How and when did you realize you were supposed to be alone?

Question

Simple question, share your stories of how you know you were supposed to (or it would be best) to go the rest of your life without a relationship.

Personally (my story) I will have been single for 4 years and 4 months on the 25th of this month, and though all the time I had thought I was forsaken or something, I finally realized that (in my own mind) it is stupid to want a relationship with someone, its no different from finding the one person you would argue with the rest of your life, and of course (if there is no pre-nub and you are in a joint custody state) you would probably (55% chance) give half your stuff away to. I finally figured out what a waste of time relationships are, I've accomplished my own feats and done the impossible many times, I would not have been able to do so if I was with someone, due to the massive amount of time your other requires. My ex friends have all cried over lost girls, I haven't for years. And this is how I knew it was better for me to be alone.

I guess my only regrets were actually believing there was someone for everyone, as well as actually dating my only ex-girlfriend.

Share your story.

Smiles, decent answer but I think you missed the point completely. And no, I don't want another realtionship, it would be stupid for me to think otherwise.

Answer 1

I think I'm destined to be single too. My ex beat the sh!t out of me. I was w/him for 5 years. Don't think I can trust again. I'm such a loving person too. Oh well!

Answer 2

I dont know that I would want to be alone forever or if we as humans were made to be alone forever but I do know that I knew that it was time to be alone when the only kinds of people I end up getting involved with where abusers. When coming home or seeing that person all of sudden brought a deep depression onto my broken spirit. When trust was always an issue. When I started to believe that relationships were mainly for having someone to argue with for the rest of your life. I could go on but these are a few of when I knew it was time to be alone. Now I can work on my korks and take time to heal from these crapy relationships that have left my spirit hurt.
Sounds like you need to heal too but you are chosing to repress all your painful experiences from your past relationships. Go ahead and cry, then move on to the next phase. NO, not another bad relationship, the next part of healing. That is getting back to you. Get connected to you. Nuture yourself for a minute and heal. People are always in a hurry to get back into new relationships and in the process keep getting beat up (mentally or emotionally and some physcaly). We are the first to be the abuser to ourselves by not taking time to replace that broken heart within ourselves. Good luck on your recovery.

Answer 3

You come into this world alone......and exit this world alone. You have to be prepared to live in this world alone. Many people have no clue. You must like who you are. "Life's a box of chocolates.....you never know what you are going to get".....Forrest Gump.