I found recently found out that my boyfriend still has feelings for his ex. I guess he is still friends w/her..(she lives 2 hours away) and they talk on the phone (i know this for sure b/c ive checked his phone) GUYS...is it possible to have feelings for two girls at once? Have you ever still has feelings for your ex but found a new love? can you be in love w/two people at once? will it ever work out between us?
2006-09-18 19:34:39 · 19 answers · asked by Tina S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to talk to him. If he still has feelings for his ex then you trying to make something with him is a no win situation for you. You know about these feelings that he has, and you will always wonder about them, they will make you less secure. In a committed relationship, you should not have to wonder everyday if this will be the day that the other person comes to you to tell you that they can't live without the other person. Be fair to yourself find someone that can commit themselves completely to you.
2006-09-18 19:45:10 · answer #1 · answered by whatelks67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably has alot to do with how they broke up, how long ago they broke up etc. Sometimes people get along better after they seperate and are just friends and you don't need to be intimadated about it. Does it feel like he is being secretive about his feelings for her? I think if it was a good relationship that just didn't work o0ut there will probably always be some amount of feelings left there. you can't erase the past, you can only go forward and make you own past with him from this point on. Be with them when they talk and make sure you are comfortable with the relationship and don't feel like there is anything going on behind your back. Once you find that out, then let it be, men can have femal friends, even ex girlfriends or wives and still be a good boy friend to you. Good luck and Be fair.
2006-09-19 02:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly believe that once you love someone you will continue to love them forever even if the relationship was not meant to last a lifetime. Just because you still love someone doesn't mean that love was good for you. It is absolutely possible to love many people at the same time, because not all loves are the same. I have been lucky enough to love three times in my lifetime, and I am currently happily married to the third. I love my husband differently than I loved the two boyfriends in the past. I will continue to love them all until the day I die. If he loves you your relationship will be his first priority and he will not want to risk loosing you to an ex or to anybody. Time will tell...
2006-09-19 02:46:48 · answer #3 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know why people assume that, when in a relationship, we can or should turn off our emotions and/or attractions about someone else. Of course he still has feelings for his ex, there will always be a soft spot for one, if it ended nicely, or a cold spot if it didn't once you open your heart to someone, it takes a long time to lose those feelings, if ever. Talk to him about it, but remember, you cannot and should not tell him that it's wrong for him to have those feelings. He wouldn't be worth it if he could switch hhis affections so easily, would he?
2006-09-19 02:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by Space Case 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he has feelings for his ex good or bad. I have feelings for my ex and it has been over 10 years. I could never see myself in a relationship with him again because of the way he acts. Most of the time I don't think about him for months at a time. when I do think about him I don't want to be with him. The only time I recognize feelings of love for him are when I hear about him being sick or having a hard time it makes me feel sorry for him. Yes; you can love many people at one time and in many different ways. We all love everyone different. Nobody will ever be able to take anothers place because everybody is different.
2006-09-19 02:45:09 · answer #5 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I'm Chris. People break up 'cause it just doesn't work. Rarely the two people stay friends. I think when people break up it's only natural for them to still have feeling for each other, but don't worry. It will definately work between u 2.
2006-09-19 02:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by chriskelly656 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who said that he Loves you?
You love one and use the other, until eventually, the feelings turns into some sort of being "FOND of you feeling", or CARE A LOT ABOUT YOU" feelings.
He has a special BOND with his EX and no one will EVER be able to destroy it. It's called REAL LOVE.
Then, you have the saying, I LOVE YOU BUT I'M NOT "IN LOVE" WITH YOU. Duhhhhh ! What an excuse to not admit the truth.
Has he ever told you that he LOVES you?
2006-09-19 02:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by Vera W 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have feelings for a lot of girls, we are not wired the same way like women, but once in a lifetime we found our soul mate, you may not be what he is looking for,
2006-09-19 02:39:44 · answer #8 · answered by elcabula2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell ya but if your boyfriend still has feelings for his ex then say bye bye most likely he is going to go back to her. All i can say is tell him how you feel. Let him know you dont like him talking to her unless hes helping her out with her life or something.But that is totally up to you but remember you should come first.
2006-09-19 02:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by shelly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that can't be love because u can never love twice. love with two at once it is impossible however it could be friendly chatting because feeling of ex friend always remains. be good friend of your b/f and understand his feeling, Trust him,care him if u love him otherwise kick him
2006-09-19 02:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by nishu 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋