I keep saying to myself that I will talk to a certain person in my class but when that day comes, I usually never talk to that person. Any suggestion on how to make my judgement impaired so that I cannot be shy anymore? It has been 4 whole weeks that I have been saying that to myself but I can never talk to that person. I really want to talk to new people but words cannot go out. I need help. How do you get rid of shyness?
2006-09-18 15:28:02 · 16 answers · asked by Some dude 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What you need to do is start out slow.
Beginning tomorrow say "hi" to as many people as possible.
Then the next day, say something like, "hi how's it going?" or "hi how you doing?" Anything that gets a response back from the person you are saying it to. That way you can respond to their response. Something like "I'm good, thanks for asking"
Then once you are comfortable with that, try some small talk. Something like "hey I like that shirt, it looks really good on you" or maybe something like "if this class gets any boring'er, I'm going to fall asleep"
Then try and be funny. I know, when you are in class with this certain person (lets say his/her name is Mike) (and the teachers name is Mr. Putts)
say something like: "Mr. Putts, I don't care what Mike says about you, you are okay in my book" (or) you can reverse that and say: "You know what Mike, I don't care what Mr. Putts says about you, you are okay in my book" you should get a few laughs from it.
Good luck to you,
2006-09-18 16:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You get rid of shyness by growing a sac and taking care of business. It's natural to feel nervous around people or a person you want to talk to. You only live once so go for broke!
2006-09-18 22:31:51 · answer #2 · answered by Omar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm, how about kind of work it so that you are headed out the door of the class at the same time and pay a compliment like "hey, that's a neat shirt, where'dya get it?
Or, "how do you think you did on that test?"
"were you cold in there? i think the thermostat is haywire"
Anything to break the ice.....that person might just be waiting for you to say something. Maybe that person is just as shy!
2006-09-18 22:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to learn to not get so worked up about talking to someone. You have to remember that you are talking and making friends. It will get easier as you go. Being shy does not help so just pick a subject that you are confortable talking about and start with that. You can do this it is not hard. Just pick one person at a time to start with. Someone who you think would talk back with you.
2006-09-18 22:37:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be real shy too,also my son was very shy,being shy is not a bad thing.Ilearnt to open up more as i aged and became out in the work forse,and after your stepped on a few times you relize you have to speak up for yourselve,my son he joined the navy now hes loud
2006-09-18 22:33:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the more u think about it and what ur gonna say the more nervous u get. just ask for a pen or something stupid like that and tell the person ur name. then when u give it back say something about the class to break the ice.
2006-09-18 22:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by pixiegurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just imagine that this person is more shy than you are, take a deep breath, walk up and say what you want to say. don't waste your time being to shy to ever do anything, you are only young once and that's the best time to get away w/ doing stupid things. OR JUST THINK OF YOURSELF BEING GROWN AND SITTING AND TELLING YOURSELF "DAMN I SHOULDA HAD MORE FUN WHEN I WAS A KID"
2006-09-18 22:38:23 · answer #7 · answered by sbound_40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem as you...but after u just talk to someone it becomes so much less of a big deal than you thought it was. because u think about it so much, it begins to build in your head, and makes it a bigger deal than it is, just talk to ther peson, it will make you so much happier and so proud of urself that u did it!! good luck and if u need ANY help at all conact me!
Caity
2006-09-18 22:33:01 · answer #8 · answered by Ally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you also say to yourself that you are going to post the same question over and over and over and over? Get a hold of yourself. Maybe a counselor or therapist could help.
2006-09-18 22:58:28 · answer #9 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get up walk over to them and say hey if they like you then there will be nothing to worry about. but hey you gotta get rid of it some time! so why not now
jenny
2006-09-18 22:35:08 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋