2006-09-18 20:24:47 · 21 answers · asked by pureessence 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Please explain
2006-09-18 20:27:45 · update #1
What kind of monster would?
Explanation (though I don't know why one is needed):
Children are precious, impressionable, fragile, and need love. They do not need to be abandoned for the latest honey. An adult with children owes his/her life to his/her children, even if it costs his/her own happiness. Children didn't ask to be brought into such an unstable environment, and the adult has the responsibility to make damn sure the environment doesn't get any more unstable than it already is. Children don't need divided attentions, an example of promiscuity, and they definitely don't need to be passed off to someone else for babysitting when they should be being RAISED. Anyone, ANYONE, who would leave or neglect or give up their children for the sake of a damn shack-up deserves a merciless punishment they will probably never get. Imagine... an adult flitting emptily and aimlessly from one lustful high to the next while his/her very own children rot and spoil, unloved, on the back burner. I've never been so disgusted at a thought.
If it's simply that the children don't like the new lover, then that's too bad for the lovers. The children deserve a safe, loving household where they feel love for and loved by their parents. If they are minors and still are being raised, they are to be respected and put first. If they are adult children, that's different.
2006-09-18 20:27:07 · answer #1 · answered by ©2007 answers by missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not exactly choose a new lover over your children, but then certain happiness which all adults require sometimes can't be based on what children want. If the child is just upset because you aren't with their father/mother any more, they can try to act out and insist you not enter into another relationship. We all know in time this has to change. With communication it can be done. Although time is an issue as well. You shouldn't jump on the first relationship that comes your way. You should factor the kids and the new lover all together to make sure it all mixes together and equals a good combination. Compromise is something every family member must make.
2006-09-18 20:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have seen just one case where a couple stayed together for the sake of the children. 99%, including my own parents who have left me in care of relatives for new lives, would in reality choose the well-being of the new lover over that of the children.
Coming from this background, I honestly can't tell for sure.
2006-09-18 20:39:37 · answer #3 · answered by Siddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong and illogical to choose your new lover over your kids. But people do it anyway. Love is blind. That why there are so many children left out on the street. If you have a chance to think it twice, please do not do that.
2006-09-18 20:37:11 · answer #4 · answered by devid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never! You can always find time for relationships when your children are adults. Why would you want to have a relationship with someone who would make you choose anyway?
2006-09-18 20:32:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
None people be responsive to your spouse, and each person bargains with 'circumstances' in a distinctive way. particular, that is achieveable for a spouse to get pregnant with yet another guy's toddler and not sense accountable approximately that, probable unusual, yet achieveable. I could ask your self the way you will examine out this toddler each and daily and not punish her or him for being the end results of your spouse's infidelity. i wish the two considered one of you're seeing a marriage counselor jointly that might assist you be truthful with one yet another approximately what you sense.
2016-10-01 03:25:39 · answer #6 · answered by boland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only have one child and no, there will always be others but your child/children are not worth loosing over a lover....
2006-09-18 20:27:26 · answer #7 · answered by elihueagns 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Neveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeer
2006-09-18 20:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely Not, New loves may come and go, but your children are the most unconditional love you'll ever have.
2006-09-18 20:27:10 · answer #9 · answered by spacey51101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that has become a epidemic here in the usa all these smart women well educated with careers good values but the brain seems to take a break were they value their happiness more than what god has given you..........................no man is above your kids im a man and i value family more than all the money or happiness
2006-09-18 20:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by rammesis2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋