, then there will be a huge problem in the relationship.
My wife and I have been swinging for several years now, both with couples and singles (both MFM and FMF), and our relationship is more solid now then it was when we started, and we were already very happy at that time. We are secure enough in ourselves, and comfortable enough with our relationship that sex with others is not a threat.
Relationships are not all about sex, but many think that sex IS the relationship and that if someone else comes along that is "better" in bed, then your significant other will leave you for them. What an immature idea and perspective on relationships.
Think about it. Unless both partners were virgins when they met, it would be pretty naive to think that your partner didn't have great sex before you, and you probably had great sex before them. BUT, the sex wasn't enough to keep the relationship together. In some cases it may have kept a bad relationship together for too long. Basically, your partner isn't with you because you are the best sex they've ever had. They're with you because you bring allot more to the table than great sex.
The average couple has sex two or three times a week, and at that, less than one hour each time. So you maybe spend 3 hours a week having sex and 165 more with each other in other situations. It's the 165 hours a week, not the 3, that make the relationship.
I can tell you from experience that we have a great time with others, but sex with others is not better then sex between us, it's just different. We have soul sex. Sex with others is more like a one night stand. Anyone who's had one night stands and been in love at some time will know exactly what I mean.
I hope that answered your question.
2006-09-19 18:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either is possible. If it becomes one sided, it destroys 1:1 intimacy real quick. Especially if the third is someone that one or the other would really like to get alone. But if everyone is on the same page then it can serve as a tangible reminder how lucky you are to have each other and increase intimacy. Also, that reminder that your partner is desireable goes a long way.
2006-09-20 08:41:50 · answer #3 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They could easily go either way ... It depends on several things including the size/function of the third person's genitalia (you know - bigger dick than you, tighter p***y than the girlfriend etc.), the actual circumstances of the 3some (mutual acquaintance, girlfriend's best mate, your best mate, drunk or sober etc.) and the reasoning behind the 3some in the first place (joint decision, your fantasy etc.)
If the thing was arranged by you to satisfy your own fantasy and your partner only went along with it to keep you happy, I think it would destroy everything. If it was a joint decision and it is likely to be a regular part of your lovemaking, then I guess it will strengthen your relationship.
Forget all that about girlfriends, I see from your 360 page that you're gay! So please just read "partner" for any "girlfriend" references! lol
2006-09-19 02:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a matter of opinion. For some couples that are both interested in a third party-it may make their bond stronger(I don't understand that but hey-it takes all kinds of people to make the world go round and I support that) For the rest of us, it would tear us apart. Afterall, if you need that third person isn't that saying that there is something missing that one of you has to offer. There are so many things a couple( 2) could do to keep theie sex life great.
2006-09-19 03:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by lady K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on if your relationship is strong enough to handle something like that to start with.
If one of you are the jealous type then it probably will destroy it.
You need to talk alot about it before you do it and make sure you have rules.
I know lots of couples that thought they could do it and it ended up tearing their relationship apart.
My bf and i kinda swing sometimes but we do it in the same room in front of each other and we have written rules that have to be followed. Believe me if you and your partner can handle it, it will most defiantly strengthen your sexual relationship and your bond to one another.
2006-09-19 02:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as everyone involved is open and aware that this is for fun then yea it can strengthen a relationship. Some men find it unbelievable sexy to see there woman giving and receiving pleasure from another person. I have a open relationship with my man it we have never had an issue (and we have done allot of things). So as long as you both understand whats up then i would go for it..... have fun!
2006-09-19 05:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by :)*taurus tease*(: 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it can strengthen it as long as the girl is comfortable with herself enough to let someone else in the bed... it has for me! it keeps things exciting because one on one gets boring after awhile... either in one week or 10 years, it eventually gets routine. without the spark in the relationship it will die...
2006-09-19 02:55:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is weird , I thought you're a guy , until I realized that your name is Ashley , almost any girl likes to keep her guy for her own self , not sharing bed with another people , but if y'all want to go wild , in the name of love , than the choice is yours
2006-09-19 03:11:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
3somes all bout raw sex
intimacy only can be 1 on 1
your a bad girl
2006-09-19 02:53:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, if you want to do it, then do it and spare the rest of us. and please, if you have a good relationship with someone, you talk to him/her about doing threesome or not, not to a general public.
2006-09-19 02:52:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋