This is REALLY long, but I would really really, greatly appreciate an honest answer, thanks!?

Question

This girl and me were really close, we would stay up till 12 in the mornin talkin sometime, now that mite not be alot, but it is for her, she is homeschooled, I go to public school. Well I asked her to the movies, and she said Idk maybe , and REALLy backed off, she seemed nervous around me, I thought she just didnt wanna hurt my feelings, but she told her friends, she just wants to see if I can stick with her. Well we got further and further apart, until I couldnt stand it anymore and I emailed her, spilled my guts, and asked her to be brutally honest on how she fealt about me, heres what she said

well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later

Now, When I read that two things come to mind. One, that she is just trying to be nice. But on the other hand, she is just scared, because she has never had a bf b4, and weve been friends since age 7.

But now she seems more comfortable around me, like now she talks more, and seems more comfortable, but then she'll seem like she wants me, I can tell by the way she looks, and the way she acts, she just seems really sad, and down,

Oh yeah, and she told her mom , that she is just really really scared, and that she does like me, but she told her friends she just dont want to hurt my feelings, now her and her mom are really close, but so are her and her friends, Do you think she likes me, or is just letting me down easy?

And I am respecting her wishes, I emailed her and told her that I respect her decision, and we havent talked about it since.

But I really really do care for her, I wake up and she's the first thing I think about, I go to sleep and Fall asleep thinking about her. I mean I know I'm only 15, but I really do love her, and would do anything in this world to be with her. I've tried moving on, I've been trying to do that, but I just can't. Even though I am am guy, yes I have cried numerous time for her, and about her. I mean, I'm not ugly, I'm fit, and I'm not a big geek or anything, so what gives? I really do love her, what should I do?

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26 minutes ago
And, yes, her mom likes me, she told me that she is encouraging her daughter to date me, she also said that it was really hard for her daughter to sent that email, but in the mean time, she is really flirty with this other guy.

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3 hours ago
But it's weird, like sometimes she'll seem sad, cuz she wants to be with me, then shell go and be REALLy happy and flirty with this other guy, then shell come up and talk to me, like she misses me, and then shell go flirt with him, I'm just SO CONFUSED, please help.

3 hours ago
but i mean, the way she is around him, is the way she used to be around me, and its weird, cuz we dont talk nearly nearly as much as we used to, and its almost like shes sad, or missin that or sumthin, but then all over this other guy

Answer 1

It's hard as hell, but this is how you have to learn about your inner strength. You get on with your life, ignore the pain and don't give in to fantasies that maybe something is still possible. It's called closure when you finally accept the unacceptable. It happens to everybody sometime about something. Once you finally have gotten over her, there will be some sort of faith in your own ability to deal with whatever life hands out.

Sure, it hurts and will for a while. That's how your strength is forged.

By the way, once you do get over her better things will come along - like mutual love.

Answer 2

Firstly, I think that the email was the truth.
You and her have been friends for 8 years so it would seem weird to date when you are such good friends, and if anything did happen to terminate the relationship it might cause the friendship to break up, which would be a waste of 8 years.
Maybe in your mind you think that she flirts with you, but what image I get is that she is comfortable around you because you know all of her deepest secrets and so she sees you as her best friend and not her boyfriend.
Obviously when she flirts with other boys in front of you, she doesnt realise that it will confuse you as you wrote in reply to the email that you respected her decision, which means that you are fine with just being friends and that you are OK with not dating or having a romantic relationship. Maybe in time things will change but for now you just need to be the best friend you can be to her and maybe find a new love in the mean time.

Answer 3

It sounds to me that you really like this girl. You might be putting too much pressure on her though. This could be a bad thing. Dont trap her into liking you. Do things that arent obvious that show you affection towards her. By all means never talk to her parents about your private life with her. Rather then going to the movies, try taking her shopping or to the mall and start from there. Start off slow with her, for example hold hands first then move for the kiss later on. Goodluck

Answer 4

Yes she likes you AS A FRIEND. She is now more comfortable with you cuz she was able to tell you just friends. The two of you are to young to be thinking of a relationship. Just be her friend. Enjoy that friendship and when you get older she may change her mind on how she feels about you. If you press the issue you may lose her as a friend as well. Good luck.

Answer 5

That is so sweet. If she has'nt fallen for you theres something wrong with her. Out of experience girls that are home schooled are uncomftarble around guys and they develope later. But you said that she's flirting with this other guy. It sounds to me like she's using you. Just be around for her alot and back off after a while. then she'll relise what she had and lost and she might come running back. Honestly I don't get her. Good luck. Don't let her mess with you.

Answer 6

Sounds like she is confused and is not sure who she wants. My suggestion is that you stay friends with her. When she finally realizes how awesome you are then she'll be all yours.

She may be talking to this other guy to try and disacourage her mother from talking about you. Just stay friends, cause it's best to be friends before anything else.

Answer 7

i cant really help u but i hope dis help a bit.

well girls sometime act weird when they like someone. so she might like u too.
she flirt with other guy. have 2 meaning: to make u jelous or she like dat guy. maybe she want to see how long u can stand her.
sumtime gurlz give signal that us guyz dun really understand.
u been her friend for so long ofcoz she like u. she might scared bout her own feeling wether is she really like u or just like u as friend.

i dun think dat help much. but u must always suport her even if it hurt u. ive been in ur situation. if she meant for u then u will get her but if not, there will be sumone waiting for u. god made human in pair. there always sum1 for every1.

here wat u can do. when u alone with her talking face 2 face. when shes in good mood, u ask her seriusly n with a feeling that u really need to know. does she like u just s a friends as always or more than dat. if she ask y, just express ur feeling. if she like u as friend like always u just change ur feeling toward her. keep ur true feeling coz u never noe if she have change in heart. watever just suport her with her decision. we cant get wat ever we want u noe.
true love come in diffrent ways sumtime in weird ways.

hope it works. if it dun work, im sorry just move on and hope for the best. best of luck. friend... sorry too long.

Answer 8

well it sounds to me this girl is to confusing for you.she really told you how she feels and you want except it her mom cant make her date you you shouldnt want her if she dont want you.and besides your only 15 you have plenty of time for girls.be her friend and see other girls when shes around do her like she does you but make sure these girls like you dont look like a dork.pretend as if this girl dont exsist and hang with others and you will see if she likes you as a friend are more

Answer 9

Don't try to read between the lines. Her email was very clear and concise.

Answer 10

You've already volleyed theperverbial ball ion her side of the court. Let her volley it back. She might. She might not. However; that's my oppinion.