So I like this guy, and I thought he liked me. We've gone to the movies, held hands and kissed. We flirt too. He also asked me to Homecoming, and it seemed like he liked me. He calls me a lot, hugs me a lot and we always talk at school and in between classes. He made it seem like he liked me. But then he filled out this survey thing for me, and on one of the questions it asked what do you see me as: friend, boyfriend/girlfriend, friends with benefits, and he marked friends with benefits. I don't understand! If he only wants to hook up with me, then why would he act like he likes me and wants to go out with me? I really like him,and want him to like me too. Is he just a jerk or what?
2006-09-18 14:39:56 · 17 answers · asked by Heather 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont really think he's a jerk.
I just think he's unsure about wheather or not
he is your boyfriend or something else.
Cuz in reality, you guys ARE really friends with benefits.
So.. by him writing that..
I think, he was giving you a clue
that he wants to be more than just friends.
2006-09-18 14:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you need to find out id if he has been doing these things holding hands, kissing with any other girls, if he has recently, then yeah he's probably just messing around with you,
If he is not doing this with anybody else then, He could be just a little on the shy side, or he doiesn't feel that you guys' hav progressed enough to become boyfriend/girlfriend.
Atleast he didn't mark you as friend,
The thing you need to find out is if there are any other girls that he is doing this with, If there is not, You just need to tell him how you feel, tell him when he filled out that survey that it pissed you off because you want to be his girlfriend,
He will have no choice but to give you na answer then.
This is coming from a 27 year old guy
2006-09-18 21:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by the d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha wow i am totally have the same problem. he might just have trouble with comitiment and if he does then its not worth likeing him and tryin to start a relationship that wont last. Just try not thinking about it and see what happens. He may turn out to really like you in the future but right now he is either not interested enough or just not mature. Give him time and dont rush him. The "benifits" makes me think though... i think you should make it harder for him. I know you really like him but why would he want a relationship if he can get it all without any comitient ya know? I guess kinda play hard to get... but in a flirty way.
2006-09-18 21:45:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is just a straight up jerk. The reason he acts like he likes you is so that you'll trust him, fall for him, and probably have sex with him. I know you may really like this guy, but it sounds like the only thing he want's is for you to be a friend that would sleep with him, or just fool around, or whatever...so that he doesn't have to actually go and FIND someone, when he feels the need to have a "physical" relation.
I hate to say it, but this guy sounds like he's only in it for the physical stuff.
Till next time,
Raven
2006-09-18 21:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a jerk. I don't understand either if he is calling you and asking you to do things together. Maybe you should just forget him. Or maybe talk to him about it. But I would just forget him and that will be testing him. If he bothers you alot then he likes you but you would talk to him about why you backed off. I don't know if this helps. Good luck.
2006-09-18 21:47:06 · answer #5 · answered by biochick11220 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that was his answer he's a jerk. i have to be honest, you'd be shocked at what some guys are willing to do just to sleep with a girl once. they say anything, and act like they love you or like you, whatever. then as soon as you star sleeping together things change and they get distant. i've had friends that do it. kinda sad but it happens. sorry!
2006-09-18 21:44:04 · answer #6 · answered by adman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heather
this guy is a creep and is only being nice to you so you can sleep with him since he circled friends with benefits he wants to use you for sex and then move on so be smart GF and let this creep go !!
2006-09-18 21:42:19 · answer #7 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in that situation last year. a guy i liked a lot told me he liked me a lot too and he knew i liked him. we kissed, held hands,etc... he said that he would date me but he had to go to military school over the summer and didn't want to leave me behind... well he never went to that school and he just TRIED to get in my pants.
hes an asshole ditch him or something.
2006-09-18 21:48:57 · answer #8 · answered by playful_kitty_003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big mistake on his part to let you know his true intentions. I agree with Shelle. Dump this guy and find someone who really cares for you.
2006-09-18 21:45:36 · answer #9 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a jerk! don't waste your time with him!
confront him and ask him whether he's really into you as a friend with benefits!
2006-09-18 21:50:08 · answer #10 · answered by immortality1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋