Is this normal? I am trying to be as faithful as possible, but sometimes I find myself sort of attracted to other guys. Most days I am thrilled to marry my fiance, but then there are those days when I am at school and I wish I wasn't "bogged down" by a fiance and I could hang out with other guys. Can I overcome this and go ahead with my marriage?
2006-09-18 14:55:08 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am in college, not high school.
2006-09-18 14:59:03 · update #1
Take it from me hunnie - i think that feeling never goes away - but just learn to control yourself and everything will be fine!
2006-09-18 14:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by bridgey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should push away the tempation that's being presented. If you really love your fiance, you should be happy in the thought of marrying him. I think it's normal to yearn for free time, in which you can go out and hang with friends. Perhaps that's what you need right now, just some time to be without him! Just because your getting married doesn't mean you always have to be with that person!
2006-09-18 14:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by The Muppet Fairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are totally not ready. Are we talking high school, or college? You know you are really in love when you can't even remember how long you have been together. Time just flies by. You will seriously regret not hanging out with those other guys once you finally do get married, and it isn't at all fair to your fiance.
2006-09-18 14:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by psycho_housewife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Are we talking high school or college? Either way, Dear, sounds as if you are having some doubts. There is a big difference between occasional cold feet before marriage and a lack of true commitment. Make sure you know the difference and how YOU truly feel before taking that giant step, okay. If it is true love, you will know
2006-09-18 15:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by kathy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly normal, you are a person first and foremost you are not expected to be 100% sure all the time, however if you are questioning whether you can remain faithful them maybe you are not ready for the monogamous commitment that marriage requires and only you will know, remember its OK to look just not touch!
2006-09-18 14:59:08 · answer #5 · answered by Just Thinking 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
feeling "bogged down" is hard to overcome--fast forward a few years and picture yourself with a baby or two, doing your millionth load of laundry and looking forward to nothing more than going to bed, to SLEEP, at the earliest moment. Marriage is SUPER HARD...and you have a long time to be married once you are married. Think carefully, and listen to your heart. REALLY LISTEN!
2006-09-18 15:04:00 · answer #6 · answered by monchichi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still in school and engaged it is probably pretty normal. You are young and not everybody else at school is tied down like that and they can do whatever they want. Plus I think in any engagement both parties at some point wonder whether they are really ready. I am also in school and getting married and I sometimes wonder if I am ready for it. And whether my feelings are normal.
2006-09-18 14:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by sweetm12004 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that you are not ready for marriage. In one statement you wish you wasn`t bogged down told the truth. Remember this when in doubt check it out! Go ahead and get your degree from college instead of havining babies, diapers, housework,cooking, and a heck of alot more chores.and then no time to even go to a movie....LOL
2006-09-18 15:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by Carol H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's the rush? sounds like you need more time to just hang out and enjoy life being single (but taken). I never understood why people get married during or immediately after college, you have your whole life to play husband and wife, go out with friends, make laughter and memories, start a careers establish yourselves in life then if all is still their get married, if not move on to new pastures
2006-09-18 15:03:51 · answer #9 · answered by mohvictor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be certain that marriage is what you want, and that you don't want to be with other guys, you can be friends with other guys as long as your fiance trust you for not flirting with them. But if you're having doubts about marriage, I wouldn't suggest getting married, because marriage is a life time commitment, it isn't a christmas present, where you like what you get then you get tired of it and you don't want it. you can't do that in a marriage. So you have to think about it.
In my opinion, when you're marrying someone, you shouldn't have thoughts about being tied down, when you're marrying someone, you'd really want to be with the person you're married to, and not think about it as "tied down". I'm in school, and I'm married, I always think about wanting to be with my husband when he's not around me.
2006-09-18 14:58:47 · answer #10 · answered by superboredom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can overcome with this. I am going through this right now except I am married. It only occurs though when I am mad at him or he is not paying me any attention. Then I start to think about other men. But it is very normal to be attracted to other guys I mean who is not. Nobody is perfect I know my fiance is attracted to other women sometimes but I know he comes home to the sweet one.
2006-09-18 14:58:41 · answer #11 · answered by sweetlee725 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋