with someone who is a drug addict feel that there other half always puts them second to there drugs. i dnt wnt any lectures on drugs...
2006-09-19 02:47:59 · 12 answers · asked by wetnslippy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my other half used to go out socialising... drink too much and do drugs. I tried to get him to stop when he asked me to marry him (which i agreed to) but then he got all sly about it but was useless at hiding evidence so i always knew. It got to the point i was so untrusting when he came in i would check his pockets and wallet. When i confirmed to myself he still was i said to him that if he continues then there would be no weddding. Thing is every time we argued about it he made me feel like it was my fault and he'd get angry and storm off not to be seen or contacted until the morning.
Then one night i did that first and he was so worried i think it made him realise what he put me through. When i found out i was pregnant i told him that if he came home having done drugs i didn't want him anywhere near our son, anywhere near me because he stank and couln't kiss properly when ha had done drugs.
I think since we had the baby he has grown up and will not go out and do it any old evening or when he's just had a gard day like he used to. Now he knows that there are responsibilities. Although we have spent so much of our time together arguing about it i wish he'd opened his eyes a bit sooner.
The best advice i can give you is to make your partner realise the effects it has on you, how it affects your times together. My other half did not act like himself when he was on drugs so i told him that when he was like it it was like spending time with a stranger.
It took a long time, lots of tears, shouting, slamming doors and storning out but now i am just starting to trust him when he goes out (which he also does now less thatn he did before). I know he still does it every now and then but i can live with that.
2006-09-19 02:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my best friend years ago used to go out with a drug addict and he always put the drugs before her, she stuck with him for a couple of years and he just never changed but she really loved him, in the end she came to her senses and dumped him as he never tryed to get off the drugs, it took her a long time to get over him, but in the end she met someone new and her life got a whole lot better, all i can say really you gotta decide what you want out of life, to stay the way you are or have some thing better.
2006-09-19 02:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by LAURA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a drug addict, everything comes second to the drug of choice.
2006-09-19 02:54:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lick_My_Toad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want a lecture then you shouldn't ask a question that puts your business in the public eye! Of course you will be come second to him. Addicts always put their addiction first...that's what makes them addicts.
2006-09-19 02:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but i used to be.
he wasnt into drugs when we first met.
but he got to the point where he couldnt go home (we were 16) and so i would have to sneak him into my house so he wouldnt go home all messed up.
i didnt want to leave him cause i had been with him for like a year at the point.
i had no idea what to do.
2006-09-19 02:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by kt_thoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's why it is called addiction. To the addict, there is nothing more important. I believe they would do anything for it. Perhaps you should worry more about putting yourself first.
2006-09-19 02:53:22 · answer #6 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will always come second to drugs ask them to clean up or get out
2006-09-19 02:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is currently in treatment and yes i always felt that way because he used to spend all of my hard earned money on that drug of choice and not on the bills that were piling up!
2006-09-19 03:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by mommalyle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me you are in a terrific relationship.
you have a guy who has a passion.
my girlfriend is freaky frick'in huge, all she does is eat and is a lot stronger than me. Pretty much abuses physically.
but she has no passion like your boyfriend, who has a passion to be the best drug addict ever.
my girlfriend just sits at home eating, and I have to work and pay for her food.
so cheer up, at least u aint me.
2006-09-19 02:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes best thing i ever did was divorce my 1st wife
the 2nd wife had a drug problem but chose me over the dope
when i forced her to decide
2006-09-19 02:53:24 · answer #10 · answered by ken y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋