I recently posted a question about where I should stand in regards to my husband's newly revealed 7-year-old daughter. Ever since then she and I have become very close. The thing is, she wants to call me Ma now. Should I go along with it or insist she only call me Mayson?
2006-09-18 17:36:55 · 18 answers · asked by Special nobody 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Her mother is very much in the picture, although I do like her. She and my husband are on great terms too.
2006-09-18 17:45:45 · update #1
Well, I think it is awesome that she feels that close to you and you guys can bond like that. I don't think there is anything wrong as long as the biological mom and dad of her have no quams with it. IT also is kind of a short nick name for your first name, I think it is wonderful she has people in her life she feels so safe with! Good luck, Many blessing on your relationship with your new Little girl!
2006-09-18 17:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Depends on whether she will be living with you, whether her real mother is still in the picture, how she addresses her real mother, etc. I would think you'd want her to call you something at least a little different than what she calls her real mother, just to eliminate possible confusion. But if her real mother is out of her life and she will be living with you, I'd think you'd want her to call you Ma rather than by your first name.
2006-09-18 17:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I so agree with allan,if she feels you are worthy of a special name,please feel privleged and let her!
my daughter is in the step situation,Im her biological mom,she lives with me n stepdad,who she now after over 2 years calls daddy,she is 9,her biodad lives 9 hours away and has a new wife. my daughter rarely sees them and calls the new wife by her first name,no special feelings between them,I would prefer there were,but she rarely sees them,he chose to move a few months after our divorce,she still calls him dad,but only to his face,he rarely calls her and sees her one time maybe 2 a year for maybe 24 hours each time...
my new hubby cares for her,takes care of her,in every way,and provides what a real parent should for a child!
if you dont feel comfortable with her new name for you,talk to your husband and figure it out..I wouldnt want her to feel hurt if she realized you didnt want the new name.even if your reason for not wanting it is due to makin the biomom feel bad! which is understandable,but I say screw the rest and do whats best for the kids!
good luck! and congrats that she thinks so highly of you,you must b a great person!
2006-09-18 18:10:51 · answer #3 · answered by adc7492 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your shoes I'd be honored and thrilled that she wanted to call me Ma. Your husband and her mother should be in on the discussion. But I say tell this sweet child that you'd be very happy to have her call you Ma. God bless!
2006-09-18 17:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by celticwoman777 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes if she loves you that much let her. i have a 10 yr step daughter and she calls me moma all the time. her mother is in the picture, when we are all together she calls her real mother moma and not me. it is repect that the child has for you and being that u are close. aask you husband and go from there. good luck and promise never to let her go
2006-09-18 18:06:04 · answer #5 · answered by lilhotrod065 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother and father split when i was 9 years old and when my father re-married it was hard on his new wife. She had a hard time figuring out what role she played in our life's, and she tried way to hard trying to be my mom, i told her that i already have a mother and she should not try to fill that role. I love my dad but i am distant with my step-mother because she overstepped her role and tried to lay the smack down.
2006-09-18 17:48:19 · answer #6 · answered by sincity usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that it is up to you and how you feel about it. I call my stepmother mama because she is my mama to me. In my opinion, it takes more than just giving birth to a child to earn the title "Mother". If she feels that you have done what she feels should be done to earn the title "Ma", then it is up to you if you feel comfortable with it or not. My mama is very comfortable with it, but you may not be, it all depends on you.
2006-09-18 17:40:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
is the "mum" still in the picture? if yes, I'd try to let her call you by your first name or another "nickname". If the mum is not in the picture, and assuming this is to become a long term, committed relationship from you, why not! good luck!
2006-09-18 17:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by toubab 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes,u absolutely should let her call u ma.What a privelige,I think you are a lucky lady.You should encourage this child in every way you can
2006-09-18 17:42:31 · answer #9 · answered by john l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its always great rather good to be in some relation....
when she wants u as mom why not u just go with it,,,
its the greatest relation in world,,,and greatest gift of god on this earth to u
no one can ask more then this(its being on top of world)
i can just say go for it,,,
2006-09-18 17:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋