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I have been celibate for 11 1/2 years, doing my duty by my kids. Have met guy online who wants 2 ravish me! He's younger than me by 11 years, help! How can I get confidence, remember what 2 do, 4get my bulges and wrinkles, make sure he enjoys himself, and ensure he wants to come back for more?!!!!!!!!!

2006-09-18 16:44:30 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

Please help someone! I'm so nervous I'm worried I'll spoil it 4 both of us, and what looked like some fun and happiness could be ruined by my lack of confidence and rusty bedroom skills!!.

2006-09-18 16:47:10 · update #1

22 answers

C'mon now.......... You got yaself a toyboy intent on testing ya bed-springs and you're fretting!!!

Think of all da girls faces when you tell 'em!!!

A nasty shade of green, don't you think?

Sort it out love!!!!

4 real, it's like falling off a log, you simply just can't forget how it's done!!!

As for your "bulges and wrinkles"............. if da lad wanted a brain dead, stick insect, with no life experience, i'm sure he could find one.

He' s chosen you so why get all neurotic about it?

You need to....... have a glass or three of red wine to steady your nerves, to create an atmosphere that makes you feel comfortable ( candles, soft tunes, etc), to remember you're not quite ready for the knacker's yard yet and invest in something that makes you feel ultra sexy when you're wearing it..... Remember also that it's not a session at the UN Security Council.........so relax, breathe, have a few laughs and a giggle, or 3, use your femine charm (it's all still there,have a lil' faith, luv) and i'm sure it'll be alrite on the night!!!

I hope he don't look like Barry Norman.........

PS- We gents love to see and feel a lady having a good time....... if you can relax and enjoy, rather than stress out, he'll be back......

2006-09-18 17:15:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jason 2 · 1 0

If you waited 11 years already what is the rush? Why not get to know this guy a little better before hopping in the sack? There are lots of dangerous people and things out there, which I am sure you know all about. Take time, men lie. If you DO decide to go that route, once in motion you will be able to remember how everything is done and how it works. Relax. don't let him intimidate you, don't be nervous, just go with the flow.

2006-09-18 16:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by Queen J 2 · 0 0

Why don't you go on a date first. There is no harm in telling him how you feel and if he is any kind of guy, he will know how to handle things. Once the date is over, just ask him in for a coffee and see where things go from there. He might be just as nervous as you. Take your time. You've waited this long, whats a few more minutes, hours or days. Good luck and hope things work out.

2006-09-18 17:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by hugabye 2 · 0 0

You have got to be kidding. If you were a guy I might believe that you are having worries about how but you are not a guy so the onus is all on him. All you have to do is follow his lead and tell him if he gets off track. 11 1/2 years and you have already forgot how to have fun. Believe me, nothing has changed about the how, only the why and the when. Enjoy.

2006-09-18 16:50:16 · answer #4 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 0 0

Met him at a mall. bring someone with you,To see if he was telling you the truth about himself, because people on the internet do lie, or don't tell the whole truth, get to know him more off line then on line, and slowly work up to the point that you feel good to bring him to your home, because you do not know what type of person he is, And always let someone know that he is coming over, if you can get a photo of him and give it to a friend. Just in case, something go wrong, it is best to be safe the sorry, sorry i can't help you more, but this is my best answer.

2006-09-18 17:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by dmncprkr 5 · 0 0

im a 39 yr old man.Right firstly dont be to nervous secondly don't be too eager or too forward.Definatley do not put too much make-up on and very little perfuem around the neck area because this tastes horrible and dryes your mouth out which is no good then for kissing.
Make sure at least one person you know phones you say an hour or so after he has arrived at your home because safety is the main thing always bear that in mind.
Try just to be yourself and you will be ok.Get some condom's and insist they wear one at least untill you have got to know them.Good Luck and enjoy yourself.

2006-09-18 16:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by BLACKY 4 · 0 0

Come on MOM, have more self confidence and pride in yourself. You don't know this man, who he's been with,if he's an axe murderer, or if he is even a MAN. Ask yourself this...What would you tell your daughter if she was about to put herself in the vulnerable situation that you are going to put yourself in????? I am sure that a good person/parent like yourself has more self-esteem than to have sex (after 11 years of celebacy) with a stranger. Buy some batteries and wait for the right person, you've waited this long what's a bit longer.

2006-09-18 16:54:36 · answer #7 · answered by freedom4ni 1 · 0 0

Don't go there! It is not worth it iff he wants to have Thursday night as passion night with you, maybe he is still married and it will never be any good! married men say 'I will leave my wife for you that doesn't happen. Then iff he is married what are the consequences iff his wife found out! Are you prepared for that?

Have more respect for yourself, you don't know anything about this guy, maybe it is other women on the other nights! You are leaving yourself open for all sorts of things ie. diseases.

He could be a pervert and even worse have a good time with you, then finish up slitting your throat or some-thing like that.

Please think carefully, get to know him before you climb into bed with him, he obviously doesn't have respect for women that is for sure! Is he prepared to use condoms??

Be careful and good luck, maybe he is a very nice guy who just wants a bit a love as well.

2006-09-18 21:03:21 · answer #8 · answered by patwright2005 1 · 0 0

you met him online? how do you know he is telling the truth? He could be a pervert or axe murderer! of course he wants to ravish you, he wants to ravish anyone! Get out - find a work out club, church, coffee house etc. & meet people face to face. The age difference is ok, but the ananemity is spooky. Get off the computer & get out into the world! you go girl!

2006-09-18 16:49:33 · answer #9 · answered by Forever 6 · 0 0

look your 48 uv been threw hell and back this should be a peace of cake. he is 39 hes no spring chicken infact he is probably thinking the same as you trust me any man who has fell for you is not going to be interested in your body in that way if he is the one he will like you 4 who you are.

2006-09-18 18:23:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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