i cheated on her and tell her about it 8 months ago. then i stoped cheating. we wer ok but then, that 8 months she was always insisting for us to be officially commited again but then, i always turn her down but deep inside me i wanted it too but im not sure and wanted that i want to focus on my life, be single and stay as we are- friends and lovers. But, one day i decided and made up my mind that i want this! i want her back into my life again but when i asked her, She dont want us any more,only but friends, but our sweetness with each other have never gone. One day i found out the reason why she didnt want it anymore, a guy has been courting her. My world came crushing down. i asked her for a chance and she balanced who wil she chose between us, but then i become paranoid all the time and make hold her on whatever she does. But she told me she cant resist the new guy. Then she decided to choose the guy. Now, its been two months that they have their relationship. Is there a way?
2006-09-18 18:38:25 · 7 answers · asked by zipperman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im planning to ask her once and for all. to have an official closure and her finally which path she will take. another thing is that im so confused why still she contacting my mother secretly but my mom reveals it to me. i mean that weve been together for 3 years and she was very close to my mom. so whats the plan. what will i tell her for the last time to ask her back. whatever her decision i will respect. but somehow i want her back. what should i do and tell her. im planing this so it will turn out great. please give some advice. tnx.
2006-09-18 18:38:53 · update #1
It's over. Move on, you're best off forgetting about her.
We all make mistakes, and hurt people we love. When we do that, it damages or destroys our relationship with the person we hurt. On the bright side, we learn from our mistakes, and we (hopefully) won't make the same mistake in future relationships.
From what you're saying, it sounds to me like you messed up this relationship pretty thoroughly. Why should she get back with a guy who broke her heart and cheated on her, when she's already involved with another guy who hasn't done that? No, she's clearly moved on, and if you're smart, you'll do the same.
The sooner you move on, the sooner you'll heal. And yes, it is kinda nice to start a new relationship without the baggage that you've accumulated in the old one.
Good luck!
2006-09-18 18:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is people never know what they have until it's gone? all i can say is go to her and let her know how you feel put everything on the line. but, chances are, why you were busy cheating on her and refusing to commit, another man came into the picture who recognized her worth and was smart enough to not let her get away. in the end, the decision is hers. respect whatever choice she makes, and you never know, you two may end up together at some point in time. but, in the meantime, i would suggest you spend some time figuring out if you want to be with her because you really care about her, or, if the only reason you want her now is because she doesn't want you.
2006-09-18 18:48:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"the problem is all inside your head she said to me, the answer is easy if you take it logically.
Step out the back Jack, make a new plan stan, no need to be coy roy, just listen to me, hop off the bus gus, don't need to discuss much, just drop of the key Lee and get yourself free."
Paul Simon (Fifty ways to leave your Lover)
2006-09-18 18:48:22 · answer #3 · answered by Norton N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-18 18:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man its hard, i know it is.
I am in the exact same situation, I love my girl but i want other girls. So after 6 years I broke up with her yesterday.
Im scared ill regret it one day cos shes a great person but on the other hand I cant control my urges to be with other girls
2006-09-18 18:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her hw u feel...if she still insist just let her go...
2006-09-18 18:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by fishcake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
should move on
2006-09-18 18:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by jwtaz1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋