I have a very special person in my life that I cherish! That being said, I have always (4yrs) been attracted to him and for the 4 years he has activly persued me. Not constantly or anoying or even remotely agressively. Just always been there for me. Inviting me everywhere and telling me that he would wait till I was ready. Things in my life did not allow me to be involved with him. I don't like to bring someone into my life when things are not how I think they should be for me. t always seems to add complication and not enjoyment... Things have been good and I invited him out with myself and some coworkers. We had dinner danced and a great time... We slept together! It was the first time together...I know he's busy and has a lot going, but he seems stand offish! I already regret what happened, but I don't think he wasted 4 years just trying to nail me? I know I am probably being overly sensative... But what do I do? Did I loose him by this action? I dont think the sex was bad!
2006-09-18 17:13:00 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know this seams hard to hear and to comprehend, but the reality is that He IS Just Not That Into You. . . Believe me gurl if he was he would have been making breakfast and your bed the next morning, and calling constantly and all that jazz. . . but he is not. And the next time you will see him he would probably be all awkward or even say I just don't know what happened that night or some lame comment like that, he is not interested, Believe me, the sooner you will get this in your head that sooner you will find someone that would make you breakfast and do your bed that next morning after a great nite of passion. And guess what you deserve to find someone that would do all that for ya, foget him gurl, move on...
2006-09-18 17:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by jayden 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said you already regret what happened.... Perhaps he shares that feeling. Or perhaps he needs space to process what has happened. He may not know what his intentions with you are now. He got THIS far, so "now what?" As you say. Give him a week and then talk to him about how you feel about it all and ask him about his feelings. Tell him what you told us here.
He may be scared of a relationship. Oscar Wilde said, "There are two great tragedies in life - one is not getting what you want, the other is getting what you want."
2006-09-18 17:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to dinner and entice him, romance and then judge his reaction. But I think the best thing is to get it out in the open and talk about it. It may hurt at first but you are better off knowing his feelings now than put more time into it. Then if he decides that he prefers to not jeopardize the true friendship you have by having a romantic friendship, you can resolve to that.
Don't let it get you down.
Good luck!
2006-09-18 17:18:36 · answer #3 · answered by Baseball inquisitive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he's regretting it as well...in spite of knowing each other for awhile...in fact, it may be that you were pretty good friends that has caused the awkardness...you put intimacy into a long term non-intimate relationship...
Give it time...he may have to work out how he really feels, and if he wants to move forward with anything romantic or try to put things back as they were before sex...
2006-09-18 17:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first it not a good idea to date someone you work with for this very reason. women think because it took along time to get together then he must care. it all in the chase, he has won the game, it is always a game to men, the hunt if you will. girlfriend you never had him, it was always about sex. always follow you guts in this kind of situation, you are probably right.
2006-09-18 17:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by the analytical one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its obvious no offense that he just wanted to hit it and quit it because that how guys are but he wasnt that busy before he slept you and now all of a sudden he is thats all he wanted but if he gets back with you soon then maybe there is something. But guys are willing to wait to get some thats a guy for you wish you the best of luck
2006-09-18 17:17:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
?Why is it that women just can't seem to understand....99.99% of the time, any problem can be worked out if you just TALK. Talk to him. Ask him what's happening. Ask if there's a problem, and if there is, ask what can be done to work it out.
WE ARE NOT MIND READERS, LADIES. We need a clue.
Talk to him. He didn't chase you for 4 years to give up now coz your'e "too easy".
2006-09-18 17:20:34 · answer #7 · answered by mxzptlk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about it? Where are you going with this thing now that sex has happened?
2006-09-18 17:20:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well no sex is not bad but if you get that feeling in your gut that tells you that he just wanted you in bed and nothing more then just leave him before you get even more hurt!
2006-09-18 17:19:09 · answer #9 · answered by Diana Renae M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO JUST ASK HIM WHAT GOING ON. AFTER
4 YEARS, YOU DESERVE ANSWERS. I DONT BELIEVE
THAT HE WAS JUST LOOKING FOR SEX. BUT YOU NEED
TO SIT DOWN AND VOICE YOUR CONCERNS ON WHAT
GOING ON. OR LACK OF.HE MAY JUST FEEL AWKWARD
NOW.
2006-09-18 17:21:25 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋