if a new relationship is taking more effort than you'd like, does that mean its not worth it?

Question

it seems like everytime we try to get together, circumstances are non permitting.

Answer 1

I have been around the block, and yes, I do find that if getting together becomes difficult, then it is time to move on.
I have been through this recently, and felt much better as soon as I let go. and think about it. If they are difficult to meet up with in the beginning, how much attention would be given to the relationship down the road??

Answer 2

Probably not worth it. Then again I moved to be closer to my boyfriend who was a whole state away. So it mostly depends on how much effort you are willing to put into it. We've gone through some things we didn't even think about before I moved here, but we've grown a lot through them and learned to communicate. So I'd say all the effort I've put into this is worth it all the way. Even if it might be more effort than a relationship that started out closer geographically speaking. If you two have totally different schedules then that can put a damper on things. And it depends on how much you know about the guy. If there's real potentially there then try a few more times. If not then maybe it's not meant to be.

Answer 3

It depends on what you are looking for.

If you are just swinging through the dating jungle, looking for the next great ape man to come along, then no, it's not woth it.

BUT,

If you are looking for a real relationship, AND if you think that this guy could be the one, or a one, then by all means keep at it. Relationships need work to work. You get more out of it than what you put into it, let me tell you. Having been in a 'relationship' for the past six years has shown me that any work or trouble is more than made up for by the cameraderie, intimacy, and security inherent in a solid relationship. If you think that this could be one of those, then by all means, go for it.

Answer 4

It depends on the circumstances! Does he have kids he needs to spend time with and take care off? If so, are you willing to accept the fact, that kids are priority for know and you are supportive? It's up to you, how much you care for this person and how much you want to put into this relationship to make it work. If you feel it's to much effort on your part, than split.

Answer 5

No one said relationships were easy. They take effort and time usually later but in some cases - from the start ... evaluate if the person is worth the effort and time.

Answer 6

It depends if the circumstances are mostly because of him. If I guy wants to get close to you.. He will find a way.

If its still at the beginning stages.... Maybe your too available to him. Which freaks him out, shows you're insecure, and maybe too needy. Which is unattractive. Not for sure if this is your case, but seems to be a common circumstance.

Especially if your doing all the work.

Answer 7

No, sometimes relationships require a lot of work for people. But if you can find someone that makes you happy with less drama then yes, more effort than it's worth. Maybe you should look for something less complicated.

Answer 8

If you honestly believe it's more effort than it's worth then perhaps it is. But keep in mind every relationship takes some work.

Answer 9

No. Means you lack the committment and loyalty to make it work. And/or he does too. In that case, you may as well give up if you're hoping for a relationship that's like the shet you see on TV and flawless.

Answer 10

Stay in it, but cheat on him. No! not that cheating! I mean, cheat on him with yourself! One HUGE mistake I, and countless others make in relationships is focusing all our energy on that person and never ceasing from thinking about them. You can't stop the urge to think about your partner so I suggest you do fun things for yourself that you know he wouldn't enjoy, or perhaps, things he wouldn't approve of. This will allow you to keep from getting stressed over any issues that come up between the two of you.