I have a wonderful boyfriend that I have been with for almost a year now. We are happy and looking at buying a house at the beginning of the year. And I do love him but I'm still asking myself if I am truly in-love with him. I would do anything for him! and he is my best friend. My problem is my ex. We were together off and on for 4 years and through that time he lost both his Grandmother and Mother and started not being himself. Long story short-I was cheated on, lied to and hurt so badly I thought I'd never get past it all. We still talk but lately it's been a lot deeper and he even told me today that he is falling in love with me again more and more and that he has changed and he has found himself and ready to be with who made him happy. I'm so confused and unsure of what to do....? I was tempted to go hang out with him at his house and I know nothing would have happened sexually but I was too worried my confusion would get even worse..pls help
2006-09-18 14:43:56 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think u should put everything on hold before someone gets hurt ... spend a few weeks deciding what u want ..
2006-09-18 14:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by aaron 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, dont by the house together! Combining financial obligations w/ someone your not sure about is a bad move. Truth? Your not in love with your current boyfriend! He is what you described..your best friend (who you happen to be intimate with). Second, guys and girls cant truly be friends UNLESS one of the 3 are true. 1. The two of you have already had sex at one time 2. He's gay and doesn't like women 3. The two of you have been friends for so long that a relationship would be weird. Anyway, don't you think a relationship with your ex is unfair to your current boyfriend? I think you are recieving some type of emotional stability or excitement that your current boyfriend isn't giving you. Truth! Your ex wants to sleep with you and your a fool to fall for it. He's changed? Thats PLAYA 101...cheaters and liars NEVER change! Bottom line, be honest with yourself. Your not confused, but indecisive! Make a decision and stick to it otherwise you will waist your boyfriends time and yours (months). Sorry for being so forward, but its the truth.
2006-09-18 15:21:29 · answer #2 · answered by SASAUN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider it this way...your ex is an an ex for a reason. It's time to move on and enjoy the man you're with now. Because whatever you had with your ex is your pass and why revisit that again. Sure he probably has changed but you found someone else you don't have to worry about cheating on you. If you get back with your ex that'll what you'll do worry about him cheating again, lying again and that's something you don't want.
2006-09-18 14:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has cheated once, he would probably do it again. I would move on with your new guy. Its good to live with a guy for a little while to see how he really lives. As far as your ex, I would just stop talking to him all the time, not completely, but just for a little while. It sounds like you are just feeling sorry for the guy and you care for him a lot, but that doesn't mean that you still love him.
2006-09-18 14:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by mommyaf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay away from the ex. Also you are not being fair to your current boyfriend if you aren't sure how strong your feelings for him are and you are still looking in to buying a house with him. Slow down until you sort your feelings out.
2006-09-18 14:50:28 · answer #5 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are not being honest with your self... You are not that happy with your current Boyfriend.. Or you would not have any questions as to the EX... Do your self and your current boy friend a favor... Cut the EX.. Or leave the NOW boyfriend... You are only going to hurt someone and your self in this 3 ring circle.....
2006-09-18 14:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by levita45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself "who do I see myself growing old with"
The boyfriend is being the "nice guy" here. But at the same time your "ex" is telling you he loves you. That's a tough decision. If you truly love one of these guys you wont have to wait long to answer your own question. Your heart will tell you what to do.
2006-09-18 14:49:22 · answer #7 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is very complicated.....i think he is just jealus because u found a new guy...i wouldnt risk your new relationship for an old cheating unfaithfull boyf. that u dont know if he is gonna do it again or not hat i am trying to really say is follow your heart
2006-09-18 14:48:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta be kidding,forget the jerk and move on with your life,don't be a fool again.You can't replace his mother or grandmother.Do you want a man or a grown baby?
2006-09-18 14:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT GO BACK TO THE EX!!!!!
I've heard it said too many times to not believe it, "once a cheater, always a cheater".
2006-09-18 14:47:30 · answer #10 · answered by Frogodo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋