I am a honest guy,and I have just been cheated on.I thought if I was 100% honest and understanding and of coarse loved this girl there shouldt be a problem.Out of all the guys who will cheat on there girls I was not one of them.well I guess nice guys finish last.I got screwed over big time and Im in the most painfull time of my life and I would like to know your story so I can feel just a little better that im not the only one going though this.....thanks
heart broken guy :-(
2006-09-18 18:52:52 · 20 answers · asked by j p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was in love, she left (we lived together), found out she was banging some guy--. Easily the most painful thing in my life. It's burned in me down to my inner soul. I would never ever want to go through that kind of pain again.
2006-09-18 18:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by cedykeman1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not by someone that I loved, but by someone that I was completely infatuated with. It was devastating at the time. I'm really sorry that you were hurt that way. It is terrible that people don't have the integrity that they should. Why some people don't do the honorable thing and end a relationship if they want to be with someone else, I don't know. It is selfish and immature of them though. Nice guys don't finish last. They are the ones that the girls are all looking for! Sure bad boys have a certain appeal, but it is short term only because they can't be trusted or depended on. No one wants to end up with them. Continue to be a good guy, what goes around comes around.... I hope that you'll find someone that appreciates you and will make you happy.
2006-09-18 19:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by Kami 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh believe me you r not the only one that has gone through this, is going through this, or is going to go through this. I was screwed over twice once by my first love and another by the guy I believed was going to be my husband. let me just tell u about the first time it happened. Well I loved this guy so much that till this day my heart misses him. We had the perfect relationship and then one day out of the blue he told me he was moving back to utah but that he would come back for me. i was heart broken and devestaded. i didnt know how i could live without him by my side. Well to make a long story short 3 mo later on christmas day i called him and he said why r u calling me? dont call me anymore. i have a three month old baby and im getting married. Imagine how I felt at that moment. My broken heart was filled with nothing but anger and i swore love didnt exist. But I have learned that eventhough at the momet the pain seems so unbearable that you cant eat or sleep that nothing seems to matter time really does heal all things. And the best thing to do is learn from your experience and move on because God has a better person out there for you.
2006-09-18 19:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by morenita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry this happened to you. I once had a boyfriend who dumped me and never explained why. It hurt a lot because he always told me he wanted to get married and we were so into each other. It never worked out but I believe it was for the best. You might not want to hear this now but maybe it's best you found this out now rather than later down the road. Not all women are cheaters just like all men are not cheaters. Just remember that when you can open your heart and love again. Keep being that nice guy and it will pay off with the right girl.
2006-09-18 19:03:20 · answer #4 · answered by LNZ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay... when I was 16 I met a guy in HS - had a HUGE Crush, Nothing ever happened. When I was 21 we started to work together and then started dating. I fell so completely in love! we were together a year and he had to go to Russia for 10 months. I was devastated. First we were going to break up and then HE decided he didnt want to be without me and the girls there didnt compare to me and our love - blah blah blah. So - being the loyal girl I am - I foolishly waited for him.
After a while in Russia he stopped emailing me back and I took the hint. He came back from Russia - a couple months early. Called me and I went over and he said how sorry he was blah blah blah - that we had something special. I got happy, the next day he decided it was better to just break up. So my heart was crushed!
A few months later he called out of the blue - we talked and goit back together. I was happy again. Well we were together for 8 more months when I got pregnant and had a misscarriage after 3 months. The day of my ultra sound to make sure I was okay he dumped me. I wasnt even over the misscariage and he broke up with me. I know how it feels to have a broken heart! Good luck sugar!
2006-09-18 19:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by sassysharli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the club my friend. I am sorry. That's all I can say. I was dating this girl and I got deployed for a few months and after a lot of trouble I finally found a way to come over earlier to surprise her. I was standing on the door with a red rose and it was almost midnight, when I knock on that door and the first thing she tells me its that there is another man in the house. I didnt even care if it was a friend or just hanging out, it was late and I was not told of this. No worse feeling than not being able to go into your own home and not having anywhere else to go or anyone to turn to.
Tough times.....
2006-09-18 19:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a silly little girl...my ex commented on me. He left me while i was badly sick in bed and came back 4 in the morning while promised me would be back by 9:15pm. i left him at 1am in the morning without saying a words or something coz he didn't care about me( i haven't done anything worng by the way) I loved this guy, but he is just being unresaonable to me all the time. like accusing me of hanging out with male friends talking about my male friends all the time...said i didn't appreciate the chages he had made for me...and he wanted to plan a 3-nights-trip with some other girl without telling me anything..... OH GOD that's the most hurtful thing i 'd ever had in a relationship. I guess i am really silly...he made me a dummy...he made me a dummy...i just swallow it myself...cheer up man!!
2006-09-18 19:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by Chanel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man I just found out a couple months ago my fiance cheated on me several times behind my back. I loved her to death and she basically ruined 6 years of my life. The funny but sad part is she tried to stay with the guy she cheated on me with and he got rid of her lol. But now she's sleeping around with every dude she meets.
I know this cause her best friends tell me things. Man it hurts. We grew up and had all our firsts together. All i can tell you is what i know. You've got to move on with your life. It's the most painful thing in the world and all I can think about is her but I'm doing my best to move on and you've got to do the same.
Good luck
2006-09-18 19:10:25 · answer #8 · answered by A concerned American 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am a 34 year old woman when i was 28 i met this guy. he was all i ever thought about he was the guy for me. we always had a great time when we were together, he made me laugh and he made me happy he made me feel like i was the one true love of his life, and i felt that he was my soul mate. i have never felt this way with anyone, before or since then. anyway we spent ALOT of time together we were together both day and night,many, many nights!! and then one day he told me to sit down that we needed to talk,he told me that he loved me more than he had ever loved any one in his life he told me that i was the one woman he had always dreamed of marrying and that i made him whole that i was the one thing missing from his life. just when i thought he was going to propose he tells me that he is married and has 2 children at home. this broke my heart and still to this day it hurts i love him and a part of me always will,i know he was the one for me,but i told him that he had a family and to go home to them.i couldn't stand to even look at him. so there you go, your not the only one going through pain i still think of him almost everyday.
2006-09-18 19:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lonely and romantic people are everywhere like me. You are not alone and good people does exist. Where I live it seems as if guys like you aren't even born yet.
I guess we'll just have to be patient to find our someone. Maybe she wasn't meant for you.
Don't change into one of the bad guys, because there aren't too many.
I wish you the best and don't worry good things do happen to good people.
2006-09-18 19:06:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋