People at school ask me sometimes why i am so quiet. Most of the time i reply "i don't really have much to say" or something like that. I can't really think of much to talk about with people my age. Most of the time i just like sitting and listening to other people talk because i literally have nothing to say. I think some people think i am snoby or crazy or something because people just ignore me in some of my classes.
What is wrong with me? Do i have a social disability or something? Or some type of illness? I don't think i am just "shy" because i have no problem talking i just can't think of anything to say or i don't feel like saying anything.
2006-09-18 14:46:32 · 22 answers · asked by TT M 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
hey, if you don't want to talk then don't and don't worry about what others think. There doesn't seem to be anything wrong with you. However if people start thinking your weird cause you never talk then it wouldn't hurt to say a few words every now and then.
2006-09-18 14:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by angie_adie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though you are wise beyond your years. Don't let anyone convince you otherwise. This talent/tendency will serve you quite well in your adult life.
Regardless of what your peers actions are, they and you are still absorbing and processing the world, and the more observant you are, the more you learn. I wish I had known someone like you in school. I was a quiet and shy teenager also. Sometimes I would wonder if that was normal. My mom used to try and reassure me that I would have fun in college. Of course, I did not believe her, thought she was just trying to cheer me up. Guess what? I had a great time in college, and was less flighty and irresponsible as many of the others. The traits you describe are such worthy traits to have later on, don't lose them, and don't worry about "normal vs abnormal". If you are "not average" it is because you are better than average.
2006-09-18 21:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by finaldx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im kinda like you. I love to listen and be in groups and hear what people have to say, but I would rather just be quiet and not say anything. And it does slightly bother me also. So I try to talk when I am in social settings and afterwords I end up feeling better about myself. I think we are natural introverts with a mild case of low self esteem. But practice talking in groups and little by little you'll feel better. Overall just be yourself, we were not make to be the life of the party, we were just made to attend it.
2006-09-18 22:05:24 · answer #3 · answered by as9119 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah it's nothing wrong with u ..... it happens to a lot of ppl it's like today u have something to say and ppl think wow he's kool and the next day umm depending of the mood u might feel not interested on what they r talking or u just don't wanna talk ..... u'll have your days for talking so save your best for last ..... o and btw don't worry too much about this u don't have a social disability and about the "shy" part umm if u r it's kool
2006-09-19 14:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by ChErRy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anything's wrong with you....I think you're smart and you must be observing things from their conversations because you say you like to listen.....That's exactly what I do...and when I do talk, rarely, they say that it was actually a smart thing....and not just something random like a lot of people do. being quiet is a good thing to do........especially while you're observing....so just keep doing what you do and feel the intellegence come to you....
2006-09-18 21:55:23 · answer #5 · answered by lil_kim_lil_ak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares! at least you are not like me that talks ALL THE TIME. everyone's ears off. I am the queen of 20 questions... and i dont mean to. It's like shopping. I can't help it. :) If you like to stay quiet, that is who you are. You know if you felt like you needed to say something you should say it. It is then that there is a problem.... if you want to and don't. but if you just have nothing to say.. so be it!!! :) there are plenty of people like me to fill the gaps. but in a relationship it might be hard... good luck to you XOXOXO
2006-09-18 21:52:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sometimes the biggest mouth in the house looks best closed. you have no big problem, I was same way, told a guy once, no one will ever accuse you of being stupid until you open your head to others. if you want to beat everyone at talking, take speech training. if class mates are talking in the same manner as they wright, you are likely bored stiff with their trash speech. hang in there your IQ is possibly higher than most
2006-09-18 21:58:35 · answer #7 · answered by whodad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey don't feel bad, I catch a lot of sh*t too cuz I also don't have much to say. I've been called shy, antisocial, mean, ect. I just tell people thats just me and I'll speak when I have something to say. So let people think what they think and just keep being you.
2006-09-18 21:56:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No nothing is wtong with you because you listen rather than talk. Some people have the gift of gab and some people have the diability of too much gab. But one thing for sure, you learn more with your mouth closed than you do with it running :)
2006-09-18 21:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by Carpe Diem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be social anxiety. I have it too, only worse. But yeah, I feel most of the time particularly around"new" peope, that I just do not know what to say
2006-09-18 21:50:51 · answer #10 · answered by alissae02690 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋