ok, I been dating my bf for 4 months now, and he lives an hour away from me, and I keep on asking him when are we gonna hang out and he tells me he has work and or he has school, but then on his days off he goes hangs out with his friends and mainly they are girls, and alot of my family and friends think he is, I dont want to believe it but what do you think? but I have been cheated on twice and he has told me I give him pleasure...but alot of people think hes using me...but i dont know, hes nice and hes what im looking for...im just confused and afraid that I will lose something that maybe wonderful or I may get hurt once again...thanks for reading
2006-09-18 16:12:35 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd be inclined to side with your friends and family. They know you best and have no other vested interest in him besides your happiness. If they think he is, (they are thinking with unobscured emotions) then they're probably right.
2006-09-18 16:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by IMHO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok girl, here's coming from a previously-silly woman who got cheated by her bf twice too: BREAK OFF WITH HIM.
There's a reason why a lot of people think he's using you. And usually, these people (outsiders) can see much more clearly than we (in the relationship) can.
I understand why you are still hanging on, because of my pervious experience. I loved my ex bf too, to the extent that I will just force every little hint of his wrong-doings to some obscure part of my mind where I do not have to deal with it. But in the end, it will only lead to heart break.
Let him walk all over you once, and he will keep continuing and pushing his luck. No guy who really loves a girl will keep wanting to go out with other people instead, especially hanging about with girls. And if he really cares about your feelings, he would ask if you want to meet up with his friends, just so that you can have a peace of mind knowing just what sort of people he hangs out with.
Trust me, you will not lose something "that may be wonderful" if you break up with this guy. In fact, you might gain something else like "freedom" and "happiness" and "relief".
No one should go into a relationship feeling worse than when they are single!
2006-09-18 23:19:46 · answer #2 · answered by syrope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl please move on.. I'm in the same situation with my bf well EX bf. Maybe you should get you some guy friends and hang out. Or Talk to him and tell him about it.. He shouldnt be putting you off like that anyways for other females at that. Let him know u need time and whenever he has it you need it. He might be nice but if he doesnt improve just let him know that it's not working out. Then I know it really hurts you when u feel this way and he acts like it doesnt even matter.... Just let him know...... I hope it works out girl....
2006-09-18 23:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by mstiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow honey! That's a tough one that no one can really answer for you. I totally understand your delima. I guess the only thing you can do is go with what your heart says. I'd make sure I was completely honest with him first about how his behavior made you feel unimportant to him and try to find out exactly what HE wants to do. Is your relationship worth it to him to change? If not, you're better off without him. But sometimes men can be dense...maybe an ultimatum will open his eyes and make him come around. Who knows? Good luck to you!
2006-09-18 23:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by tammyb752001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a trust issue. my bf hangs with girls. And I trust him. I nkow he would not cheat on me. But if u think something is not right.. go with your gut feeling. Trust me. Keep me posted. I am here to talk if u need a friend
2006-09-18 23:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by snotty381 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That kind of relationahip is queit dangerous, try finding some guys ot hang out with and see how he responds, I know its sort of like foul play but it present a new status of your relationship
2006-09-18 23:16:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not cheating on you, he's not treating you like someone he loves. If you have to ask the question, the relationship's in trouble. You deserve better. Kick him to the curb.
2006-09-18 23:16:15 · answer #7 · answered by all1g8r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to catch him but give him the benefit of a doubt until then
2006-09-18 23:14:25 · answer #8 · answered by britney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the same situation it sucks you got to comfront him and if he spends more time with his friends than you. You need to comfront him and break up with him relationships are all about trust.
2006-09-18 23:17:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see, he hangs out with girls, he is a guy. Figure it out
2006-09-18 23:16:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋