I've been with a great guy for 6 months... We have lots of fun together, and he treats me GREAT. Our sex life has been good, but not very adventurous. While cleaning his house, I just found lots of kinky sex toys, vibes, bondage stuff, sex board games, sexy womens outfits in little sizes, you name it! He's never explored these things with me! I need to lose about 25 lbs.. do you think he's just not as attracted to me? We live 5 hours apart & see each other every weekend. We take turns driving. He calls me 3 to 4 times every day and acts like he's crazy in love with me, though he hasn't said it yet. I'm hurt by this other side of him he's kept from me... I want him to be more sexually open with me... why isn't he?
2006-09-18 18:08:22 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Perhaps he loves you, and thinks that all that "sick stuff" was for, well, women about whom he didn't really care.
If that's the case, there are ways to make him see that "love" and "dirty hot sex" are both okay with you. I'm sure you can figure out a few.
But the best thing to do would be to ask him if maybe someday you could "play with some of your toys."
Just be sure you are willing to hear the answers if some of the things he enjoys seem bad or yuccky to you. If he's got bondage stuff, he may enjoy a great deal more than just a little tying up. Some of it may be well outside the "norm." Nothing will send him running faster than being called a sicko!
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2006-09-18 18:14:41 · answer #1 · answered by LazlaHollyfeld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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I've been with a great guy for 6 months... We have lots of fun together, and he treats me GREAT. Our sex life has been good, but not very adventurous. While cleaning his house, I just found lots of kinky sex toys, vibes, bondage stuff, sex board games, sexy womens outfits in little sizes, you...
2015-08-23 07:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U shud know the answer. Mebbe he thinks that u won't like this other side of him.If he doesn't make a first move y don't u let him know wat u like. In what way u want ur sex life to be, share with him.Mebbe he'll open up. But don't press him too hard too quick. Let him know what u want & then give him some time to get back to u with his other side. On the other hand do u think he is the right guy? I feel he is a maniac having all that stuff.
2006-09-18 18:13:22 · answer #3 · answered by sweetgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is because it was a phase....but what I have recently found out to be true is that some guys put away that past sexual episode when they find someone that they truly care about. So all that stuff that he did do, might be something that he cares too much about you to do with you...if that made any sense...I guess it made more sense when my fiance said it to me...either that or your boy used to be a porn filmer and he got to keep the props and costumes...you think?
2006-09-18 18:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by Natty137 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might look at you as the one and that would mean the nice girl and he was probably raised to think nice girls don't do those things because he was probably raised to think those things are dirty. So have you thought about discussing this with him? I really don't think its your weight but I wouldn't go gaining anymore. educate him that's what's wrong with most men is that they want sex but don't know what it is just that they are a man and they are suppose to be doing it.
2006-09-18 18:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably doesn't know how to approach the subject with you. Or he's afraid of scaring you away. Not everyone is into that kind of thing. he could have been rejected in the past and why he is hesitant to talk about it.
2006-09-18 18:20:52 · answer #6 · answered by ladymanny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he really respects you too much to do those things. he might think you are too nice of a girl to be doing kinky stuff. also, have you mentioned it to him? maybe he doesn't want to be the first one to say anything in fear of you not being into that and thinking he's perverted.
2006-09-18 18:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's kinky and afraid to explore it with you! Ask him about it!
Take control of the situation instead of waiting for him!
2006-09-18 18:15:36 · answer #8 · answered by dragonlady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps because you are more comfortable talking about your sexlife on the internet...............than with him.
Ask him about the sex toys, you deserve an explanation.
From HIM not the web.
2006-09-18 18:12:45 · answer #9 · answered by Norton N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes men are embarrassed to use toys with a their partner because they feel like if the woman doesn't think hes man enough!!
2006-09-18 18:12:03 · answer #10 · answered by Hello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋