I know you are not supposed to have sex before you are married, but I am wondering what other kind of sexual behavior is appropriate. Are we allowed to see eachother naked? What kind of touching is ok? In any cases where the Bible has an answer on these issues, I appreciate an answer.
Please only serious answers, because this is a serious question.
2006-09-18 18:41:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You don't want to do anything with her before you're married that you don't want her doing with another guy after you're married.
2006-09-18 18:42:22 · answer #1 · answered by s2scrm 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The only biblical writing that I can give you will upset quite a few, but the bible is not about making individuals comfortable, its about the truth.
In old testament law, it is stated that if you lie (have sex) with a virgin before marriage, you must do one of two things, marry her immediately or pay the dowery to her parents for the merchandise that you damaged.
Simply put, any kind of sexual behavior would lead to a little bit further , then a little bit further and so on until before you know it, its too late and the deed is done.
Kissing her in a greeting sort of way is not considered sexual or I am in trouble, because I kiss my grandparents and aunts and uncles and my children. Kissing with passion would be the wrong approach.
Keep is simple and let the passion continue to build, it will be a blessing from God when you have waited to fulfill what he created you to do at the time that he created you to do it.
2006-09-18 19:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by cindy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure of any particual verses, but I know a few things that should help clear things up a bit. I know a married couple that didn't even kiss til their wedding day, their reason was because they didn't want to invite temptation into the relationship that would cause them to sin.
Personally I don't see anything wrong with holding hands and stuff of that nature, but I would be findful of my conscience, listen to it, if you feel like your being tempted to lust and what not, then stop what your doing. Otherwise, you'll be surprised how fast one little thing can lead to another, and then before you know it, you've already committed some very serious sins. It is just easier to not invite temptation and stay away from it than it is to fight it.
A book that I would suggest reading would be "Boy Meets Girl" by Joshua Harris. It'll help you out in the dating process, and it talks about the issue that your asking about as well.
2006-09-18 18:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jason M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you have Christ living on the inside of you, then you should know in your heart what is right when it comes to physical contact. Nakedness is not a sin, just what you are probably thinking about when you see a naked person is. Kissing is probably ok, but not heavily making out because that can lead to more inappropriate things like touching, nakedness, etc. You should really try to stay out of situations where you'll be tempted to be intimate with someone. Alone time should be spent talking about the future, becoming closer emotionally not only to each other but also to God.
2006-09-18 19:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the Bible specifies about the length of dating since that wasn't an issue back then. It speaks about not lusting in your heart so that naked stuff is kind of a no no. But I imagine you have to touch on some level. You'll have to make the moral choice for yourself. I would say the Bible is pretty strict about these things.
2006-09-18 18:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by mamaloo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pilgrim:
I wouldn't want my future husband to hold hands with other women after we're married, so I shouldn't hold his hand now? What part of the bible was that in?
Serious answer: I don't think the bible is specific on that. I think that if you treat your girl with respect and love then do what you wish. If you don't want to have sex until you're married then don't. If you're looking for a bible quote that says "thou shalt not go beyond third base" , I don't think that there is one.
Just be respectful and patient and maybe pray about it. Maybe a more Christian oriented forum would know the answer if you're looking for something directly from the bible. Otherwise, I fear you'll get a lot of well meaning opinions from other peoples interpretations of the bible or things that preachers have said.
Whatever happens, good luck to you guys! Hope you find the answer you're looking for!
2006-09-18 18:51:57 · answer #6 · answered by Miss. Bliss 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Growing up in the church, i was taught that oral sex is a form of sex and also seeing some one naked was wrong, i have yet to find the naked part in the bible. i would say keep it g rated if u possibly can. I know how hard that can be, but if she is the right girl for u she will understand. Besides its worth the wait when u find the girl of your dreams that loves u and its meant to be. its the best!!!!!
2006-09-18 18:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can get along with her to know her more. But do not get too deep down if you are not sure if she is the one. People change as they grow. So I suggested to get involve in this of thing when you are mature. The bible says any sex b4 marriage is consider as adultery. You may only live once, but make sure it is worth it. It is not appropriate to see her in naked. This is giving way to lust.
2006-09-18 18:48:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like you already know what's inappropriate as a Christian. like someone else said, lust is what should avoid - seeing each other naked under 'lustful' circumstances would be wrong as a christian.
obviously we haven't all been very good about these rules since we're human. if you're a stronger man than many of the rest of us, you'll be able to resist these temptations; many other have.
unfortunately you're not going to get serious answers about our faith from 1/2 the people here btw,
2006-09-18 18:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by kujigafy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"you have heard that it was said, 'you shall not commit adultery' but i tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
-Matthew 5:27,28
" 'i have the right to do anything,' you say-but not everything is beneficial. 'i have the right to do anything,' but i will not be mastered by anything.....the body however is not meant for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body......flee from sexual immorality. all other sins people commit are outside their bodies, but those who sin sexuall, sin against their own bodies.......you are not your own; you were bought at a price. therefore honor God with you bodies."
-1 Corinthians 6:12-20
Do not listen to what anyone else says, listen to God and His word, for He is the only one that you are going to answer to. Read His word, find out for yourself, do not just listen to what others say.
may God show you what you are seeking to find.
"...seek and you will find...." Matthew 7:7
2006-09-18 19:31:04 · answer #10 · answered by fight the tide 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this may sound medieval, but you ought not to kiss even because it ma lead to sex, the only exception is if your self-control is good enough to defer that kind of action.
Good luck
2006-09-18 18:44:20 · answer #11 · answered by Jehan J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋