He is 25, has a good job, says he can't live without me. We live across town from one another but he will not move, he will not let me move in with him either. We have been dating for a year and he says our relationship is much more than serious. What would you do?
2006-09-19 02:40:22 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it sounds like he don't want a serious relationship......he wants his own space and freedom....he is too young so give him some time man are very afraid to commitment....so let it flow
2006-09-19 02:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by haki 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't push it or he'll get fed up and leave you. He's just not ready and you should be glad that he's being honest with you. Moving in with someone and having to live together is a huge responsibility...he likes having his own space, there's nothing wrong with that. And you should like that too, look on the bright side, when you argue you can send him home.
Give him time, when he's ready I'm sure he'll let you know.
Good Luck.
2006-09-19 02:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Committment of moving in together is a lot likemarriage to guys.
You have to give him his space to be ready for this, sounds like both of you are young yet.
He has a good job and the 2 of u r happy then let itbe! Be happy with what u have instead of whining about what you don't have!
2006-09-19 02:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by koleebear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understnad him perfectly, maybe he doesn't want to move in b/c morally he thinks its wronf unless you too are really married or he's scared that once you move in that perfect thing you have dies out b/c of the being together all the time...just ask him whats the deal. He will prbably be honest about it!!! Anyway good luck and don't worry about it, guys are crazy like that sometimes...
2006-09-19 02:56:24 · answer #4 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Why the hell are young people so eager to marry and/or move in with one another. If it's about rent money, get a roommate. Enjoy your youth and your freedom while it lasts because once you are married with kids, there is no longer such a thing as privacy.
2006-09-19 02:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if you got put out could you stay with him. If he still seems nervous about moving together he might be scared that you'll want to move to a new level too. (Marriage) Maybe he's afraid of commitment. Or he's cheating and doesn't want you to mess up his place to bring other women. I hope it's the latter.
2006-09-19 02:49:19 · answer #6 · answered by Honey Bee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't want to shack up. Some people believe the proper steps are 1) date, 2) get married, 3) move in together after the honeymoon. (Children, if any, should definitely come AFTER!)
2006-09-19 02:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its obvious that he is not ready for that type of commitment. If he says he loves you but don't wanna make the next move by you two living together then he might be stringing you along at his own convenience. Sorry to say but he needs his own space.BELIEVE IT OR NOT!!!
2006-09-19 02:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by SHAY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should thank God you found a guy like him. It appears that he wants to honor you by not taking advantage of the pre-nuptual situation.
When you get married, then you can live together. If this guy is a moral, stand up guy, my hat is off to him. Way to go sir.
And you should be the happiest girl in the world.
2006-09-19 02:45:06 · answer #9 · answered by David S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to cheaters.com and be sure he isn't spending time with someone else. Consider the fact that he may like his Independence. It could be that he doesn't want to live with you because he doesn't like the way you live? maybe he doesn't want to take on financial responsibility for you or give you access to his personal belongings, files, space, or life. Either way, something is amiss and it may be more a problem with you than him...Best Wishes to you.
2006-09-19 02:45:38 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should give him more time if thats what he wants. If you dont feel like things are going to progress in time then find someone else. You are ready to live with him but obviously hes not,,so think about how long you want to wait.
2006-09-19 02:43:17 · answer #11 · answered by michelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋