everytime my mom or me drop hi off at daycare he crys for 10 mins
2006-09-19 00:41:49 · 13 answers · asked by brettlover135 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It is quite possible that he is going through separation anxiety. Mine did it. A lot of babies will even if they have the separation has been the same. They suddenly seem to think that Mom might not come back. Try leaving him with someone else one day. If he doesn't cry when you leave him with the friend, then you need to check out the daycare. A child will do his best to let us know that he does not like it somewhere, and if it is not separation anxiety then it could be someone at the day care that he does not like.
2006-09-19 00:47:21 · answer #1 · answered by passionparties_by_suzanne 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
separation anxiety. You are his parent and he obviously loves his grandmother too.
1. if there is a way you could stay with your son and not work I would recommend that.
otherwise
2. try a different daycare. There are some really good home day cares. This may be a better setting for your child. See if the first day you can stay maybe an hour to help transition your child to the new setting and explain that mom/dad is leaving but will be back to pick him up in a little while. Or you could always sneak out which is how i have always done it. Why because they think your in a different room and that seems to help them stay calm and not have a breakdown. However the problem with that is that they catch on.
2006-09-19 07:50:14 · answer #2 · answered by leahb1979 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'll be going back to work in 2 months and my childcare provider (who has an Early Childhood Education degree and years of experience) told me to expect this too when I interviewed her 3 weeks ago.
She says that at 6 months the baby would've been fine and at 18 months the baby would be fine, but at 12 months (which the gov't has determined in their infinite wisdom is a good length of time for a mat leave) it's the WORST possible time to start leaving a baby because it's right when mentally they're going through separation anxiety.
Poor little guy ; Poor little Mommy
Take care and good luck!
2006-09-19 07:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by Poopsie-Daisy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree it's most likely seperation anxiety. My three year old to this day cries when we leave him at a day care facilty. However, we have found that the crying doesn't last more than a few seconds ater we leave. Heck for a while he even did it when we left him a grandmas. If there is a place where you can see him after you leave without him seeing you, look in on him before you leave. You should also definitely ask questions at the day care facility as well.
2006-09-19 07:52:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well im sure your daycare is a good one, You've been with them since he was 4 months old. I mean honestly kids go through those stages, We have four boys. And they are mommy's boys im sure hes just hit that stage, Where hes attached to you. Look into it and make sure nothing is going on with your daycare to be on the safe side. Which i doubt is happening. And im sure you wouldnt have stayed with them if you suspected anything. Hes just going through a stage and he will be fine!!!!
2006-09-19 09:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by jess_n_flip 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
crying is not going to kill him. he'll get over it. don't worry about it. I used to work at a daycare and some kids just have more separation anxiety than others, he'll be fine. just don't take him out of daycare on account of it. he has to learn to be apart from you, no big deal. it hurts you far more than it does him at this point, but if you baby him it will eventually hurt him more.
2006-09-19 10:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by Nobody Special 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's reached that stage where he knows where he wants to be, it's called attachment. Still, he has to go to daycare, so don't feel badly. He will adjust. Most babies go through this at some point or other.
2006-09-19 07:47:52 · answer #7 · answered by auld mom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Separation anxiety. Usually develops between 8 mos and 1 yr. Great article about it and ways to cope with it. It is VERY hard, but you will get through it.
http://www.kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/separation_anxiety.html
2006-09-19 08:39:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would change daycare because he should have adjusted by now and be glad to see the other kids and the daycare worker.
2006-09-19 07:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by RKC 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try staying with him for a few minutes everyday until he starts to comfortably interact with the other children. Also take steps to making sure that nothings going on that shouldnt be just to be safe, even infants adjust to schedules but dont get alarmed because your son may just be realizing that your leaving him. Please be safe.
2006-09-19 08:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by anna 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋