I have just been sent a beautiful bunch of flowers to my work, by an ex, I want to thank him but I am worried he thinks it opens the door for us getting back together, I do still like him, but unsure if i want a full on relationship, I only dated him briefly, but he says he loves me
2006-09-18 21:49:42 · 24 answers · asked by trouble 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that you should bear in mind that it was a very sweet gesture of him and thanking him is appropriate. However I also think that it is important that you make it clear to him how you feel and let him know what you are and are not looking for. Remember it is never easy for someone we love to tell us that they don't feel the same way for us so let him down gently but firmly.
2006-09-18 22:46:24 · answer #1 · answered by Richard C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off if you thank him let him know you appreciate the gesture but you are not ready for a relationship. if you still like him get together a few friends and see if he would like to join you on a night out with friends. he may have true feelings for you but only time will tell. you really have nothing to loose but tread lightly on thin ice. be sure you want to involve yourself with him if you go that route nothing is worse then breaking up with the same person twice it can get very ugly
2006-09-18 21:53:42 · answer #2 · answered by Don L. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm tricky one - why not call him and say thanks for the flowers but be honest about the fact that you're unsure about what you want to do regarding the situation and could you have more time to think - alternatively why dont you just go for a drink with him and see if you can decide if you want to be with him from there?
2006-09-18 21:52:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF you want to aknoledge the gesture without being too friendly an e mail is a good way. And be sure to use empty words like nice and a kind gift....its sorta cold but does what I think you are saying you want....hope this is useful!
2006-09-18 22:13:51 · answer #4 · answered by Nottingham man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you contact him, it will open the door back up. You say you like him, but not enough for a relationship. He says he loves you, thus he will want nothing but a relationship. Unless you really like him, leave him alone.
2006-09-18 21:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by Daniel and Fang Fang in China 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no let him be. if you call him, only one of two things will happen:
1) you get back together and leave him, because you find out that nothing has changed from the last time you saw eachother, and it wasnt enough then and so wont be enough now. conclusion - broken heart.
2) you call him thank him, meet up as friends and he spends the rest of his weeks obesessing about you. conclusion - creepy and broken heart.
send him a text saying thanks, but ensure you close the conversation so that no response is needed.
2006-09-18 22:17:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
come on give him a chance one more unless the reason you broke up with him is a two timer problem because if its that he will never change if not give him another chance you are doing a great job date him briefly then frequently good job
2006-09-18 21:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by elementwater999 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to know what you want, it sounds like he's got you bad. Hope he's not a male bunny boiler. Then again he might just be a good bloke and there's not that many of us about
2006-09-18 21:55:26 · answer #8 · answered by SilverSurfer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont go back if you both had trouble, move on even if you still like him, who what was he with when the 2 of you was not together.. GOOD LUCK..
2006-09-18 21:55:23 · answer #9 · answered by mike_m50501 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just thank him and ask what they were for. If he then asks for a date say no. That's in the past and you've moved on.
2006-09-19 01:11:45 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋