i am 21..i am loving a girl who is lovinig a nother guy and he is not good..she is not happy with him bcoz he is not taking care of her properly..she loves me as a very good friend even i was treating her in the same manner but once she had left him for few days..in that few span of few days i fell to her..she is ready to leave him but not me..but i know she will not live happily without him..i want her but at the same time my heart says keep her happy give what ever she asks..she doesnt want anything apart of him..she knows he is not taking careof her well then too she is loving,she take cares of him..help me out in this..i am totally tensed n doesnt know what to do so please anybody help me out..i just want to c her happy even if i loose my love also no probs..i just want her to be happy..thats it..sans
2006-09-19 00:35:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it seems like you really love her and I know because a guy or girl who's willing to sacrifice their love like that for anyone, and just let them go, that takes courage and a lot of love. The only thing you can do is be there for her as her "friend," if you know she loves this guy, you can't do anything about that, love is blind and we love people that don't deserve us sometimes but there's nothing we can do, we listen to no one, we are the ones that realize that's not what we want, and she will realize that sooner or later, and when she does that she will need a friend, and even now I'm sure she needs you as a friend, so be there for her.....And don't tell her how you feel, that might make things worse, just try to let go of her, sometimes it's the best thing to do, and you do seem like you love her, so just give her all your friend support!! Good Luck
2006-09-19 02:04:46 · answer #1 · answered by hey_amt95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if I were you, I would be completely honest with her, tell her you are in love with her, and because of that you know what she's worth, and that she should be treated like a princess.. and that any guy who doesn't do atleast that is not worthy, and that she might think she is in love with him, but she is actually only infatuated with someone who is a challenge to her, ask her if she really imagines spending the rest of her life in this situation.. and if she thinks things are gonna get better.. if she really thinks that he or anyone for that matter can really change.. make her come to her own conclusions.. tell her that you aren't doing this so she will run into your arms.. you don't expect that, and you don't want that.. you don't want to be the rebound to such a moron.. and that if she thinks she doesn't want to live without him, she has to learn to be happy with herself first.. and then she can get into a relationship.. important.. don't tell her that she has to leave him.. ask questions.. lead to into making her own conclusions.. talk about the future.. and make her realize what she isn't seeing right now.. and don't be her rebound.. tell her you will support whatever decision she takes.. good luck
2006-09-19 00:43:43 · answer #2 · answered by verito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is surely blind they say. am also in the same situation as you. i think that you just have to wait for time to make her see. with time, i am sure all will turn out fine.
she won't notice anybody else right now whatever you do because she is still in love with the guy, love hurts but it's what makes it beautiful when you are ready to sacrifice your love for your love one tyo be happy. right now be at her side, she surely needs someone to care for her. that's all you can do now.
don't desperate, if it's her then she will come one day to you, if not then it was never meant to be.
am not telling you to let go but accept things as they are and continue to struggle even if it hurts ,
if it's her, waiting for her is worth it, if not,then imagine if it's not her, then what would be the real one that you have been waiting for all your life.
2006-09-19 00:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by fed up 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's better to be logical friend look!each people have the chance for finding sn to live with him for the rest of his life and it depends on that person only.be sure that if she loved u she would come to u if u want her to be happy she's happy now and u have to be happy too coz she found her buddy and the one who will join her st any situation and don't worry about urself alot of people come and go in ur life they come for a season although but one of them will join u for a lifetime some one will love u and u'll love her don't worry at all and BE STRONG take care and bye
2006-09-19 00:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by N0t Known Never Ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in jail for 5 years and i have lost every things during that years and the only things could hurt me was my girl friend and it was because she doesn't want me any more and she has other one and i did alot to forget her or make my self happy with other things but it was never happened before i was free and having a new girl friend...get a new girl friend and be care about some one who will care about you..
2006-09-19 00:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by Max 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She loves the other guy inrrepective of taking care of her or not.Please move on with ur life get some one who is in love with u or ur feelings are mutual.She only using u to cover the other guys financial lapses
2006-09-19 00:42:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You r a kindy boy. If she loves him leave him and let she be happy with him If he isn't suitable for her let the time unfold it...
Then maybe she come back to you!
And you look for a good GF..
Be lucky
2006-09-19 00:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by marjan m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey I feel for you but how do you know she won't be happy if he wasn't around.why don't you try and see what happens if you tell her how you feel maybe she has feelings for you as well ,but don't tell you because you see her as a friend. just try and if she wants to be with this guy at least she knows that you care
2006-09-19 00:45:58 · answer #8 · answered by horsnetnet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is happy now and will continue to be so with the other one.If you want her to be so leave her and go to church and become proest & serve people.
2006-09-19 00:42:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mechie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey buddy, have you lost your marbles over this girl? Snap out of it and leave her and go find another one that fits you.
2006-09-19 00:42:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋