Since early this year, i have liked this one girl & tried everything possible to make her happy. She studies out of the country & i work from within. When she's out of the country i email her atleast once or twice a week for all the months she's away but she doesn't bother to reply any of them.
What is so confusing is that when she's back in the country for holidays she is so nice to me & communicates alot. During her last holiday i asked her why she never replies any of my emails while away at school & she replied by saying that "Alot was going on". So i took it that maybe she was busy with her studies. Honestly in 4 months can't someone spare a minute or two just reply an email? It doesn't make sense at all to me. I told her that her actions hurt me alot & she kindly asked me to forgive her, which i glady did.
Well she just flew out of the country again a few weeks ago & she's back to the old game of not replying any of my emails. Honestly, am worn out & want to quit. Is it o.k?
2006-09-19 01:38:18 · 13 answers · asked by kabira 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"out of sight, out of mind".
Sorry. :(
2006-09-19 01:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by Avid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she honestly is busy. If she is going away to study, she must have to concentrate on her work.
Since you already confronted her and she apologized, and told you she is busy during her away time, maybe you should back off a little. Try not e-mailing her. Maybe she reads the e-mails only. If you stop persuing her so relentlessly, maybe she will wonder "Why isn't he e-mailing me?".
Have a little more confidence. If it drives you crazy that she doesn't respond but you two have good communication when she comes back, there is a chance that she can relax more when she's home.
There is also the chance that she might not be that interested in you, and you might have to face that possibility.
Ask her, straight out if she likes you. Tell her you don't want to play games. Move on if she can't give you a straight answer.
2006-09-19 01:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by Elkie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like she's too interested in being a true friend to you. When she's in town, everything is goody goody and friend but as soon as she leaves it's like she doesn't want to be bothered with you. She's sending you mized signals and unfortunately this friendship does seem like a waste of time and energy. I would leave her alone. When she comes back into town, I wouldn't say much to her except for saying Hi. If/when she notices your change in attitude she might approach you and if she does, explain to her that you've chosen to give her some space since she doesn't want to respond to your emails. If she apologizes again, I still would not be friend her because she is just using and abusing your friendship and will surely do the same thing again. As long as you allow her to use you, she will keep doing it. If she was a true friend and valued your friendship, she would not keep ignoring you like this.
2006-09-19 02:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im going to be honest with you, and I don't mean to hurt your feelings if I do. But, the only reason she's nice to you when she's with you is because she thinks of you as only a temporary friend, and the reason she doesn't write is because she doesn't really care about being your friend when you're not there. She's busy with other people, and just doesn't bother to write you, but when she comes back to your country she has nothing to do, so she is nice to you so that she can have something to do and be entertaining to her.
That's just my opinion from personal experience.
Sorry if it sounds mean.
2006-09-19 01:45:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might not like my answer... She's playing games with you. If you really really like her and are sure you want to be with her you need to back off. Play hard to get. Don't be so ready to jump to her tune when she is home from school. Make her work for your attention. That is my advice if you just feel you can't live without her.
My gut feeling is - why do you want to be with someone who treats you like this. I would quit FOR SURE. I know this sounds cliché, but this is all about her and has nothing to do with anything you are or are not doing.
2006-09-19 01:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by family_matters 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This girl is just playing around, I say forget her and move on..Maybe if you stop emailing her she'll wonder and probably she's the one who will email you, but if she doesn't don't worry about it, just try your best to move on and forget about her!!! Long distance relationships don't really work, and if they do work is because the 2 sides are willing to make it work, but it seems to me that you're the only one trying to make this relationship work, so I say move on!! Good Luck
2006-09-19 01:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by hey_amt95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i knew this guy that kept on sending emails during the holidays when im like out of the country... ummm yea its kind of annoying and i rarely ever answer... actually sometimes i did... but just to be nice u know...
but i didnt mind talking on msn... that was cool... geting in touch and that stuff...
so see if she goes online.. and try communicating by instant chatting and stuff...
2006-09-19 01:44:59 · answer #7 · answered by yassem1ne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds inconsiderate, and she uses you while she is in your country. She does not sound very nice. Maybe you should move on.
2006-09-19 01:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by marie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey dig was right, i agree. Just move on man, shes not the only one in the world!!!
2006-09-19 01:48:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time here plenty of it, Time there might be occupied by another.
2006-09-19 01:44:05 · answer #10 · answered by thugtwin1@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋