my mom and i had an arguement about how i always see my dad and never visit her. she likes to yell alot, so i like to limit my visits there. well she told me today that shes taking me off of her will because i dont deserve anything from her and that shes putting an extra lock on her door so i cant get in. i live on my own, work full time overnight at a hospital pharmacy and go to school. i dont do drugs, im a pretty good student, do i really deserve this? i was thinking about apolegising just so i dont have a bad relationship with my mom. i know this problem isnt as bad as others ive seen on yahoo answers, but this situation has made me cry for hours and made me feel really guilty, which is probably what she was trying to do.
2006-09-18 20:10:27 · 15 answers · asked by married1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she is taking her anger out on you because of your dad, and the only way to hurt him is to hurt you, Just step back, let her cool off, in time she will come around. but the Question is when? only time well tell.
2006-09-18 20:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by dmncprkr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't deserve that!! No one does. Sometimes parents say things they should not say, and they don't realize how much it hurts their children. I remember my mom told me that I couldn't do anything, just because I had health problems. Perhaps your mother feels like you love your father more than her, even if it's not true; or she may have some anger issues that have nothing to do with you. Parents often hide their own problems because that is how they were taught as children. Many of our grandparents were living during the Depression, and many of the mothers and fathers had to leave the home in order to help out with the war, or something. Some parents may still have abandonment issues, or rejection issues, because they may have been neglected when they were children (not necessarily by their parents, but they could have been made fun of at school, or something like that).
Hope everything works out.
2006-09-19 03:18:58 · answer #2 · answered by poeticjustice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a very good person and deserve something better. Unluckily, you have to face such an unbalanced relationship in your family. But it is nothing to do with you. It is the same thing that you have not decided that you were born to this family. It is given by nature. You have to think that you are lucky to have your dad. Your mom is suffering from hate and jealous feeling. But nothing you can do about it. Just keep your way. You are about to be successful in life.
2006-09-19 03:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by devid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get together and talk to your mom. Tell her how you feel. You don't go over much because she is always yelling. Tell her you love her as much as you love your dad. Be straight up and tell her you want a close relationship with her and that life is to short to fight and not get along. Let her know you been crying and that you need her in your life because you love her and she's your mom. I hope you both can make a mend.
2006-09-19 03:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mother is very upset with your choices but I don't think she hates you. Explain to your mother that you just don't like being around all that yelling. Maybe thats why your dad is gone. After that tell her that you love her and maybe you and her could go and do things together. Go out to lunch. Visit a park. Something out in public, that way she wouldn't yell so much.
2006-09-19 03:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think ur mom hates u....she probably wants u to give her more attention and be concerned about her more but doesn't know how to express her feelings in a proper way. So she tries to let u know by argueing with and limiting ur visits to ur father. She's now a single parent and needs ur support and love.
2006-09-19 03:22:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! I don't agree with you and others. I think no mother can ever be jelous with her kids. Rather mother is the only one who feel pride to see her kids going high in the society. You have develop a miss understanding with your mom. The best way is to discuss it with her with open heart and with all your sincerity I hope and sure that your problem will be solved.
2006-09-19 03:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you seem to me a very good daughter because it's very important to you to build a buitiful relationship with your mother.
Look no one in the world will ever love you as much as your mother does, I'm a mother and I know what I'm talking about.
And the way she is acting enforce my thoughts may be she is affraid that your relationship with your father will make you on his side, let her know that you can love them both and your relationship with her could be very special and a million dad can not replace it.
keep trying, and remember how much pain she went throgh to give you birth into this world,you must forgive her what ever she does,you can make her happy,and on that day you will fell compleat.
Just be honest and speek from your heart.
you're so important to her.
She don't want to loss you.
2006-09-19 04:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by aseelmikdam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so damn bad. Try talking to your mother - and I mean again and again. Just let her know how you feel and you should try to apologise even if it was not your fault. She's just your mother and you do not have to be egoistic towards her. A sorry would not hurt would it. Just try talking to her. Repetitive pestering for love would usually work! Good luck and cheer up!.
2006-09-19 06:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by Hardrock 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you need quality time together. No bull sh** really get the emotions out there. Tell her how she effects you and that you want a relationship with her. Maybe it could be a start.
2006-09-19 04:50:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋