how do you get someone to stop cursing? they dont do it intentionally, its part of the way they grew up and the way they express themselves. ive discussed it with them but it continues. and good suggestions? thank
2006-09-18 15:57:43 · 14 answers · asked by sabrina 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you dont. its part of their identity - get over it. if you love that person it shouldnt matter to you
2006-09-18 15:59:45 · answer #1 · answered by Jackie 4 · 1⤊ 4⤋
When they are talking with you and start cursing, stop taking part in the conversation. Don't be drastic; simply look down and do not look at them in the eye again. Slowly turn your head away and then look up again and off into the distance. Wait until they ask you what's up. Let them know they were swearing again.
Tell them first this is what you will do to help them stop - it won't work unless they know you are doing this to help them. That way, when it happens, they will eventually learn that if they want to be listened to they will have to communicate in a certain manner, which in this case does not include swearing. They will appreciate your quiet, patient method instead of saying 'You're doing it again!' every time. Be patient; it will work.
Good luck
2006-09-18 23:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you!! I hate when people talk to me and they just let curse words come out like they are found in the dictionary or something...oohh I hate that..yet it is impossible to ignore, and it grates on my nerves... but they probably won't stop only because it'd just the way they talk, so they don't think about it, unfortunately..good luck
2006-09-18 23:04:38 · answer #3 · answered by confusedgirl 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell them it makes them appear uneducated. Educated people have a larger and more varied vocabulary so they don't have to curse except in extreme cases when it is called for.
2006-09-18 23:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I HAVE BEEN TOLD BY ELDERS THAT CURSING IS JUST A LACK OF ABILITY TO COME UP W/ A BETTER USE OF WORDS, THO I AM GUILTY OF THE SAME THING... I CAN BE ON THE PHONE W/ MY DAD TELLING HIM ABOUT SOMETHING THAT HAS PISSED ME OFF AND HE'LL TELL ME TO QUIT CUSSING THAT I SOUND LIKE A BIKER CHICK. GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2006-09-18 23:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by sbound_40 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep pointing it out to them when they do it so they know you are paying attention and therefore drawing their attention to it as well.
You can also make it fun by making a contest of it by teling them you will count the number of times they use bad words each day.
2006-09-18 23:01:12 · answer #6 · answered by Lady G 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
this is what i did to one of my friends, I put a rubber band around thier wrist and everytime they cusrsed i would pull the rubber band a nd snap them. it hurt and it worked, they didnt curse everytime i was around.or else!!!
2006-09-18 23:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get someone to stop cursing, you can only get them to try to stop.
2006-09-18 23:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by TayNuz 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell them it's disrespectful and why you do not like it. And if they continue to do it around you, that you just won't be around.
2006-09-18 23:01:56 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they will have to quit on their own. If they were raised around and it was part of everyday life it's gonna be hard to stop
Good Luck
2006-09-18 22:59:53 · answer #10 · answered by miss_lady6980 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
tell them it upsets you and that you do not like it. That you will not talk with them unless the stop.
2006-09-18 22:59:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋