Why does being alone hurt so much?

Question

I am 19 and feel afraid talking to people as a result I have never had a girl friend I have always been alone. I keep active and work but other than that I'm just alone...

Answer 1

It doesn't have to hurt. Find some outside interests, and they will put you in touch with others who share that interest.

Before you know it, you'll be making new friends and eventually even meet some nice lady.

If you stay indoors playing computer or video games, it isn't likely to happen, so get out and go where people are doing something you want to do too.

It's miraculous how well it works.

Answer 2

You are 19 what a great age. I am not sure what you are afraid of.
you work and remain active, meaning there must be others around. with some communication. Is it girls that your are afraid of or feel uncomfortable around. If is more than that go see a professional . who can help you. You will be glad you did,
If its less complicated Let me suggest a few things. While you are a work or being active make a effort to stay around longer. Have lunch were everyone else has there. Response to the conversation that is taking place, If invited to parties,lunch, movie, a game any thing/ attend all invitations good or bad. Remember to stay close to a grp. You will be less noticed and will feel more comfortable when you are not being look at.standing alone.

Have a friend or family member set up on a blind date or introduce you to someone. Make the date where you are not alone with just her. Until it becomes less scary for you.
Then try the movies (less to no talk here) The more effort you make and the more times you enact the less your fear will be

Hope the best for you. Remember you are lonely and you hurt. So do something about it. You have the power to do this.

Answer 3

Until you relies you could spend the rest of your life alone you will never be happy. Just have fun and hang out with Friends. I wouldn't go to bars because how do you know if the girl you are talking to does not go and get a new guy every weekend.Never hook up with a drunk girl. Nothing will come from it.You have Friend and at lest one of your Friends has a girlfriend and she will have Friends. Have small parties at your place and tell your Friends girlfriends to bring some close Friends.

Answer 4

You have the right attitude work hard and make lots of money then take your friends out and spend it all, Very similar to what we all do, By spending money you end up going places and being invited places. You will meet lots of interesting people.
You dont need to be alone just surround your self with friends that will compensate for not having a girlfriend.
Talking to people is easy al you need is some common ground. What sort of things do you like doing. Start rock climbing that is good fun, or go shooting or anything just do something even if you watch the news and talk about world events people with take interest. You dont always have to talk about yourself try just asking people questions about themselves, people love to talk about themselves. all you need to do is look interested. It's as easy as that.

Answer 5

You should really seek help from a councellor to find out why you are so afraid to talk to people. If you stay at home all the time other than work you are not exposing yourself to people. it will get harder to come out of your shell as time goes on, and the fear will become more intense. Before I broke free, I used to have anxiety attacks before leaving my house just to go to the store in fear that someone might talk to me and what do I say back? Take a deep breath before leaving your home and say hello, with a smile on your face to atleast 10 people a day...every day. You can do it, but you have to leave your computor and go outside for a while, to the mall, grocery store, library, club, around the block...anywhere. good luck, break free.

Answer 6

i think u should not make urself lonely.As most of the time we are lonely is because we are making ourselves lonely.As we think i cannot make friends , I cannot talk good things to impress people etc etc.But the answer is with in us.U have to appreciate urself and have to think in a positive way.U should or must think that if the other person can do it why cant i.He is eating the same food as i am ,He is Sleeping as i am .He is not something supernatural he is just a human being like me.Just encourage urself once and u will see the result..and my dear better forget about ur lonliness.we so many friends are already online to give ur reply.So in this sense also u r not lonely now........

Answer 7

I find being alone a bad thing personally but it doesn't always have to be. It could hurt because you feel you want someone there to hold or to hold you. Someone who will be there to support you in everything you do.

You can do other things though like join somer clubs or gyms etc to keep your mind off these things though you may meet someone even when you do this so don't fear being alone because no-one is ever truly alone.

Answer 8

That's a common problem with younger people. Some are to bashful to get acquainted with other people. And man is not meant to be alone.
Try going to the gym or some other activity. This will help you to gain confidence and meet people. Besides girls love a man that takes care of his body. And remember, looks are not everything when it comes to the opposite sex. My best advice to you is to get involved in an activity that you enjoy. The rest will come easy.

Answer 9

i am 20, i have just moved to a new city, so i know nobody!!!
i have a lot of friends in other towns etc, but i am increadibly lonely.
there is a diff between alone and lonely
i like being alone
i am lonely because i miss my friends and that personal contact

It hurst because no one around you is showing that they care, you feel like you dont have a network, no one to rely on!

You will just have to try and get over the shyness (most people are shy and have issues.. so just rememeber that when you next strike up a convo)so try and get out there and make some friends... the gilr friend will happen when its ment too

*hope this helps a bit!!!*

Answer 10

y dont u go out have fun with your friends + u might find a girl while ur out. being alone isnt a bad thing sometimes, but a girlfreind isnt all its cracked up 2 b, we can b annoying + then ud wish u were alone sometimes, but keep ur chin up + u never know luck might b waiting round the corner.

good luck hunny.
x.niks.x