it is a office of 9 ladies. everyone invited but 3(trashy ones).
what if they find out?
is this right?
2006-09-18 18:04:22 · 31 answers · asked by Tysienna 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
May not be right, but there's nothing really wrong with it either. It's a private party, not office party. So the person hosting the party, or the person having the party can invite whomever they wish, and not invite whomever they wish.
2006-09-18 18:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by i_troll_therefore_i_am 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a shower for friends and family, then the invitations can be sent as desired (we're not in grade school anymore, and you really don't have to invite EVERYONE). But if it was specifically an office party, it would be rude not to invite some while inviting others. As an additional note, those co-workers who were not invited are not expected to provide a gift.
2006-09-19 16:24:19 · answer #2 · answered by JenV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a Baby Shower, not a general get together. Why would you invite anyone who wasnt a good friend?
It doesnt matter that some are also coworkers - its about inviting your friends to an important event, and there should be no obligation to invite anyone who isnt a good friend.
It would only be rude if the 3 ladies in question ARE good friends, and only shunned because of how they dress.
2006-09-19 01:14:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To avoid any hurt feelings everyone should be invited to a work shower. Trashy ones? What makes the rest of you better?
2006-09-19 08:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby showers are intensely personal affairs. It would be ingenuine to invite co-workers to appease them. Enjoy the moment without feeling obligated to pander to people. If those who are not invited are true professionals, they will continue to work in a cooperative manner, accepting that they are not part of your social life. If they refuse to cooperate with you following your personal event, it may be time for them to consider why they were not invited...and to move on. Maturity counts in today's workplace. With this, so does respecting a co-worker's private life.
By the looks of your question, it appears that your workplace is diverse. Respect yourself, and create a world that is pleasant for yourself.
2006-09-19 01:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by Riverside Plaza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not rude not to invite them.
What is rude is talking about the event at work, when those not invited are present.
Keep it for personal time.
2006-09-19 07:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by segat1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has the right to invite people she is comfortable with. That said, the uninvited ladies will most likely feel leftout or hurt should they find out. It's still your co-worker's perogative to decide who she wants at her party.
2006-09-19 02:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by warasouth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's rude and bad manners.
It's also rude of you to refer to them as "trashy ones"
If they aren't invited and obviously not welcomed, the kindest thing you can do is not talk about the shower at work and let the others know the situation and to keep it hush.
2006-09-19 01:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by limendoz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She can invite anyone she wants and ignore anyone she doesn't want. Only a trouble maker would tell the 3 who aren't invited.
2006-09-19 01:09:36 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Her shower . Her choice, Thats life the three trashy ones will be just fine.
2006-09-19 01:27:59 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋