2006-09-18 16:39:36 · 26 answers · asked by tweenky1982 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES. Bottom line is this.... most relationships fail in the modern world because of many reasons. But one of them is that people dont know what the other person is really like.... at their worst moments in the day. Can you tolerate that person when they first wake up in the morning? Maybe you can.... but then again...maybe the fact that he/she is a completely mindless jackA**SS until they get that first cup off coffee is just too much for you. Maybe, just maybe...they are a bigger slob than you realize... because they just clean up before you come over to their place? I mean...do you really want to nag that person to clean up their mess all the time? Perhaps you didn't know that she is a complete airhead and will destroy the garbage disposal with junk that she pores down the drain... maybe she doesn't know to stay THE F OUT OF THE WAY OF THE TV DURING FOOTBALL GAMES! :D jk jk.
Bottom line.... marriage .... obviously means you will be doing the most mundane day to day thing with the other person. You should do a "test run" with that person before you commit the rest of your life to them. I mean seriously...do you really want to be another divorcee? Wow... what a great thing to be able to claim.... being "divorced".
2006-09-18 17:00:06 · answer #1 · answered by the_thoughtless_ponderer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES, YES, YES...it is the best way to find out ahead of time if you and the person are really meant to be together. If you move in together and are completely incompatible then why waste the time and pain in entering into the promise of marriage. Marriage is supposed to be something that lasts forever so why not try out the hardest part before you jump into it? I dated a guy for 4 years and realized when we moved in together that this person and I would never be together forever...thank God...Now I am living with my bf of 3 years and could not be happier. Hopefully an engagement and wedding is not far off...and all you holy rollers can suck it because you have been brainwashed all your lives by the glorified institution they call the church...most of you catholics...may God have mercy on YOUR souls.
2006-09-18 16:42:10 · answer #2 · answered by Country Girl for Life 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course! Couples should experience what life will be like up front. I also suggest that they shouldnt get married until they have both had the flu, and have seen each other puking their brains out at 3am. And also, no marriage until finances have been worked out.
Why you might ask, the flu and finances? The flu because "in sickeness and in health, to death do us part" and finances because money is the number one reason for marriages failing.
2006-09-18 16:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by Gary 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
shoot why no i've been with this girl almost 3 years and we live together for almost 2 1/2 years we are getting a bigger apartment, top it off we are gay so we can't get married. whats the problem its better u dont go to sleep alone, dont wake up alone, save alot phone bill and car fare (go see each other and talk on da phone) beside you get help with the bills;-}. man it really not such an issiue but when ur scared it is but like i said it has its advantages but then it has it disadvantages, i wouldn't change my girl being here wit me, she feed me freshly cook food and we do alot of things tog. its not wrong go for it. if it dosen't work come and yell @ me
2006-09-18 16:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by EiaMaria 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes deffinately. This way you will be able to get to know the person and all their quirks. And if you can't live with that person you don't have to go through a messy divorce. Just take care not to have any children right away either. That could complicate things if you decide that you aren't meant to be together forever.
2006-09-18 16:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by ami mena 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's like testing the car for a test drive before you buy. So I say yes. You need to know that you'd be able to live together and make things work. You see each other everyday and you get to know the real him/her at home.
2006-09-18 16:44:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES YES YES!!!!!!!!
Definitely move in together first!!!!
That is a big deal. My b/f and I moved in together when I was 15. ( he moved into my house and still lives here) But yes. If you dont move in together first, you wont know how he cleans up after himself, if he can or will pay the bills, and if he can truely take care of you. And trust me, guys act a lot different when you are with them 24/7. ( both of us dont go to school, because we are homeschooled, and we do EVERYTHING together). You dont know if you will get sick of him, or if you will like the way he lives his life. Even if you think you know now, you have no idea. But luckily my boyfriend cleans up after himself, does dishes, does laundry, cleans my room occasionally, buys grocerys for the house, and even takes my dog for walks. I love that about him, because if he had none of the qualities I wouldnt be with him. But anyways, yes please please please. Move in together first. That is how most marriages die, because they are living at home with there parents, or by themselves, and only have to cleans up after one person or their parents do it for them. Then once you have a roomate or a husband/wife things get very different. Im sorry Im rambling so much. But just YES YES YES!!!! HaHa... Good Luck!
2006-09-18 16:53:49 · answer #7 · answered by TayNuz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, absolutely. The exception would be if one person had strong convictions otherwise.
I would counsel my boys to not marry a woman unless they have lived together. You really don't know what a person is really like until you have lived together.
2006-09-18 16:45:58 · answer #8 · answered by burpolicious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's perfectly acceptable and glad I lived with my ex prior to marrying him (his parents did not want us to live together without being married-and in the end we thankfully never married). I think it is helpful in determining whether or not you will be compatible. It definitely opened my eyes. However, that being said, I think it is also important for both people to live on their own (meaning separately) for at least a year prior to cohabitating or marrying.
2006-09-18 16:45:18 · answer #9 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think its a good idea because u hafto experience living wit each other first before u can consider marriage. how is he like when he wakes up in the morning? wuts his routine? and can u really accept the fact hes a neat freak? (shoes on the left jackets on the right the cups are face down and the plates are left in the dish washer to be spot clean) there are alot of things to consider before marriage life style, finances, cars , work schedules etc etc etc...and living wit each other helps u thru that.. it lets u know if hes even worth ur tyme.....sorry if i used HE if the person who asked this question is male....just switch it to SHE in ur head LOL....good luck to u neways.
2006-09-18 16:51:40 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs.Durossndamaken 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋