My sister and her husband do NOT want my family of 5 to move in the subdivision that they live in. She said she hates me and that our family is forever divided. She said that we have ruined their lives. We searched 50-60 houses and we kept coming back to this particular house. It is just perfect for our family. Every one of our children can finally have their own room and it has an inground pool. We did not choose this house to p$#@ her off, we chose it because we think its a great choice for OUR family and #1 reason for our kids! I will always love her, but its now been 3 1/2 weeks since she has spoken to me. I am hurting real bad inside but feel that I have to do this for my family. Everyone I talk to says that shes jealous...if thats the case, she needs to focus on her own life choices, NOT MINE and where I am in my life. I wish I could understand. Any suggestions?!
2006-09-19 02:05:43 · 10 answers · asked by andidel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have to do what you feel is beat for your family...if that means moving into a home that's close to hers than so be it. Let her be angry, she'll just have to get over it. You have all right to live where ever you want, don't let her emotions control your life.
Do what you got to do. It's that simple.
Good Luck.
2006-09-19 02:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your sister so angry is my question?. what has occurred to make her behave in this way. People as a rule do not behave in such ways unless there is good reason. maybe you need to talk with her, send her an e mail, a letter, call her on the phone , explain to her the advantages of moving closer to her, and try to put aside the negatives she seems to have.jealousy could be an issue of so you can help her overcome this, jealousy is a sign of ones own insecurities so she needs help dealing with that. You are hurting so you love her unconditionally despite all this, don't be angry With her, try to work with her and find out why she is so upset. if it works then wonderful , the relationship will go from strength to strength, if not then at least you can hold your head up high and say i tried.You have your family to consider and as you say what is best for them, you cant make choices on what your sister may or may not think, this is your life, but , leave a little of it aside to help your sister.
2006-09-19 02:17:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's best for your family, buy the house. If she says anything, tell her that don't care what she wants, it's your family that you care about. If she is set on saying that the family is forever divided, as hard as it is, let her have it. Maybe after a while she will see how ignorant she's being and will be willing to mend the relationship. Do not go to her house, tell your kids that they can not go there, and if it's avoidable, do drive or walk past her house. It will just give her something else to b.... about. Depending on how old and emotional your kids are you might want to tell them (in general) why you don't want them at your sister's house.
2006-09-19 02:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by heaven help me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you live in the same neighborhood doesn't mean that you or she has to spend time at each others houses.
If she's mad at you, just don't invite her over until she cools off again, and you don't have to go to her house.
But when the fighting is done, you'll be close enough to visit without traveling far.
As long as it isn't right next door, even three houses away is good and on a different block is better, there shouldn't be a problem.
Regardless of where she lives, it's your right to buy the house you want where ever it may be.
2006-09-19 02:17:37 · answer #4 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think this house is worth putting yourself and your family through torment every day of the week because of it's proximity to you sister? Do you think she'll "come around"? Hey, I'd find another place to live. I think you're trying to push yourself on her and she doesn't like it. So leave her and her neighborhood alone! If the house was in a block where there were crack houses would you live there because the house was a great "choice for our family"?? NO! It's not worth the pain that is yet to come if you move in close to sis. Let it go. Look for another house. If you move there, you're asking for trouble. Godloveya.
2006-09-19 02:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have three sisters and went though similar problems. In fact one I'm still at war with one of them over bull$#@% but what I did was continue on with my life. You have to take care of your family first and maybe just let her find her own way back home. I't hard to accept your own sister doing this but tring to pry into her life isn't going to make this go away. You mark my words- one day she is going to need something from someone and that ONLY someone that could give it to her is you and thats where you will be there with open arms and pick her up because the love of a sibling is the love of a sibling. It's a biological bond that can never be broken. Goodluck!
2006-09-19 02:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by Fuel632 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel this is the best choice for your family,then do it.You shouldn't have to do what she says.If you move into this house the best thing for your family is to ignore her.If she calls and say she hates you,just hang up,two things will happen,one she'll come around and be decent or two she won't call anymore.Either way you and your family won't have to deal with her hatefulness.
2006-09-19 02:21:25 · answer #7 · answered by just wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your family and your money. Live where you want to live and if your sister doesn't like it, then just ignore her! Your sister can't make decisions regarding where you live or what is best for your children. If she doesn't want to deal with you, then she doesn't have to! Do what is best for you and your family and deal with your sister when you are good and ready to.
2006-09-19 02:14:51 · answer #8 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like that house go for it your family(husband+kids comes first, if she gets mad at that well she isn't what I would want for a sister. Sounds like plain old jealousy
2006-09-19 02:11:27 · answer #9 · answered by tiny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its right for your family then go for it!
Having u guys so close could very well mend the relationship
2006-09-19 02:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋