how can you stop your child from smoking?

Question

i found a pack of cigs in my daughters purse one day.she said she smokes and there is nothing i can do about. i cant follow her around all day.i spanked her *** hard but that didnt work shes i 15 years old.ya alittle old for a spanking but i did it any wasy.

Answer 1

Try all possible things, educate her , punish her, love her and pray

Answer 2

Scott, you are facing somethig that is very difficult to take care of at this point in her life. This is the rebellious stage and she is doing just that. First of all I do think that spanking a fifteen year old is really a useless act punishment wise, I would like to further say to you that I am not one of those bleeding heart Libs who think that you should be jailed immediately for using corporal punishment. I think that is a crock, somethimes children need a good spanking. The reason that I am telling you that it is ueless in this situation is that spanking a teenager just doesn't work. Taking away privileges is usually much more effective. As a person who started smoking at a young age I will tell you this, she is doing it most probably as peer pressure. Who are her friends and what do they do. If you don't know much about them then I would suggest that you do a little research into who she hangs around with. Also the more of an issue you make of it the more she will be determined to do it. You have rights that she doesn't, tell her that you realize that you can't watch her 24/7. Let her know that you love her and you are worried about her health. Tell her that you are fully aware that she may continue to smoke, but that while she lives under your roof and you are paying for her food, clothes etc. she will not bring cigarettes into your house. Unfortunately kids don't come with a manual on how to raise them, but you do have the right to say what comes into your house. If she insists on smoking, then everytime she comes home and you find a pack of cigarettes on her person, in her room , or in her purse then simply chrush them up and flush them down the toilet. I can promise you that she will then leave them with someone else, or she will start to hide them, but she will probably continue to smoke. Also inform her that if she gets ill with upper resp. infections and has to go to the doctor that you or your wife will inform the physician that she smokes which is probably attributing to her infections.
People say now days that parents don't have the "right" to invade their childrens privacy, that's a bunch of bulls****, parents who don't know what's going on in their kids lives are not good parents. You are the leader of the household, you work and pay the bills and you have every right to know what is happening under your roof and to set rules.
Good luck and congratulations on being a parent who cares.

Answer 3

Instead of spanking her butt, I would put a patch on her butt and take away all privellages including make up. Going to school without makeup might snap a twist in her tail. The patch will help with any withdrawl she may feel. Call your local VA hospital and ask if there is a patient that has an artificial voice box or a treciotomy from years of smoking. Have this person speak to your daughter about the dangers of smoking. Good Luck

Answer 4

I'd see if there was someone in the family who has smoked or maybe a friend .. who can talk to her about the dangers of smoking

someone who coughs a lot.. and can't breathe and has serious health problems from smoking..
perhaps that will scare her..

or do some math for her.. take the cost of a pack of cigarettes.. and tell her how much she'd be spending if she kept smoking the way she's been going for the next 30 40 years..

Answer 5

Now that we have all of these opinions let's look at this idea.
WHY did she start smoking? Peer pressure? Does she think it makes her look 'cool'? Does she think it makes her look 'older' and more 'mature'?
Tell her it doesn't make her look 'cool', that it actually has the opposite effect. Ask her why she'd want to smoke now when 80% of the population is trying to quit. It's obviously losing its popularity and she'll only look ridiculous smoking while no one else around her is.
Warn her of the 'smoking lines' that will form around her mouth, cheeks and chin if she smokes. OH, YEAH, she'll look older all right, and not in a good way.
Have her do some research about the disadvantages of smoking. She can find sights that will show a real picture of diseased lungs in living color. (And mom, let her see them! She needs to get the full impact of her actions if she's going to learn).
Call your doctor and see if he'll talk to her and maybe show her a few x-rays of diseased lungs, anonymous x-rays of course, he can't disclose the name of the patient.
Tell her, after its been awhile since she's had a cigarette, to walk up and sniff one of her friends that's smoking and see what they smell like. Tell her this is the way she'll smell to everybody if she continues to smoke.
If this doesn't convince her to give them up, then it's time to set ground rules for the house.
She is not allowed to smoke in the house, ever!
She can not have them in the house, ever! And tell her you WILL BE LOOKING FOR THEM.
She can not smoke around you!
She can not smoke in the car!
You WILL NOT support her habit. (You can still give her an allowance, and when she spends it all on cigarettes, you're not obligated to give her any more money for the other things she wants. Let her find out the hard way that it's an expensive habit and if she wants other things, well she's just going to have to give "something" up).
And anything else you can think of that will inconvenience her. That's what you're after, the harder you make, the less likely it is that she'll keep smoking.
Don't harass her about smoking, harassment causes stress and stress causes us smokers to smoke more. (I'm trying to quit again and it's not easy to do). If she's going to smoke, she's gonna smoke and there's really not a thing you can do about it, short of chaining her in her room and not giving her cigarettes. The only thing left for you to do is inconvenience the crap out of her and make her work for that cigarette that she wants. Like make her keep them in the cold garage and smoke it outside in the cold and rain.
I hope this helped, if nothing else, gave you some hints and ideas. I've smoked for twenty four+ years, on and off and I'd give my eye teeth if I'd have never started.

Answer 6

she will probally rebell worse 15yr olds are like that (no offense 15yr olds) you could preach till the cows come home they will still find a way ( i was 15 once) a good dose of reality might do the trick take her to the hospital where they have cancer pts so she can see where she will wind up if she continues on that path there is nothing pretty about a person on a ventilator dying of cancer from smoking. also the american heart society is an excellent resource too. good luck!!!

Answer 7

I could have used an answer to this question 10 years ago, that was when I found out both my daughters were smoking. I tried everything. They were grounded. lost things like no t.v. made them stay with me at all times. nothing worked. Drove me nuts trying to get them to stop. and yeah, I got told the same thing, nothing you can do about it Mom. my other 2 kids had no desire to smoke, Thank god..

Answer 8

just get her to think of smoking through your eyes and take stuff off her basically everone in my grade (yr 12 Oz) smokes, if your daughters don;t work the only source of money they have to get the cigs in the first place is from you unless someone is offering them some. Quite frankly here in australia they have these repulslive pics on cig boxes but people don;t care. If you don;t get them to quit it'll be harder the older they get and people think that their cool but their simply stupid, i mean who would pay good money to die ealier and suffer a ton of conditions?

Answer 9

Remove benefits:

1. Cell phone if she has one.
2. iPod or MP3 player
3. Allowance - if you give her money for school lunch, no extra - if she blows it on smokes, that's her problem.
4. Bank account - if she has access to it, remove it.
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These benefits of living in your household only return when she listens to you.

When you get her attention, make her aware of the $hit she's getting herself into (bad breath, stink, cancer, addiction, etc.). Try to get through to her that smoking has NOTHING to do with cool and if she gets stuck with this habit, it's becoming more and more difficult to smoke in public places - I don't know where you live, but in Canada, it's now illegal to smoke in offices, restaurants, bars or any indoor facility, so smokers have to freeze their buts outside in the winter!

Answer 10

Go to the market, buy three packs of cigarettes, and make your daughter to smoke them in deadline of one hour. She will feel dizzy and will never touch a cigarette. Or better one: Cuban cigarettes

Answer 11

show her the packet of cig with the awsome pictures of lung cancer ( not sure you have in your country), or show her pictures from the internet the side effects of smoking