I been dating a guy for about 5 years. We are having a long distance relationships. We did meet once a while but is less than 10 times within these 5 years. Normally I went to his place to find him. We been commuincating alot thru telephone. But somehow I feel so insecure. Deep down I trust him but somehow I feel he is cold towards me. I just wanted to know is there a possible for guys to be decent and honest in a long distance relationship where guys will not cheat their gfs even though they seldom meet?
2006-09-19 02:10:10 · 11 answers · asked by Miss y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course its possible. However, the fact that you have so many doubts is indicative of the fact that despite the fact that its been five years, you just don't know this guy that well.
I don't know why you have only met less than ten times in five years - I assume it's because of the distance - but it sounds to me like your relationship hasn't progressed as far as it should have in the five years, even accounting for the distance. The very fact that you feel the need to come here and ask about it is proof of that. Have you actually already tried to talk to him about this? Because the fact is, he is the *only* one who can truly set your mind at ease about this. And if he cannot, or will not, do so, then you pretty much know you have some major issues to work out, including whether or not the relationship is going to work out.
Sorry its not what you want to hear, but it is the truth as I see it. Good luck to you.
2006-09-19 02:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say these will happened to every guys but if you have long distance relationship, I will suggest that both of you meet up more often. It will improve your relationship. Can you imagine you are going married to someone you don't really know to well or stranger and live together? The type of feeling is very weird so I think both of you should meet up more often to understand each other better before taking the next move
2006-09-19 11:41:18 · answer #2 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been to his place, why have you not seen him for more than ten minutes at a time? Doesn't seem real but here's a well known fact: When a man becomes distant or cold it means he has become bored with you or thinks you to be a nuisance. Perhaps you are in this relationship by yourself.Does he even know that you think of your relationship ans BF/GF? If all of this has been discussed before and he is simply unable to afford you his time, then he is not in this relationship with you and you should cut your loses and find your dignity. If he has no time for you it's most likely because he's making time with someone else!
2006-09-19 09:18:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet up less than 10 times for 5 years.....do you still consider as a relationship? If a guy truthly love you, he will want to meet up with you more often, and if most of the time it's you who went to his place to find him....I should only said, even if he is a decent and honest guy, you had still wasted your five years on him.
2006-09-19 22:17:26 · answer #4 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand ur situation totally...i've been in it before...i actually broke up with him...see my previous questions if u want to know more...U cannot stay in a long distance relationship forever, if u feel there's no future, leave...because the longer u stay..the more hurt u will be when u break up...but think properly, don't do anything u'll regret. It's very painful i understand..but u have to make a decision and stick to it no matter what. Good luck! :-)
2006-09-19 09:13:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible but then again you should always listen to your gut instincts. And if in five years you or guy haven't decided to move closer together then I'm not too sure if you or him are ready for such a commitment that requires alot of trust.
2006-09-19 09:14:54 · answer #6 · answered by Lost In Love... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because he hardly sees u and u basically only talkk thru the phone. u only saw him 10 times in 5 years? girl of course he's seeing someone else and espically when u say u feel like he's cold towards u.. girl u need to find someone in ur city and date them
2006-09-19 09:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by sexygurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have seen him less than 10 times in the last five years and you call that dating. hes probably married and has kids.
2006-09-19 09:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For heavens sake! Y don't you put as much effort into finding a man in closer area to you?!
2006-09-19 09:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use ur instincts.
2006-09-19 09:12:19 · answer #10 · answered by hsarora47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋