Why is it the more I give the more I expect and the more alone I feel?

Question

I try really hard to take care of the people that I love. I didint have very much growing up. I know what it feels like to be hungry and have no one to turn. Ultimately, when he re-married i was forced to fend for myself. My dad and my step mom just seemed to forget about us. I still love my dad I tell him the way he treated me allowed me to becomce hungry to achieve greater things. I seemed to be blessed and overcome many pitfalls. Now it seems that everyone is dependent on me. Friends and Family seem to turn to me with all their issues. Yet when it comes time to reciprocate I get left hanging. I love my girlfriend. I bend over backwards trying to make her happy. I try to put myself in her position before I make a decison. She tells me that she has never felt more loved or fulfilled. Yet I feel very alone and empty. I feel she makes decisions with out considering me. She got guy a she fooled around with a job were she works. I asked her if she thought of the effects that would have

our relationship. Her response was she didnt think of it.She still talks to her ex boyfriend. He calls whenever he feels like it, am or pm. I never asked her to stop. I did ask her to tone it down and put some restrictions. Her response shocked me. If he calls and I can answer, I will. This is my own opinion of course. I feel that two adults in a commited relationship should not have myspace accounts. She did compromise and she didnt put a picture up. Only two things i ve aske 4. She does have some great qualities its not all bad. I no longer feel fulilled with her. She always says I love you but her actions like i stated above seem to say other wise. I take care of her wants and needs. Yet my wants and needs seem to be forgotten. Which seems to always be the case. Again, I do very well for myself. I would consider myself blessed. I just have never felt embraced or taken care of. My g/f presented these qualities. Yet again i feel alone and unfulfilled. Advice?

Answer 1

Get rid of her and go find someone who isn't a user , she only seems to care about you fulfilling her needs . Reread you own question , it is all there .

Answer 2

I have been in the same boat and I know how it feels. But i am learning to think abt myself. Its important to turn peoples requests now and then and ignore them if you feel like it. Let them love you and do nice things for you. Dont approach them to help them. seek their help instead and make sure you know how to say NO and ENOUGH!!

Answer 3

man, i feel like i wrote this. im living it all. ...right now.... and dude... leave her.... my girl...crushed me and left with the guy from work. after she said all the same things. if she plays with others... its going to crush you. she doesnt deverve you... she doesnt.
as far as the family. its a good thing that people look to you. that means they know you are stronger than them. you have a strong character my friend. people gravitate to that. lonliness is... well its a bunch of words i cant write here..

Answer 4

maybe u need a life, go out and socialise more