ive liked this girl since i met her pretty much as a freshman, im now a junior. were like best friends and she used to like me, but now she has a boyfriend whose away at college. shes nervous about the long distance relationship though. im in love with her but idk what i can do... shes taken and i dont even know if she likes me anymore.. but i cant get over her. Am I wasting my time or should I continue hoping I get a chance with her? is it even worth risking our friendship? HELP!
2006-09-18 15:54:49 · 17 answers · asked by anonymous 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ive tried to stop liking her... but its never worked... the feelings always come back
2006-09-18 15:58:57 · update #1
most of the time long distance relationships don't work out so after they brake up tell her you will always be there for her and if she is really heart broken wait about a month then ask her out but if she brakes up with him and she is fine wait about a week or 2 and then ask her out but make sure an other guy does not beet you to it
2006-09-18 16:01:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's sweet that u still like her but u said she has a boyfriend and u also said that he's away at college and she's a little nervious about him being so far away. Well u could keep waiting for her or u can ( like her ) move on to someone else and be her friend when she needs to talk about her problems with her college guy.
U shouldn't wait for her because she gonna keep pining for him and it's gonna hurt u to hear her talk about someone else she's into. So move on( still be her friend) but get on with ur life.
She's a lucky girl to have a guy who wants her even though she's woth someone else.
Maybe someday she'll come to realize this( her lose)
2006-09-18 23:04:06 · answer #2 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless she breaks up with him and becomes available, you should not risk your friendship. If she rejects you and feels bad, things will be very awkward and she may become more distant. But it doesn't hurt to let her know you are there for her and she can always talk to you.
P.S. Trust me I know personally that long distant relationships generally do not last. Have patience. Your time will come, meanwhile... have fun. Do not just wait and be lonely or miserable.
2006-09-18 23:09:14 · answer #3 · answered by Christa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess subconsciously is that you are only friends with her because she is taken or you would have already made your move. But since she is taken i think you should tell her how you feel but dont make it sound too needy but calmy with a little passion dont be crying out to her. Then dont talk to her for at least 36 hours unless she calls you. Also dont say anything about her boyfriend when you tell her about how you feel. That way you leave it up to her to break up with him (hopefully) not you telling her to break up with him. Good Luck
2006-09-18 23:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by gohorns_ut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to call her or talk to her sit her down and ask her"do you think if you weren't going out with somebody would you go out with me?"She might B lost at the moment but she'll probably say "why are you asking?" You just tell her from then on. you got to tell a girl what you feel about her so she'll understand where your coming from. Do it now or well she'll never know and you might never have a chance to B with her.
2006-09-18 23:03:11 · answer #5 · answered by hearty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just continue being there for her you had a chance to tell how you felt and you didn't she might resent you saying something now while her boyfriend not around. see how thing work out with the long distance relationship;if it doesn't she need someone for comfort.
2006-09-18 23:41:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youve said that she has a boyfriend and she is your bestfriend, for my opinion even though he is far away from her bf it is not right for you to continue hoping.... because only you will suffer the consequences, I mean only you will hurt and not her.... try to forget her as soon as possible, I know its hard to do but you must try............If you are unconvinced in my adviced, think twice or even thrice......... what if you are the bf of that girl? Im sure you will be unhappy if someone courting your gf???
2006-09-18 23:04:37 · answer #7 · answered by isaiah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since college guys are a.s.s holes, somthing negative is bound to happen between her and her college man. (sorry to sound like a heathen) so just wait and move in for the kill when it does. You'll need to be there for here if she does break up with him, and untill then, remain freinds, but I'll tell you one thing. DO NOT talk smack about the boyfreind while she is still with him, she'll feel bitter towards you if you do... but make sure you tell her how you feel or else you'll hat yourself for not telling her...
2006-09-18 23:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by Red Crayon Aristocrat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now she needs your friendship more so be her friend. Don't try to interfere with her current relationship. If things end with her and her boyfriend then you can talk to her and tell her how you feel and see where things go from there.
2006-09-18 22:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by larrys_babygurl_4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hope to get a chance, you must present yourself, and make an opprotunity, try casually planning lunch or something at a nice restaurant, not fancy, but nice, and quietly sneak the conversation up on her.
2006-09-18 22:58:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋