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or do u tend to see it after u have started the relationship i.e. been out for few mnths. can u recognise it str8 away or do they hide it for a while desperate to get a date and not get dumped forn the millionth time coz of it.

2006-09-19 01:08:08 · 17 answers · asked by allgiggles1984 6 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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No, you can't always tell. People are good at hiding what they don't want you to see. Anger and aggresion are provoked in most people. You won't see the reaction until you see him feel a bit out of control. If you think theres a problem I'd get out of the relationship. Life is hard enough with out adding these type of serious issues. And, no....your not the one who will save him. Only he can do that.

2006-09-19 01:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by wendy 4 · 1 0

My dear, some of the best sociopaths are the best at concealing their deep seated anger issues, especially if they are older and have had years to learn how to manipulate people and get close to them.
In some cases the old adage that says ifit appears to be to good, then it probably is. They have a tendancy to be overly perfect at first and maintain a posture that can darn well be almost perfect, until into the relationship a grab of the arm or a slap across the face opens the door and then they begin to esculate in the acts until it`s dangerous.
Others are kind of obvious in that they display rage occassionaly concerning things you and I would not even flench at, abnormal behavior at times even in small issues can be a red flag and should cause you to say okay, lets put it in nuetral and coast for a bit and observe young blood here.
There are many variables my little lady, I`m a retired Trooper and a CSI Inv, now and have had many opps to see first hand the carnage these animals can bring.
Take care
Jim
P.S. Study human Kinesics The body has a language all its own from eye movement to the posture you use, learn to read what a person is saying before they even speak and you will be way ahead of the crowd. TheLibrary or internet can provide many helps on the topic.

2006-09-19 08:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Nope you cant tell by looking at someone. Normally these things start to show after a while of being with someone. When you're relaxed in the company of someone, you start letting the real you come out - its often why "honeymoon" periods will be the best time in your relationship as both partners are still trying to impress and wow each other.
When the novelty of the newness wears off though, traits start to come through and you can actually realise the person you're dating now is nothing like the person they were when you first met.

2006-09-19 08:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

You can often tell if someone has these type of problems by their behaviour. true they may try to hide it but it usuaklly finds a way through.

On the other hand though you shouldn't just assume as alot of people seem to act that way so that they can fit in with their mates and be part of the crowd, so on that scale those aren't really worth it either.

You should make sure that you're really seeing them rather than the image they want to portray. After all they may have aggression but how is it channelled?

2006-09-19 08:15:22 · answer #4 · answered by Alucard 1 · 0 0

Ok it all depends on the person and their ability to hide their true selves! Sometimes they just can't control themselves, but there are others that can hide it very well, so I think your best shot is to treat the person, and take it from there......Everyone is different and I mean it in the whole meaning of the word...So I say treat the guy and make your own conclusions! Good Luck

2006-09-19 08:36:27 · answer #5 · answered by hey_amt95 2 · 0 0

If it's u aguy thenyes u can make out.Aguy haveing a gap in his moustache where the depresion is present is a hot headed guy.This is becase they breeathe out very heavily when angry.Next time when he grows a moustache c if he has a gap which is very visible if there is.99% of the time this is true.Im not kiddin.Some of the hot headed stars also had it....like russel crow..in his earlier days but he evend it out by probably shaving over it again and again.

2006-09-19 08:19:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Right on gal, dump the guy as soon as you suspect; don't wait for the fist in the face to confirm your suspicions. AND, it won't change, same at 15, 25, 35; don't fool yourself into thinking anything else.

Women PICK abusive men knowingly, more often than they are really fooled into the relationship.

2006-09-19 08:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

you can't see it at first in their face, but once you have started the relationship or moved in together or whatever you will see it in their actions, in their face and in yourself because they bring you down so much that you have no self esteem left trust me get out while you are still strong enough to do it, aggressive men are also very possessive and controlling eventually he will have a hold on you so tight you wont be able to break away, don;y let that happen. find someone else or get him help asap.
good luck to you

2006-09-19 08:13:46 · answer #8 · answered by puppy love 6 · 1 0

no you can not tell by the way a person looks if they have anger or aggresion problems.
even the sweetest most innocent looking people can have that dark side to them.
some people do not show their true colours until after they are married.
so i am really sorry but unless you have information from a reliable source, or have seen it for yourself, then there is no real way of knowing

2006-09-19 08:16:04 · answer #9 · answered by mythmagicdragon 4 · 1 0

Well watch their behavior in social settings suggest that you two go out together and watch really closely ok.Also if you see any sign of it please dont walk ,run ,run as far and fast as you can away from this person. Life is way too short to be with a person who is abusive and has behavioral issues. i have been there and done that and it never quite leaves you. i have been away from the person that abused me for over 18 years and I still have night mares from it. Luckily my husband now understands and I love him dearly for it. I love because of the person he is. Good Luck to you and please be carefull.

2006-09-19 08:14:57 · answer #10 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1 0

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