My ex boyfriend and I remained friends because he said he didn't want to lose my friendship. We havn't hung out in ages. We've been broken up more than two months. Recently he said he wanted to be with me. Now today 2-3weeks later we are chatting and I ask what he has been up to, he writes a list, out with friends, etc and included dating in the list. Is that to make me jealous? If we are friends why don't we hang out? If we arn't going to hang, i rather lose contact with him. It's too painful to only talk to him once in a while to only interact three sentences in msn.
2006-09-18 14:43:36 · 18 answers · asked by coolchick 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
should i tell him i don't want to be his friend anymore if your answer is to lose him
2006-09-18 14:46:39 · update #1
Forget him. If it is painful to YOU, that is all that matters
2006-09-18 14:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by alissae02690 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is good to for ex-lovers to remain friends because after all you have build that relationship before and it will be really hard to just forget about the person especially if it has been generally a good one.Being friends is also a sign that both of you have accepted the outcome of your relationship and mature enough to understand it. As i see, you are still inlove with him. Yes, it is hard to let go of the feeings first. Sometimes we have learn to let go of the person BUT the feeling is still there. It takes time sis, really, If it helps that you'd rather not see him or talk to him for a while then tell him. Especially now you found out that he started to date, you might as well move on and enjoy. It is not bad to hope that you guys remained friends for the idea that you will still end up together because that is definitely possible. BUT just consider that this may not be the right time for both of you. Consider your age, your situation. Pray hard..the right onewill just come.wait patiently. God bless
2006-09-18 21:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by justurangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's painful let it go. i don't think he's including dating to bother you, you asked what he's been doing and he told you. now if he would have given details then it would have been to upset you. it's probably hard for him too. and he may not put alot of effort into hanging out because he hasn't quite figured out how to handle the situation yet. it hasn't been that long since you broke up so try to realize tht it will take a little time to feel the situation out. now you say you never hang out. how frequently do you try to contact him to talk and hang out? remember communication is a two way street, if you want to do something say so.
2006-09-18 21:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by adman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't "have" him, so you can't get rid of something you don't have.
If it is too painful for you to talk to him, then don't. Just break it off clean. Maybe he can't be "hangin' friends" because of your past relationship. Talk to him about it. If he wants to just stay on the fringes of your life, let him be a fringe and move on as if he weren't there at all.
He will get the picture and either try to be a closer friend, so you can "hang", or he will also move on. You have absolutely nothing to lose by talking to him and telling him how you feel.
2006-09-18 21:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So he gone to have another experience with someone. He may be trying to impress you that he got so many friends and was not alone. He also may be trying to convince you that you were in my heart and thoughts all along and have the best feelings for you.
Only you can read his mind and no one. Read between lines when he talks and you will be able to read his mind. Good luck
2006-09-18 21:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by Rammohan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like he is trying to make you jealous but you just need to let it go and dont even worry bout him. cuz if he does not wont to spend time with you as friends and have a real conversation then i personally think that you should get rid of him because why waste your time on him (halla at cho girl)
2006-09-18 21:51:18 · answer #6 · answered by Drina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes playing with your feelings and i think from your words you want to go back with him here . just lay it on the line with him . either you two are getting back together or staying just friends and be sure to let him know your wishes on this point then balls in his court . if he says stay friends then let him hang alone with his posse for a while and move on with yours
2006-09-18 21:52:08 · answer #7 · answered by sigmond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your handle is mis col, chick then why are you so woried about this moronn and why are you even inviting him baxck into your life again hons?? have felings for him hons?/ ask your elf is he the one ?? am i in love with him again, theres something you are seeinng in this old flame thou why?? the way your talking he just walks back in out of your life like a godam swinging door!! you say lose contact with this moronn!!! and he says he fident want too lose your friendship right is he doing the big bang with you in bed hons?? and thenm breaking up again like a swiging door!! girl wake this moronn is using you, big time get real here, sit downe with him, and say look, its over with ive had it with this godam swinging door i need some stablity in my life iam hitting the highway its over- get out iam done!! and hit that lonely highway of life hons!!
2006-09-18 21:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you still feel the pain that you and your ex don't hang, that means you still have feelings for him. I think you should just not talk to him at all anymore.
2006-09-18 21:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by superboredom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is just stringing you along in case one of his other relationships do not work out. I think you should move on and not be available to him when he feels like contacting you.
2006-09-18 21:45:11 · answer #10 · answered by Robin N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think he considers you as a friend only, and i mean not a very close one to hang out with
2006-09-18 21:48:24 · answer #11 · answered by malaarti 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋