I'm 18yrs and have been in a relationship with this guy for 2 years. In that 2 years he haven't kissed me or even hugged me simply because i told him i wound have sex with him. I got bored and dumped him few days ago b'coz i didnt feel loved. He then told me that u cant get in a relationship without having sex because LOVE IS SEX. So i need to know if its the truth of not?
2006-09-19 02:19:18 · 21 answers · asked by Brown sugar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not having sex is a good way to test how someone truly feels about you and clearly he only cared about sex...if you care for someone and truly love someone, they're worth waiting for
2006-09-19 02:23:48 · answer #1 · answered by Maestro 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First let me just say that your boyfriend is a jerk. I also been with my boyfriend for 2 yrs and we both are the same age. We haven't had sex yet. I always say it takes a real man to stay in a relationship with a girl when she is not having sex with him. I don't think LOVE IS SEX. Just think about it. Many people are out there just having sex and I'm sure they don't love that person. He just wanted to get some and probably thought that was the smartest thing to say.
2006-09-19 09:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by shy_isha18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me I have this to say-and I most tell u the truth the World as changed totally that they now say Love is sex--I m so sorry that is not true.But it could be viewed in a different directions.If u are married,in real and committed relationship-----on these level depens on ones believe and policy.
2006-09-19 09:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by fellow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have enough sense to know the real answer to that! He's a guy and just like most guys he will tell you anything to get into your pants. Stand your ground, don't give in and have sex if you don't want to. If he waited this long, why can't he wait a bit more until you give him the green light?
You did the right thing, don't give it up until you are ready.
2006-09-19 09:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't believe him and have sex with him. He should understand that you don't want to have sex with him and its your right when you want to do it and with whom. You should wait for someone really special, when you fall in love (hopefully get married) because the first time you do it...you'll remember it your whole life and do you want to do it with someone whom you can't see spending your whole life with? My wife and I were virgins on our wedding night and I can tell you that waiting was great and we are out of our minds in love with each other because we're exclusive. But if for some reason, we couldn't have sex again...it wouldn't decrease the love because sex is an expression of love...its not love itself. So don't listen to this jerk.
2006-09-19 09:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by DrSH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is SEX, LOVE?
Sex, is a physical action.
Sex may contribute to pleasurable sensations, but historically is has also been used as a weapon. As a weapon it is full of violence, hate, and death.
Is it loving to approach someone and say:
If you love me you will kill yourself?
If you love me you will buy me anything I ask for.
Is love possible where there is a demand?
Can we act and do something in order to deserve or earn the right to be loved?
NO!
Love exists, but being fake and false to ourselves will not reveal it.
Expressing ourselves falsely, by doing what someone else desires, has no part in LOVE.
Love has everything to do with living truthfully, without pretense, without pretending to be something we are not. When we live simply, in full acceptance of ourselves as we are, as we began at birth, innocent, uncluttered by thought, ideas, opinions, and expectations, we may then experience the natural awareness which is love.
When we are false, we will never feel loved.
One cannot pretend to be something they are not and feel loved by people who like that.
One might as well say:
“I am Princess Perfection, perfect in everyway, come have sex with me and I will dominate you and you will fulfill my every desire!”
Note that this is only a trade of desires.
Love is not give and take trading.
Love is aware acceptance of what is. Love is responsive to what is true.
Love does not demand. Love does not insist on having its own way.
Love is appreciation of truthfulness. Love sees reality now.
Love does not exist in lies, desires, property, or pretension.
Your male friend is imprisoned by impulses and desires that drive him. All men experience being driven to have sex. By itself, it has nothing to do with love.
2006-09-22 13:13:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he isn't telling the truth. Sex in not love. It sounds like you know what you want and he is not it. Be true to yourself.
2006-09-19 09:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by Why do you ask? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um no, Love is love and sex is a perk. He's full of it. Do what you do and don't fall for that crap. You'll know when your ready. Good for you for not giving 'it' up. Your time will come and it will be worth it with the right one.
2006-09-19 09:22:24 · answer #8 · answered by sweetpea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nooooo Love and sex are 2 separate things. You can have sex with someone you don't love, and you can love someone you haven't had sex with yet.
2006-09-19 09:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by Avid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he will not wait on you he does not love you sex is not love feelings are things about that person the way you feel not to get in there pants
2006-09-19 09:23:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋