This girl and me were really close, we would stay up till 12 in the mornin talkin sometime, now that mite not be alot, but it is for her, she is homeschooled, I go to public school. Well I asked her to the movies, and she said Idk maybe , and REALLy backed off, she seemed nervous around me, I thought she just didnt wanna hurt my feelings, but she told her friends, she just wants to see if I can stick with her. Well we got further and further apart, until I couldnt stand it anymore and I emailed her, spilled my guts, and asked her to be brutally honest on how she fealt about me, heres what she said
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
Now, When I read that two things come to mind. One, that she is just trying to be nice. But on the other hand, she is just scared, because she has never had a bf b4, and weve been friends since age 7.
But now she seems more comfortable around me, like now she talks more, and seems more comfortable, but then she'll seem like she wants me, I can tell by the way she looks, and the way she acts, she just seems really sad, and down,
Oh yeah, and she told her mom , that she is just really really scared, and that she does like me, but she told her friends she just dont want to hurt my feelings, now her and her mom are really close, but so are her and her friends, Do you think she likes me, or is just letting me down easy?
And I am respecting her wishes, I emailed her and told her that I respect her decision, and we havent talked about it since.
But I really really do care for her, I wake up and she's the first thing I think about, I go to sleep and Fall asleep thinking about her. I mean I know I'm only 15, but I really do love her, and would do anything in this world to be with her. I've tried moving on, I've been trying to do that, but I just can't. Even though I am am guy, yes I have cried numerous time for her, and about her. I mean, I'm not ugly, I'm fit, and I'm not a big geek or anything, so what gives? I really do love her, what should I do?
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And, yes, her mom likes me, she told me that she is encouraging her daughter to date me, she also said that it was really hard for her daughter to sent that email, but in the mean time, she is really flirty with this other guy.
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But it's weird, like sometimes she'll seem sad, cuz she wants to be with me, then shell go and be REALLy happy and flirty with this other guy, then shell come up and talk to me, like she misses me, and then shell go flirt with him, I'm just SO CONFUSED, please help.
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but i mean, the way she is around him, is the way she used to be around me, and its weird, cuz we dont talk nearly nearly as much as we used to, and its almost like shes sad, or missin that or sumthin, but then all over this other guy
2006-09-19 01:04:00 · 11 answers · asked by your mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOU ARE TOO YOUNG to be agonizing over this girl. Give her some space and let he do her thing and you do yours-it wouldn't hurt for you to talk to other girls too-and make sure she sees ya do it!!!
2006-09-19 01:08:56 · answer #1 · answered by Pesty Wadoo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should forget her, and quit obsessing....She told you clearly she only wants to be friends, and sometimes we girls flirt but it doesn't necessarily mean that we love you or like you! Give her some space and just be her friend, just because a girl acts nervous around you it doesn't mean she likes you, it could be many reasons for that! And if she's feeling down it doesn't have to be because of you or because she misses being around you or talking to you! You already "spilled your guts" and she clearly said that she only wants to stay as friends, respect her decision and move on, find someone else! You're too young to be compromising your feelings like this! Let her be! Good Luck
2006-09-19 08:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by hey_amt95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to respect her decision. A lot of people started out as friends and when they start to date and it didn't workout they lost that good friendship. She is just afraid and not for sure what she wants.
Try to date other people and see how she really acts to it. Sometimes when one moves on the other one realize what they had or what they really want. Don't push the issue of yall dating to her but do let her know how you fell.
She might not be the right one for you so, try open your eyes and see who else around you that you would like to date
2006-09-19 08:14:25 · answer #3 · answered by JUSTME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she enjoyed your friendship and felt safe about it until you asked her about how she felt for you. Now she is uneasy about the relationship because it is no longer based on being friends. I would move on and tell her the current relationship is too hard on you and so the two of you should avoid each other for now until you accept that it's over. Find a new girl.
2006-09-19 08:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by RKC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, to me it sounds like maybe she does like you, but she's not sure how to tell you. And this other guy, well, maybe she's just trying to make you jealous. Tell her how you feel one more time. If she still says no, then thats probably what she means. Don't be all nervous around her either cause that will just make her nervous. Just act like nothing happened. good luck.
2006-09-19 08:12:52 · answer #5 · answered by sabrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy wah, you are quite the writer. 15 hmmmm. Sounds like she might be a little confused about her feelings. I would suggest that you continue to be her friend. The best relationships begin with friendship. Let that bloom naturally.
2006-09-19 08:13:16 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you really want to get married so why dont you propose? Do you really think she cares?
Get back to your homework and do something besides being so infatuated with this person. Hopefully for her you are not psycho just somebody who is obsessed.
2006-09-19 08:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by surething_78504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should swallow your feelings for a while,and test her.Do not call her and do not look for her.Try to hold on for as much as you can.She is aware of your feelings,and aware of hers too.If you try to pretend that it is either you two being together or nothing,maybe she will prefer to be with you.
That is only my opinion.Think for yourself.
2006-09-19 08:10:09 · answer #8 · answered by pranic_flow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a nice boy. You need to work on your English: spelling and grammar. You need to date others.
2006-09-19 08:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Too long to comprehend, i ain't got all day.
2006-09-19 08:16:55 · answer #10 · answered by hottest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋