Why do I get jealous when my boyfriend of five years gets on myspace and talks to all of his girl-friends when he gets home at one or two in the morning? Whydo you think he still talks to a girl that we have agreed not to talk to. He cheated on me (kind of) with her. he actually was never caught but there where bad feelings. Just trust me when i say i wasn't stupid to stay with him, it's complicated. but you be the judge now.
2006-09-18 14:59:29 · 29 answers · asked by carefulbutcuriouskitty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok the cheating, he was flirting with her major and they worked together for two years, when we were first dating five years ago, then he partied with her and said he woke up in the same room as her.... I am an idiot. nevermind I never said that out loud now i see that I need this to stop and I think I need the myspace to stop also..... thanks guys sorry i'm so confused and babbling.. It's hard to keep a straight thought when your having revelations!
2006-09-18 15:07:50 · update #1
You're a woman
Dont worry hes only talking to minors
2006-09-18 15:00:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have every right to be jealous sweetie....its hard to trust again specially if that trust has been breached.
" Let share you my story...i have this girlfriend for 2 years w/c i really loved.... a very jealous type.She's 27 then. & i have this friend..we became friends before i met my girlfriend.Am sincere & a very friendly person...( no wonder my friends like me so much...am serious ).She became my closest friend very close that it comes to the point that people thought we were lovers but were not.And as years gone by am beginning to like her..i know she likes me too.I still like her though...& she always knew it no doubt i can see it in her eyes. Until now we still remain best friend We just remain a very close friends tell now.
Maybe your guy still likes this gurl...How many times did he cheated on anyway..?If more than twice...your being a martyr sweetie...
Trust your instinct sweetie..she won't fail you..believe me.Best of luck.
2006-09-18 22:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by james ian h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is perfectly natural to be jealous of someone of the opposite sex who has a relationship with your boyfriend, even of five years. I have been with my boyfriend for five years(he is 10 yrs older than I) and he gets very jealous of me, and I seriously give him no reason to be, I dont talk to other guys, I dont go out with my friends anymore all I do is work and go to school. But enough of me, now it is you just trying to show you that it is not only you out there who feels this way BELIEVE ME.
But I think that he shouldnt be talking to her, honestly what would be the reason for him to keep talking to her. If you felt bad feelings about the two dont ignore it because your gut feeling is placing you on alert and I would go with it if I were you. I can understand you staying with him it is very hard to drop a relationship of 5 years away. But I would try to talk to him and get to the bottom of this, obviuosly you are jealous for a reason. RIght!!! I mean if he wasnt giving you a reason to be jealous then you probably wouldnt be. Either that or you are obsesive girl! JK. Talk to him and try to figure out what you want to do because living this way is not cool either for both you and him
2006-09-18 22:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by gm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't stay with anyone who isn't faithful to me.
I guess it depends on how YOU behave as well when you are on the internet. Do you talk to the same kind of people?
Can't have a relationship without trust, and it sounds like you are 100% right not to trust him. What is kind of cheating? Cheating is cheating, whether it's a kiss, sex, or just emotions.
2006-09-18 22:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by psycho_housewife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your decision will be based in part on the answers u get ? Interesting ...... Well quite simple if he would rather spent time on the computer talking to other girls (which u think he actually cheated with ) instead of with u and no matter what u do he will not change then dump him he should be spending time with u ...
2006-09-18 22:03:12 · answer #5 · answered by aaron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to feel the way you do. It is abit sly going online in the middle of the night, especially when you've spoken about a certain person. He is doing it behind your back in a way. Speak with him again or cut your losses now. He's choosing them over you!
2006-09-18 22:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are jealous because you know that he is not as committed to you as you are to him. You have made your decision to stay and you need to be happy with that (not that you cant change your mind if you want to) if you made an agreement then you need to let him know that you feel he is not respecting you by breaking it...be cool and calm when you bring it up, if you scream and shout, or worse nag he wont be listening he'll switch off.....if you are committed to staying are you making sure you are providing him with everything he needs to remain faithful or are you still punishing him for what he did...look to yourself first then talk and I mean TALK to him!
2006-09-18 22:03:26 · answer #7 · answered by Just Thinking 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,question is : why are you still there?How do you kind of cheat?Why would you want to be with someone that doesn't respect your feelings or won't live up to the agreement he made to you?Yeah i think you are stupid for staying.
2006-09-18 22:03:39 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because we're HUMAN. he makes u feel in-secured that's why you;re jealous. YOU NEED TO MOVE ON.. he didn't keep his word. If he knew that you were not comfortable about him speaking to girls.. he shouldn't continue doing it . save yourself the tears. if he truly loves you he would do anything to make you happy. if you continue to be with him he will continue to manipulate your emotions....and take you for a fool. don't let it happen. I've been there. don't waste you time constipating if he's cheating or not.. because u know he is.
2006-09-18 22:03:31 · answer #9 · answered by im_a_goofy_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes two people to be in a relationship. but it sounds like you are all over it and he is JUST there... you don't almost cheat ... he cheated it may not have been physical but it was in his heart... or was it lust either way he will do this again and the staying out late honey wake up and smell the coffee..
2006-09-18 22:03:06 · answer #10 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not faithful that your relationship is solid. The back of your mind is full of doubt, and possibly your heart. Talk in through, tell him you feel like your relationship could be stronger. If he doesnt want to work on it, leave him. You deserve the best, like all women.
2006-09-18 22:02:39 · answer #11 · answered by chrissyprivate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋