2006-09-18 22:53:55 · 26 answers · asked by queen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
fight with each other or other kids?
try to mediate and get them to look at what the problem is first.. some times ignore it if it is trivial as they need to learn to problem solve them selves.. some times intervention is required..
2006-09-19 01:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by dianafpacker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes surely. first of all they should become like children and enjoy the fight as much as kids. if u take seriously kids matters then u r in mess. reason they forget fights and mix nextday very easily but parants cannot. u need to play and enjoy the moment . ok if it is injuring somebody are talking bad words. then u got to be little bit cautious. actually they learn bad qualities from parants only . parants do ignore about the children when they fight and expect kids not ot fight wrong u r showing fighting movies to them violent cartoon movies shakthiman. how can the be peaceful. present society forwarding the issues of fightning somuch. thats society is doing big mistake. so u cant blame on children . teach them logic more so that next time they apply mind before fighting . they need t o be given guidance in charity. good extracurricular activities. also.god incorporating fighting qualites on children so that they can be best competetors in the future. this is the best positive point. some times discussion promotes good sharpening skils discussing abilities. they have to be given child counseling for courage brave enough so that they can understand our freedom fighting power backgrounds. parants have to keep a dairy note down why on what issues how and where they r fighting,.it gives perfect analysis and understanding. especially in joint family they must not feel about their children. all are their children . love them all equally . there should not be mandharas kaikeyees gaandharis in the family otherwise infuture other kurukshetra r mahabharatha takes place be careful.
2006-09-19 14:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by meenakshim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents should never get involved in petty squabbles amongst kids, Never take sides, never let any child down or insult one in front of another.
Mischieves aught to be tolerated, but what you have to cap is indecent and unruly behaviour. thats about all.
I am the eldest in the family and both my younger brothers live me along with our dad and mom. i have 3 kids and my brothers have 3 and 4 kids, so totally we have 10 at home.
In all we have 5 girls and 5 boys, e;dest among them is 12 youngest is 4,
I have a whale of a time when i get back home, its heaven.
2006-09-19 06:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but not in fight parent should involve solving the problems of children . in joint family all elders sits together to solve younger problem
2006-09-20 01:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im going threw the same thing right now combining my kids and my fiances and they fight so bad physical to and it frustrates me and what Ive found is its normal for them to have issues with each other I try to let them resolve the differences themselves but when they hit or hurt each other I get involved and punish them because in our house they dont always have to agree or like what each others doing but they are required to love each other doing it.
2006-09-19 06:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by pamlar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes but they should diplomatically handle it. Nowadays, children can be real sensitive! I know of at least two families where parents had scolded their children for quarreling and the child committed suicide leaving the parents regreeting for life as to why at all had they spoken so harshly to their own children - sad, but true !!
2006-09-19 06:05:23 · answer #6 · answered by young_friend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My humble opinion is No.
but definitely can have a meeting later with the kids to analyze and understand the implications and to take a resolve not to commit the same mistake.
2006-09-20 01:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by saichandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes parents should get involved because the children may hurt each other the fight may become serious.
2006-09-19 06:51:57 · answer #8 · answered by catherine f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I set the rules and told my children to never fight among one another. Of course they did but never in front of me. I told my children there may come a time in their lives when they might marry and have children of their own but they must always remember that they had one another first. Now that they're adults, they are very close and protective of one another.
2006-09-19 07:27:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOOOOO...NEVER...TOTAAL NO NO.....
I LIVE IN AN JOINT FAMILY....AND I KNOW ABT SOME OF SUCH EXPERIENCES...IT FEELS BAD WEN U SEE PARENTS GETTING INVOLVED IN THE FIGHT....SPECIALLY IF CHILD YOU FEEL IS WRONG AND SCOLD IS NOT YOURS THEN IT FEELS REALLY REALLY BAD......THE CHILD MAY START DISLIKING YOU..AND MAKE A BIASED OPINION ABT YOU...
WENEVER A FIGHT TRY TO KEEP OUT UNLESS GETTING PHYSICAL.......THEN AGAIN YOU CANNOT SLAP OTHER'S CHILD...TRY TO PERSUDE ALWAYS UR CHILD TO BAKOUT IF THINGS START GETTING OVERLINE....
I REMEMBER ANS STILL KNOW THAT MY FATHER WOULD ALWAYS TAKE SIDE OF MY COUSINS IF WE FIGHT...AND YOU KNOW THIS WONT MAKE ME FEEL BAD ABT MY DAD....BUT RATHER MY FATHER IS LOVED AND RESPECTED BY ALL FAMILY MEMBERS.......
THREE SIMPLE RULES.....
1)TRY NOT TO GET INVOLVED....COZ IN A JOINT FAMILY KIDS WOULD PLAY AND FIGHT.....
2)BE AS UNBIASED WITH THE APPROACH AS POSSIBLE...TRY NOT TO GET INVOLVE WEN OTHERS ELDERTO YOU ARE PRESENT ....COZ ITS THEIR RESPONSIBILTY THEN....
3)BE MORE STRICT TOWARDS UR CHILDREN THAN WITH OTHERS...COZ UR CHILDREN WILL BE URS...AT LAST THEY WOULD COME TO YOU AND YOU CAN MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND PRIVATELY IF YOU OVERDO SOMETHING BUT OTHER'S CHILDREN WOULD ALWAYS FEEL THAT YOU WERE BIASED TO THEM...CREATING A LIFELONG IMPRESSION AGAINST YOU....
2006-09-19 14:24:51 · answer #10 · answered by METICULOUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋