My mother is a slob. But I have to live with her, no options (why, long story to explain).
How to not emotionally affected by her?
She don't let me touch her stuffs, yet her stuffs is all over the house. I just want 'half of the table' (in the living room) empty. And it's impossible for her, as if telling her to walk on the moon.
2006-09-18 20:12:28 · 11 answers · asked by asknanswer 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
hoard? Well, I seen a tv documentary show about this kind of emotional problem. But my mother refuse to seek help.
And she is my mother, I cannot be too extreme, or else the result is scary (she will grab knife from the kitchen as weapon)
2006-09-18 20:27:01 · update #1
First be patient. Claim YOUR area, or space. It will take some time to modify her behavior but with patience and diligence, you will have your own space.
Every time you sit down on your side of the table just rearrange everything that was put there since you last sat there.
Don't put her things too far away from her or she will feel lost and unable to do what she always does when it comes to paperwork and the sort.
Eventually she will like that her bills or biz cards, or pens or little things are all in front of her, but neat. She may never totally modify her old habits but I'll bet it will sure help you.
Remember, this will take time, but she will respect your space a little more.
2006-09-18 20:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by California Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There comes a time when an intervention has to come into play. Sorry I can't help any further that this 'cause I'm not a professional therapist. But I do watch "Dr. Phil" from time to time. It's good to know that you care enough about your mother and knowing she needs help.
An intervention with friends and family is the first step to recovery from whatever problem your mother might have. It's the first step for your mother to admit that she has a problem. A professional therapist or something similar could help you put together this intervention.
Shortly after that step is taken care of the rest will be taken of one step at a time.
2006-09-18 21:08:28 · answer #2 · answered by mrgoodbar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take all the crap to the dump and tell her to get off her butt and smarten up. Be responsible or get her own place and live in squaller on her own. Stick to your guns and do it every time crap is on the floor or where it is not supposed to be---dump it---I know as I had a family member like that and I did fix it by doing so. Clothes, food, cups, plates---dumped in the garbage if left around and they learned real quick that I was serious.
2006-09-18 20:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by colinhughes333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have to resort to calling the welfare dept....if she is on SSI,...you can get some help. YOu can tell them you are living in an unsafe enviornment and tell them that you need some help..that you do not want to leave her,...but you can't take it any more and they might make her either clean it herself or help you get out...if you are underage...I hate to say it, but you might call the child protective people and tell them that she is not an abuser..but you think she has mental issues...and that she is a wonderful person but needs to keep the house clean can they help.,.I hate to see the authorities get involved, but what else can you do? Pray on it also.
2006-09-18 22:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't give enough info like why you have to live with her and your age. No matter what, this person sounds abusive to you and herself and should get help. You should really try to get away from her as staying with her does no good for either of you. You might as well be prostituting on the street as it's just as good for your emotional well being as living with an abuser. Find a local hotline and look into you options.
2006-09-18 20:41:36 · answer #5 · answered by mama mia! 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, not to be rude. It sounds like your mother is a hoard. It's like she needs junk around to make her feel better. It seems like she has an issue with letting go. She might need to see one someone about that, it seems to be very serious!
2006-09-18 20:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm sounds like a problem for you, I have lived with messy people before... My solution was to get a large box - to which I made a big sign on the front saying "Lost Property" everytime my housemates left stuff out I dumped it in the lost property box.. when the box was full I threatened that if they didn't got through it and put the contents away neatly I would take it to the markets on sunday and sell the contents for cash or take it to charity, they soon learnt to keep things tidy and clean after themselves..
2006-09-18 20:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by channille 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live with one. I have to clean up after him all the time. I don't care tho, I'm happy with him.
2006-09-18 22:07:56 · answer #8 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try pointing out the benefits of cleanliness, if there are any....
2006-09-18 20:23:50 · answer #9 · answered by thrag 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont live with a slob
2006-09-18 20:20:17 · answer #10 · answered by Biggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋