we kinda want to start having kids but I'm not sure. Because I want to go ahead and have kids but at the same time I feel like I still want to party and have fun and I can't do that anymore after I have kids. But my husband is 26 and I don't want him to be 30 before we start a family. Any advice?
2006-09-18 20:39:14 · 16 answers · asked by emi 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Wait till he's 30 to have kids or u will be so bored at home. U will end up partying while leaving ur kids at home. U don't want that. U want to wait till u have partied urself out and have all the time in the world to spend with ur children. It's best to have fun and wait now or else u will regret it later and be tempted to party ALL the time. Have fun now. Ur only in ur teens and 20s for so long. When u have kids, u will feel too tired to party or do anything fun. Enjoy ur young energetic self now, kiddo. 30 is not old at all to have kids.
2006-09-18 20:41:43 · answer #1 · answered by bebeeangeldust 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl it has been only 5 month sand he is 26 thats like 4 more years wait till u get into ur 20's
u dont want kids which are a responsibilty at such a young age
talk to him make him understand having kids is a big step and u both needto be ready for it
and he can have kids when he is 31 or 32
live ur life till u r atleast 24 or 25
dont give it up
i may be sounding very harsh towards having kids but someone i knew got pregnant wen she ws 17 and she kept the baby
and now she really doesnt get time forherself
2006-09-19 03:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by carissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush...Whatever you do DON'T rush! I am 21, her father is 27, and we have an 8 month old baby, and just separated. We were together for 3 years before we had our baby. You should wait until you fefinetly feel like you're done wanting to party, if you don't you could end up being angry when you have a child and can't. Even if your husband is older when you start a family, its better to know that you are both ready.
2006-09-19 04:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by ttstar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from someone who had her first child at 17, and her second a few days shy of 20, I would tell you to go with your heart. It is you and your husband's decision as to when you guys want to start planning kids. My husband and I decided,"If it happens, it happens" and it happened, twice! I wouldn't say that we have missed out on anything or wish that we could go out and party oppose to staying at home and hanging with the kids. When you become a parent, then you don't really care about that stuff anymore. I mean yes, you will still be able to go out everyonce in a while, and have at least one night a month to you and hubby, as long as you guys have parents around though... then you have nothing to worry about! LoL it's a known fact that grandparents are allowed to spoil their grandkids rotten... and they do!
2006-09-19 04:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by leigh2004wbhs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready, then do not have a child. You wouldn't want to feel any resentment towards that human being for something he/she couldn't help.
and to everyone out there who thinks that when you have a baby, your life becomes drab and boring...you obviously shouldn't be a parent. I'm 18 and I have a son and have not had one boring or tiring day yet. The things you love before you have a baby change. Everyday is exciting and new. Looking back on my life without him seems boring.
2006-09-19 03:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're kind of rushing it. Your husband can produce kids until he gets geriatric, so you should have kids on your schedule, not his. My wife is ten years younger than me, and I realize that the downside of marrying someone younger is that they're not going to be ready for certain life events when I am.
So party and have fun. You have plenty of time to have kids, and your husband's clock isn't ticking.
2006-09-19 03:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by Rainier 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personaly i think the age diff is HUGE!! i was shocked...ma bf is 22 and im 20 so its not a big deal there. but im kind of in that situaton too...he wants to get married when im 21 or so and wants to have kids but i told him i wanna finish skool tho. i AM goin to marry him..but kids...i dont know...im still young and i wanna live ma life until i bring a new one in this world. and to make it even more stressful we ben dating for almost 4 months....thats kinda too soon to start thinking about that. but neways...i dun even know if i helped u i jus wanted to tell u that i relat to this...kinda..
good luck to u
2006-09-19 04:16:49 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs.Durossndamaken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have kids now, good news is, you can party and have fun with your kids when they grow up, and you're not too old yet.
No bad news that I can think of.
2006-09-19 03:45:18 · answer #8 · answered by Timeless - watcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not sure, wait another year. Or even 2. then your husband will be 28, thats not a bad age to start.
If you rush you will regret it.
2006-09-19 03:42:19 · answer #9 · answered by sheila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married, hopefully because you were mature, and not because you wanted to party. I really think you need to start your family, but you're going to have to stop thinking that you're "missing out on fun." That creates a terrible, horrible conflict of interest.
2006-09-19 03:45:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋