MY ex keeps calling me..its been a year and half since we broke up. WE havent had sex and i live 2 hours away from him but he keeps calling...why do you think this is? he says he cares and loves me but we are both living seperate lives and he has a new girlfriend!! if he has a new girl..why has he continued to call me after 1.5 years? and its not a booty call b/c i refuse to have sex w.him!. i still love him but don't know what to do b/c he has another girl at home (i live 2 hours away). its killing me to keep in touch with him b/c i miss him so much. he is emotionally shy....but he broke up with me...so i dont know how to act. should i tell him i need time to meet other guys and that he is holding me back? if so will he ever call me again? any advice..this has been all i think about for the past 1.5 years..im so emotionally drained!
2006-09-18 20:19:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you haven't even truely made up your mind on whether or not you really want to move on or not. You NEED to do that first before you can make a good decision about this. Unless you know your own heart, you will never be able to follow the road to happiness.
2006-09-18 20:49:56 · answer #1 · answered by Motoko 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if your 23 or under I'd say no, wait for 8 more years and if he's still calling you . . . maybe.
LOL j/k
Good question? I'm afraid no one here can help really, it's up to you to decide whether you want to do a round 2 with him or not.
Only he can really say why he's calling you. If he's emotionally shy, it may just be that he's already laid down the "getting to know" someone part and doesn't want to come out of his shell to do that again
if anything do the other girl a favor and record his calls and leave them on her voicemail.
2006-09-19 03:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be love. It could also be plain old companionship. I call my girlfriend everyday and talk to her. Sometimes I call just when I'm walking to class or when I'm grabbing a bite to eat.
Now she's studying abroad and I can't call her and it's like there's a void... I can't just pick up the phone and talk to someone while I'm walking someplace.
I would bet that he just loves talking to you, listening to you, it's just become part of his life. You shouldn't be afraid to be open with him about your own desires. If he has a girlfriend than he has moved on enough that you should too.
If you like talking to him, keep talking, but don't feel like he's forcing you into any weird postion, he's just looking for a friendly ear, probably!
Best of luck!
2006-09-19 03:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by murphly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop calling. You sound like you are exhausted by the situation, and he has made his position quite clear if he is seeing another girl. You need to make a clean break and move on with your life, yes you may always have a special place in his heart, and vice versa, but you don't need to keep in touch to be sure of that.
Go out, have fun, move on!
2006-09-19 03:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by stepfordswiss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Indeed it might be true love. Maybe that girl is just an emotional escapade. Next time he calls you try to feel his voice. Try to analyse his questions,voice tones, and if you know him it will take you some time to figure what he is asking from you. Love is not all about sex. Maybe he is not getting enough emotional support with the girl with whom he is stayin.
Something is missin in his life and probably you r the one to fill it.
Just figure it out.
2006-09-19 03:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by lucky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the bad part is the g\f sure he still loves you he wont let you go to meet other men and you wont loose him if you do but if you still love him then just date him if you think it will work for you go for it or just get away from him give it a try good luck to the both of you
2006-09-19 04:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was once in ur position too. ok except maybe he doesnt have a girl yet.
but he keeps calling n wanting to meet up. we became good frens after the break up actually. n we communicate better after the break up. we became each other's confidante.
at one point of time i was as confused as u. cause he met this great girl. he still keeps calling me n he talks about that girl to me. no doubt i still have feelings for him. n yea, i miss him alot too. missed his... i duno.. maybe the sense of being loved by him cause he's sucha a great guy but like ur ex he is emotionally shy. he barely utter the words 'i love u' to me thruout our one year relationship together.
as time goes on, n he kept contacting me as usual, i felt weird about the whole situation cause i am stil in love with him but he likes another girl. i started avoiding his calls. n eventually one day, we lost contact completely.
last i heard from his best mate, he's happy with the other girl. n his best mate told me, ' maybe he hold on to u for too long. he said he was guilty for ending things with u'. yikes. it hurts alot. so after sucha long time, i find that he still contacts me cause he was gulity of ending things with me.
maybe he just wanted to make sure u are okay. cause he's guilty of ending things with u. if he stil have feelings for u,he wouldnt have another girl in his life right? he has moved on. it's time u shld move on too.
just remember the relationship as 'it was all good while it lasts'n n let go of him.
good luck. :)
2006-09-19 04:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by keira 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him straight what he wants.
He is CHEATING his current gf if he loves you, so take that thing also in consideration. May be you should get a guy for yourself and spend time with him.
2006-09-19 04:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him you need time to meet other guys but rather go and meet them!! He has no right to have expectations higher than what he can offer on his side, at the moment.
Does he have girlfriend? Good, fine. You will get a boyfriend, sooner or later, too - don't allow him to be an egoist!
I am not saying you should tell him all about the guys you meet newly. Nope. Just the essential. And if he stops calling after that, he wasn't true love. Egoism and posessiveness (cause this is what he is doing to you now) is NOT true love.
Keep talking to him, but don't limit yourself. Go and meet other guys, live your life. He will come after you if he meant all of it for real. And if not: NEXT ONE! :)
Wish you best of luck and love! :)
2006-09-19 03:40:42 · answer #9 · answered by Hibernating Ladybird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't put him on needles! I know that every guy, is capable of being a great guy, but the un-forgiving-ness and lack of understanding of a female can sabotoge any man's greatess efforts to be a better person.
2006-09-19 03:25:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋