When I was pregnant, during labor and delivery, and after I had my baby there are things that I wished I'd known. What are some things that you can tell a woman who is pregnant for the first time that you wished someone had told you about, through pregnancy, labor, delivery, after the birth...... Just thought it would be nice to tell them some things to expect that maybe nobody else has told them.
2006-09-18 20:40:45 · 13 answers · asked by Tender Hearted 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I agree about the labor isn't as bad as everyone makes it out to be. I mean don't get me wrong, it can be very hard on some people, but don't try to be all "o I'm not going to have drugs blah blah blah" they are there for a reason. If you can give full birth w/out meds, then more power to you, but I promise you, that baby won't hold it against you for getting an epidural!
Also the last few weeks are the worst! LoL the wait is the hardest part.
I agree, sleep when your baby sleeps, my first born was an angel, she slept all the time and I pretty much got what I needed done, but my daughter, I breastfed her and she was on my boob all of the time it seemed and I never slept unless she did.
Dont stress, it'll all come natural once you hold that wonderful bundle of joy in your arms and you know that you have to take care, love and nurture that child. Good luck to you and God Bless
2006-09-18 21:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by leigh2004wbhs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had 2 great pregnancy with the first 2 but, with my daughter, who was my last, I had some ups and downs, I loved being pregnant and If I had my way I would do it 50 times over, For all the newly pregnant MOms to be out there, don't let anyone else scare you and tell you thier horror stories , not all pregnancies and deliverys are the same, If ya want to know horror stories I can tell ya a few !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Just enjoy the pregnancy and your little one when he/ she comes into this world!!!!!!
2006-09-19 08:26:46 · answer #2 · answered by crazy2have3kids 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Water birth is the best thing ever - you can get into all sorts of strange positions
You do not need to have an internal exam - I did not like them!
When baby is born pour warmed salt water over your bits to help with the discomfort! even better have a salty bath
If you've had stitches lean forward when you are peeing to stop the stinging!
Rest, Rest, Rest, Rest and a bit more Rest - You will want to run around and be super mom but don't, plenty of time for that later, even if you sit with your feet up when baby is sleeping it is better than nothing
Get your partner or someone to prepare meals for you (if you are on your own before baby is born prepare meals and freeze them.) If my husband had not been round I think i'd have lived off toast which is not good!!
limit the length of time people can visit as you will get tired quickly
if you do not plan to breastfeed use cold cabbage leaves to help with engorement (I don't think this is advisable for those who do as it reduces milk supply)
don't cut your hair really short before baby comes (as I did!) I regret it and wish it was long so could just put in ponytail and forget about it and not have to style!
ignore the mums who say "my baby slept through from 4 weeks" rubbish!!!
I tried to feed my baby as much as possible during the day (every 2-3 hours to start with) even if this meant waking her up. I then gave her a 'dream feed' (dream feed is when you feed them while they are still asleep if it is difficult to rouse give them skin to skin contact and they should start suckling)before I went to bed and this helped her to sleep longer
most of all enjoy as it passes sooo quickly!
2006-09-19 04:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by heli 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had known:
*ultrasounds and dopplers change the brain cells of the baby - if I had known I wouldnt have done it
*vaginal exams at the birth are not necessary, you can say no!
*how good for you prenatal yoga is
* It is normal for the birth process to take a long time (more than 24 hours) and not to call the midwife so soon
*It's really annoying to have extra people at the birth, especially who have never been through birth.
* I wish I had read Ina May's Guide to Childbirth by Ina May Gaskin
2006-09-19 03:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by sheila 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wish someone had told me how exceptionally hungry I would be after labor and delivery...Pack some fruit and peanut butter or something in your hospital bag.. After I delivered I was ready to eat the bed I was so hungry.. Hospital food sucks so plan ahead and bring something along... Yes someone can go out and get you something not hospital food but a snack for while they are gone is good... 20 minutes seems like hours when you are that hungry..
2006-09-19 10:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish someone had told me that sex could be very painful the first few times after you have your baby! It felt like I was giving birth again!
2006-09-19 03:44:01 · answer #6 · answered by itsjustme 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not to let a 350lb on-call doctor tell you that your slim doctor was wrong when she told you that you were dilated enough to go to the hospital. (Big difference in finger size) And don't let them send you home if you feel like you need to stay at the hospital.
That sex after wards would be painful.
That if you don't have medical insurance (my hubby had just started a new job when we got pregnant -after thinking for 10 years we couldn't have kids- so I had to go on medicaid) They will try to tell you that you HAVE to have some form of bc before they can let you leave the hospital. They will be very persistent about it.... I could go on & on but I'll stop here.
2006-09-19 03:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
One of the toughest things for me was the insomnia I had while I was pregnant. I often used to sit and cry because it became so frustrating to try and sleep to no avail! I also had bad back problems while I was pregnant. Look forward to your labour and birth, it is an experience that I hold very dear to my heart! I loved every (ouch) minute of it!
2006-09-19 04:20:58 · answer #8 · answered by Slk 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wish someone had told me that I wouldn't sleep for 2 months after the baby was born! It was only after my baby was born that people kept telling me that you're suppose to sleep when the baby is sleeping, that you have to be on their schedule.
2006-09-19 03:47:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I haven't had my kid yet but I'm at 40wks. A couple months ago someone posted almost this same question. I thought it was genius and I kept it in my watch list. What a great read for people who are pregnant for the first time!
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Agqg8DUJKq28fq0unFul1YPsy6IX?qid=20060805003746AA0Skzc
2006-09-19 04:01:59 · answer #10 · answered by Miss. Bliss 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋