I am in a wheelchair and i have been told by numerouse women that i am a great guy but they cant date me and would rather remain friends because i am in a wheelchair. Everything works on me except my left leg. I just dont understand. Please help. Thanks.
2006-09-18 16:55:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
people have a tendency to want to be in the norm , which just means that they are missing out on a great person
2006-09-18 17:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by sindi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have a problem with it...it would take some getting used to since I have not been with a man in a wheelchair before, but I don't see how that's any different than being with someone who has asthma, diabetes, wears glasses, or anything else. Anytime a person starts a new relationship we need to get used to that other person's life, their career, their personality, and their physical limitations. Nobody is perfect, we all have something we need to deal with in life. Some women just need to get over themselves. Anyone of us could have an accident at any time. Love is supposed to be unconditional, for better or worse, in sickness and in health. If I wasn't a married woman, I would absolutely date a man in a wheelchair...whether you are sitting down or standing up, your heart and mind still work.
2006-09-18 17:32:56 · answer #2 · answered by cowgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, wheelchairs complicate things. When you're looking to go out and have fun, and you're assessing the plusses and minuses in being with the guy, that's a big minus. And if everything does work, how good will it be? Girls will wonder.
Finally, is the sadder part. People will look at the girl as a loser because they will think "she can't get anything better?" Even if you are a wonderful guy and she loves you, it is very hard dealing with this sort of social pressure. Don't fault her either. The social pressure issue is hard for even the strongest person to take.
The happy part is that the above descriptions are tendencies and not universal. So it's possible to find an exceptional girl who will accept your particular circumstances.
Sometimes looking for a girl who has circumstances of her own that need overlooking will give you what you need. With this sort of exchange, it is more likely to work. I don't mean "really ugly," "really weird," or "nuts" either.
Keep the faith and the right one will come along. Your attitude makes all the difference in attracting that special person with an exemplary character and the sexual desire for you.
2006-09-18 17:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by David 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You will meet women for whom that isn't an issue...but for many I can see where it might be...your limited mobility and potential difficulty with your wheelchair being acccessible to all the places they may like to go, would be an issue...plus if they are very physically active, that would be something they may have to change to date you...or at the least know you probably could not share that with them...
...and some people just can't easily deal with anyone who has an apparent difference about them...
2006-09-18 17:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls are alot about image. no offense but being with a guy in a wheelchair is not good for image. I don't think it has to do so much with sex issues as it does with how women feel they will be looked at funny. It sounds bad but life iscruel and nice guys finish last more times than not.
2006-09-18 17:01:44 · answer #5 · answered by noloveb4u 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well one thing i know from experience!!! i once dated a guy in a wheelchair and i had to do all of the work when it came time for sex!!!! which i didn't mind a whole lot about that as long as it turned out good for me in the end. but when it came time to end the relationship it was really hard to break up with him because i truly felt sorry for him.
2006-09-18 17:14:03 · answer #6 · answered by rose h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because women like that are shallow. I feel if you are a great guy then they should be able to look past that and see you as the kind of person you are not your disability. So what if your left doesn't work as well as the rest of your body that doesn't mean it affects your personality. I truly hope that you find a woman that can see you for who you are and treat you as well as you would treat them. Good Luck!
2006-09-18 17:10:12 · answer #7 · answered by babieshay27 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all women are the same you know. The exterior doesnt matter as much as what you are in the inside; what you dream, and think. I'm sure you'll find the woman of your dreams when the time is right.
2006-09-18 17:04:25 · answer #8 · answered by DREAMER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have just not met the right one. She is out there, believe me. In the mean time do the best with where you are, which I'm sure you do. When she comes along she will see YOU, not your wheel chair. Many blessings to you, and I bet you're glad its football season again!
2006-09-18 17:03:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are superficial. I don't really see what's so bad about wheelchairs...
2006-09-18 17:01:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋